Ingabe kulungile ukuhlukumeza izingane «ngaphandle kwezinhloso ezinhle», noma ingabe kuyizaba zokudabuka komuntu siqu? Ingabe ukuhlukunyezwa kwabazali kuzokwenza ingane ibe "umuntu" noma izokhubaza ingqondo? Imibuzo enzima futhi ngezinye izikhathi engakhululekile. Kodwa badinga ukusethwa.
"Imfundo iwumthelela ohlelekile ekukhuleni kwengqondo nomzimba wezingane, ukwakheka komlingiswa wabo wokuziphatha ngokufaka kuzo imithetho edingekayo yokuziphatha" (isichazamazwi esichazayo se-TF Efremova).
Ngaphambi kokuhlangana noyise, kwakukhona "iminithi". Futhi isikhathi ngasinye le «minithi» yathatha ngokuhlukile: konke kuncike ukuthi usheshe wabhema ugwayi. Ngaphambi kokuba aye kuvulandi, ubaba wamema indodana yakhe eneminyaka engu-XNUMX ukuba izodlala umdlalo. Empeleni sebeyidlala mihla namalanga kusukela umfundi webanga lokuqala eqale wanikezwa umsebenzi wesikole. Umdlalo wawunemithetho eminingana: ngesikhathi esabelwe ubaba, kufanele uqedele umsebenzi, awukwazi ukwenqaba umdlalo, futhi, okuthakazelisayo kakhulu, ohluliwe uthola isijeziso somzimba.
U-Vitya wazama ukugxila ekuxazululeni inkinga yezibalo, kodwa imicabango yokuthi yisiphi isijeziso esimlindele namuhla yayihlala imphazamisa. "Cishe isigamu somzuzu sesidlulile kusukela ubaba eya kuvulandi, okusho ukuthi kunesikhathi sokuxazulula lesi sibonelo ngaphambi kokuba aqede ukubhema," uVitya wacabanga futhi wabheka emuva emnyango. Kwadlula enye ingxenye yomzuzu, kodwa umfana akakwazanga ukuqoqa imicabango yakhe. Izolo ube nenhlanhla yokuthi wehle nezimpama ezimbalwa ekhanda. "Izibalo eziyisiphukuphuku," uVitya wacabanga futhi wacabanga ukuthi kungaba kuhle kangakanani uma engekho.
Kwadlula eminye imizuzwana engamashumi amabili ngaphambi kokuba ubaba asondele ngokuthula ngemuva futhi, ebeka isandla sakhe ekhanda lendodana yakhe, waqala ukuyiphulula ngesineke nangothando, njengomzali onothando. Ngezwi elimnene, wabuza uViti omncane ukuthi isisombululo senkinga sesilungile, futhi, njengokungathi uyazi impendulo kusengaphambili, wamisa isandla sakhe ngemuva kwekhanda lakhe. Umfana wabubula ngokuthi isikhathi sincane kakhulu, futhi umsebenzi wawunzima kakhulu. Ngemva kwalokho, amehlo kayise aphenduka igazi, futhi wacindezela izinwele zendodana yakhe.
UVitya wayazi ukuthi kwakuzokwenzekani ngokulandelayo, futhi waqala ukumemeza: “Baba, baba, musa! Ngizonquma konke, ngicela ungakwenzi»
Kodwa lezi zicelo zavusa inzondo kuphela, futhi ubaba wajabula naye, ukuthi wayenamandla okushaya indodana yakhe ngekhanda encwadini yokufunda. Kwaphinda futhi, kwaze kwaqala ukugobhoza igazi. “Isihlakaniphi engathi ngeke ube ndodana yami,” esho enqamula ikhanda lengane. Umfana, ngezinyembezi ayezama ukuzifihla kuyise, waqala wabamba amaconsi anegazi emakhaleni akhe ngezintende zakhe, ewela phezu kwencwadi yokufunda. Igazi laliwuphawu lokuthi umdlalo usuphelile namuhla futhi uVitya wayefunde isifundo sakhe.
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Le ndaba ngiyixoxelwe umngane wami engangimazi cishe impilo yami yonke. Manje usebenza njengodokotela futhi ukhumbula iminyaka yakhe yobuntwana ngokumomotheka. Uthi ngaleso sikhathi, ebuntwaneni, kwadingeka adlule uhlobo oluthile lwesikole sokusinda. Alupheli usuku uyise engamshayi. Ngaleso sikhathi lo mzali wayeseneminyaka eminingi engasebenzi futhi uyena owayephethe umuzi. Imisebenzi yakhe yayihlanganisa nokukhulisa indodana yakhe.
