Usuku olukhulu lusondela ngokushesha, igumbi liyapendiwa futhi lihlotshiswe, i-layette iyawashwa futhi isinqola siyathengwa… Ngamafuphi, konke sekumi ngomumo ukwamukela umntwana. Konke, empeleni? Futhi abazali? Ngabe bathathe amakilasi okulungiselela ukubeletha?

Uma lo mbono ubonakala ungenangqondo kuwe noma uma ungakuboni ukubaluleka kwawo, cabanga futhi, ukulungiselela ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba ukubeletha kubalulekile ukwamukela umntwana ngangokunokwenzeka. Nazi izizathu eziningana ezinhle zokuthi ungeqiwa lesi sinyathelo.

Ungabuza umbelethisi yonke imibuzo yakho

Ufunde zonke izincwadi zokunakekela izingane ezikhona emakethe, kepha kunezimpendulo ongazitholile. Okubi kakhulu, unemibuzo kodwa ungalinge uyibuze. Kumele kushiwo ukuthi ukubuza umakhelwane wakho noma umamezala wakho ngezindaba ezithinta inhliziyo kuyithuba elingakuthokozisi ...

« Ayikho imibuzo engasile ! », Bajwayele ukusho ababelethisi. Futhi kungaphakathi nokulungiselela ukubeletha lapho ungazibeka khona. ” Kusebenza kanjani uma ngifuna ukuya endlini yangasese? Ingabe kufanele ngiwakhise umugqa wami we-bikini? Wazi nini ukuthi uye nini ewadini labakhulelwe? »… Uma nje ungakabuzanga yonke imibuzo efika engqondweni yakho, ungavumi ukuhamba. Awulokothi ukhulume ngakho eqenjini? Ngabe uzitshela ukuthi mhlawumbe kukhona umama ongakujabulela ukuthi ukhulume ...

Uzoqina ngokwengeziwe ngesikhathi sokubeletha

Masingahambi ngezindlela ezine: yebo, ukubeletha kubuhlungu. Ukukhipha isidalwa esiphilayo emathunjini ayo kuhilela ubuncane bobuhlungu. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kwakamuva akufani kubo bonke futhi kuhluka kakhulu kusuka kowesifazane oyedwa kuya komunye. Abanye abantu bangazizwa bekhathazekile ngokuthi umntwana angadlula kuleyo ndlela encane kangaka.

Yingakho nje ukulungiswa kokubeletha kukhona: akusalwesabi usuku lwe-D. Umbelethisi ukhona ukuze akuqinise, ngikubonise ukuthi ingane izothatha muphi umzila emzimbeni wakho ngesikhathi sokubeletha. Uzokuchazela nokuthi izinhlungu zilawulwa kanjani, nokuthi isibulala-zinzwa sisisebenzisa kanjani lesi sifo esidumile, ngenaliti eyaziwa ngokuthi yinde kangaka. Ngamafuphi, konke kwenziwa ukuze ube nokuthula ngosuku lokudiliva.

Ukweluleka ngokuphathwa kobuhlungu

Ubuhlungu abunakugwemeka ngesikhathi sokubeletha. Kepha, izindaba ezinhle, kuyaphathwa! Kunamathuba amaningi okunciphisa, noma ungafuni i-anesthesia. I-acupuncture, amafutha abalulekile, ama-massage, i-homeopathy… Konke kuzokwethulwa ngesikhathi sokulungiselela futhi uzobona ukuthi ukukhetha kubanzi!

Umbelethisi uzophinde akubonise indlela yokulawula ukuphefumula kwakho ngokuvumelana nokufinyela, okumele ukuthathe ukuze kukukhulule noma ukusheshisa ukusikwa. Ibhaluni, ubhavu namabha amisiwe ngeke kukugcinele izimfihlo! Ukulungiswa kwangempela komzimba okufanele umdlali wezinga eliphezulu. Futhi ngesizathu esizwakalayo, kubonakala sengathi ukuzala kudinga amandla namandla amaningi njengokugijima ibanga elide.

Vumela ubaba ukuthi athole indawo yakhe

Engcupheni yokuba yisidala, kuze kube namuhla, kuthatha isidoda ukuba nomntwana. Ukolweni kukababa, ukuthunywa kwesinye isikhathi kugcina ekukhulelweni futhi, lapho ehlala nomama, ubheka kakhulu okwenzekayo esibelethweni sakhe.

Ngenhlanhla, Ukulungiselela ukubeletha kumnika ithuba lokuba ngumlingisi ekubelethweni. Uzokwazi ukufunda ukusiza umama ukuthi alawule ubuhlungu, ikakhulukazi ngokumbhucunga. Sizomchazela, isibonelo, ukuthi angakhipha kanjani umntwana ngomzuzu wokugcina nombelethisi (uma lokho kungenzeka) nokuthi ungayinqamula kanjani intambo (akunangozi, ayilimazi ingane!). Impela uzokwaziswa ngokuthwala ipotimende labakhulelwe kanye nesidingo sokushayela ngokuqapha nokuguquguquka. Ngamafuphi, uzodlala indawo yakhe yobaba.

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