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Isinyathelo 77: "Uma ufuna ushintsho empilweni yakho, lindela ukwehluleka isikhashana"
Izintaba ezingama-88 zabantu abajabule
Kulesi sahluko se- «Izinyathelo ezingama-88 zabantu abajabule» ngikumema ukuthi ube seduze kwenhloso yakho ungapheli emzameni
Le yindaba kaJoseph, indodana yaseCanada egawula izigodo futhi engumzukulu wabagawuli, nendodana yakhe uPhilip. Ngelinye ilanga, lapho uPhilip ezwa ukuthi usekhule ngokwanele, wacela kuyise imvume yokugawula isihlahla sakhe sokuqala. Waya ehlathini yedwa futhi ntambama wafika ekhaya ekhungathekile. “Baba, angikulungele ukugawula izihlahla,” emtshela.
“Ngemuva kokushaya isibhaxu esikhulu ngembazo yami, lesi sihlahla asizange sikhubeke. Yonke leyo mizamo ibingasizi ngalutho, ”ebabaza eyincithakalo. Ubaba wamlalelisisa elandisa okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kokuqala njengomuntu ogawula izihlahla futhi wamkhuthaza ukuba ahlanganyele naye ngokudumala kwakhe, ukuze lokhu kuzomsiza ukuthi aveze ukukhungatheka kwakhe. Lapho ekhipha lonke usizi lwakhe, ubaba wakhe wambuza imibuzo emibili: wawunzima kangakanani ugodo nokuthi uvule izembe ezingaki. Ngemuva kokulalela impendulo yendodana, lawa ngamazwi ayo: «Sawubona Filiphu, kukho konke ongitshela khona nangolwazi lwami, ngingaphetha ngokuthi leso sihlahla sigawulwe yizembe eliphakathi kuka-90 no-100. Futhi unikeze abangama-70. Umzamo wakho awuzange ukhokhe nje kuphela, kepha empeleni, ubusalele amanye ama-hacks ambalwa ekufezeni inhloso yakho. Ukufunda okwenzile ukuthi uma isihlahla singawi, kungenxa yokuthi izimbazo azisebenzi. Kepha okulungile okuphambene nalokhu: lapho izimbazo zibonakala zingenamsebenzi ngokwengeziwe, isihlahla sisondela kakhulu ekuweni. Inkinga kwaba ukuthi, uyeke ngokushesha kakhulu. Yini ebekuyisithiyo kuwe ukufeza inhloso yakho? Ukulangazelela kwakho ukukufeza.
Kuthathwe izifundo ezintathu kule ndaba. Owokuqala ngothi: njalo uma ufuna ukufaka ushintsho olusha empilweni yakho, lindela ukwehluleka isikhashana, kepha qonda ukuthi umzamo ngamunye owehlulekile, kude nokwehluleka, kukusondeza isinyathelo esisodwa kufinyelela kumgomo wakho. Okwesibili ukuthi, wazi ukuthi akuwona umzamo, kodwa iqoqo lemizamo, ungazikhulula kwingcindezi yokufuna imiphumela esheshayo. Uvele ugxile ekuthatheni i-chop elandelayo, uzikhumbuze ukuthi i-chop eyodwa eyodwa izohlale isho ukuthi unesinyathelo esisodwa esisele. Futhi okwesithathu ukwethemba nokuqonda.
Ukuzethemba kuvela ekwazini ukuthi ukugqekeza, noma ungaboni ukuwa kwesihlahla, kuyindlela efanele ukuthi iwe. Ukuqonda kuqhamuka ngokwazi ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho ukushaywa kungawisi phansi isihlahla, kungenxa yokuthi bekungeyena owokugcina ochungechungeni ukusiwisa.
Ngabe wena nomlingani wakho senikhulumisana iminyaka engamashumi amabili kanti namuhla nizibophezele ngokungaphinde nikwenze? Qonda ukuthi iminyaka engamashumi amabili isihlahla esiwugqinsi kakhulu ongasigawula, nokuthi uzokwehluleka izikhathi ezingamashumi amathathu noma amashumi amane ngaphambi kokuthi uqede unomphela umkhuba wakudala wenze isihlahla sakho siwe. Kepha futhi uqonde ukuthi ngakunye kwalokhu kwehluleka kuwukushaywa kwezembe okuthi, kude nokukususa kude nenhloso yakho, kukusondeze kulo.
Ngabe uthembisile ukuthi ngeke uhloniphe umuntu osebenza naye noma ilungu lomndeni futhi namuhla usunakho? Mamatheka. Ususondele usuku olulodwa ekufezeni inhloso yakho futhi kunciphe izembe elilodwa ukugawula umuthi wakho.
Ngabe ubukade uzihlola ngokwakho kahlanu ngaphandle kokukwazi ukulawula iBlack Bag yakho futhi ufuna ukuphetha ngokuthi ukuzihlola kweSinyathelo 10 akusizi ngalutho? Sebenzisa umugqa olandelayo…
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