Umama wayesemsebenzini kusukela ekuseni kuze kube kusihlwa futhi, ebona imihuzuko emzimbeni wendodana yakhe, wakhetha ukungayibheki njengebalulekile kuyo.
Isayensi iyazi ukuthi ingane ebuntwaneni obungajabulisi inezinkumbulo zokuqala kusukela cishe eminyakeni emibili nengxenye ubudala. Ubaba womngane wami waqala ukungishaya eminyakeni yokuqala, ngoba wayeqiniseka ukuthi amadoda kufanele akhuliswe ngobuhlungu nokuhlupheka, kusukela ebuntwaneni ukuthanda ubuhlungu njengoswidi. Umngane wami wakhumbula ngokucacile okokuqala lapho uyise eqala ukuthukuthela umoya weqhawe kuye: Vitya wayengekho ngisho neminyaka emithathu ubudala.
Esevulandi ubaba wabona indlela asondela ngayo ezinganeni ezazibasa umlilo egcekeni, washo ngezwi eliqinile wathi akagoduke. Ngezwi, uVitya waqaphela ukuthi kukhona okubi okuzokwenzeka, futhi wazama ukukhuphuka izitebhisi kancane ngangokunokwenzeka. Lapho umfana esondela emnyango wendlu yakhe, wavuleka kungazelelwe, futhi isandla sikababa esinolaka sambamba embundwini.
Njengonodoli we-rag, ngokunyakaza okukodwa okusheshayo nokunamandla, umzali waphonsa ingane yakhe ephasishi lefulethi, lapho yena, engenaso isikhathi sokuvuka phansi, wabekwa ngenkani kuzo zonke ezine. Ubaba wakhulula ngokushesha iqolo lendodana yakhe ejakhethini nasejezini layo. Ekhipha ibhande lakhe lesikhumba, waqala washaya emhlane wengane encane yaze yababomvu bhuqe. Ingane yakhala yabiza unina, kodwa ngesizathu esithile yanquma ukungaphumi ekamelweni elilandelayo.
Isazi sefilosofi esidumile saseSwitzerland uJean-Jacques Rousseau sathi: “Ukuhlupheka kuyinto yokuqala umntwana okumelwe ayifunde, yilokhu okuyodingeka kakhulu akwazi. Ophefumulayo nocabangayo kumele akhale.” Ngivumelana noRousseau ngokwengxenye.
Ubuhlungu buyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila komuntu, futhi kufanele bube khona endleleni yokukhula, kodwa buhambisane nothando lwabazali.
Lowo uVita wayeshoda kakhulu. Izingane ezazizwa uthando lokuzidela lwabazali bazo ebuntwaneni zikhula zibe abantu abajabulayo. U-Vitya wakhula engakwazi ukuthanda nokuzwelana nabanye. Ukushaywa njalo nokululazwa kukayise nokuntula isivikelo kumashiqela kunina kwamenza wazizwa enesizungu kuphela. Lapho uthola okuningi ngokungelutho, kuyancipha izimfanelo zomuntu ezihlala kuwe, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uyeka ububele, uthando, futhi unamathele kwabanye.
“Ngishiywe ngokuphelele ekukhulisweni kukababa, ngaphandle kothando futhi ngaphandle kwenhlonipho, ngashesha ukufa, ngingakusoli. Kwakusengamiswa, othile wayezoyeka ukuhlupheka kwami kungekudala, kodwa nsuku zonke ngangikholelwa kukho kancane kancane. Sengijwayele ukuthotshiswa.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngabona: kancane kancane ngincenga ubaba, ngokushesha uyayeka ukungishaya. Uma ngingakwazi ukunqanda ubuhlungu, ngizovele ngifunde ukukujabulela. Ubaba waphoqeleka ukuba aphile ngokuvumelana nomthetho wezilwane, ezithoba ekwesabeni nasekuphileni kwemvelo nganoma iyiphi indlela. Wangenza inja yesekisi, eyazi ngeso lokuthi izoshaywa nini. Ngendlela, inqubo eyinhloko yokukhuliswa yayibonakala ingembi kakhulu futhi ibuhlungu uma iqhathaniswa nalezo zimo lapho ubaba efika ekhaya edakwa kakhulu. Kulapho kwaqala khona ukwethuka kwangempela, ”kukhumbula uVitya.