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Umfanekiso wemizimba yethu yindlela esiwubona ngayo. Lo mqondo awubandakanyi nje ukubonakala kwawo, esiwahlulela esibukweni, kodwa futhi nezinkolelo nemicabango yethu ngomzimba, kanye nemizwelo ngawo kanye nezenzo esizenzayo kuwo. Ngeshwa, ukusakazwa kwemidiya yesimanje kanye nesiko elikhulu kuye kwasusa ukugxila endleleni esizizwa ngayo emizimbeni yethu kwaya kulokho ebukeka ngayo.

Thina besifazane singaphansi kwengcindezi eyengeziwe yokuba nesithombe esikahle. Kusukela sisebancane, sichayeka emphakathini. Ukwengeza, siyaqiniseka ukuthi enye yezinzuzo eziyinhloko zesifazane ubuhle. Lo mlayezo wenziwa ikakhulukazi ngamantombazane nabesifazane. Abafana nabesilisa banconywa kakhulu ngezimpumelelo zabo kanye nobuntu babo.

Ngokuthola ukunconywa nokudumisa ngokuyinhloko ngobuhle, sifundisa amantombazane nabesifazane abasebasha ukuthi ukubukeka kubaluleke kakhulu kunezinye izici. Lokhu kuhlobana kuvame ukuholela ekuhlobaniseni ukuzethemba kwethu nendlela esibukeka ngayo nendlela abanye abantu abahlulela ngayo ukubukeka kwethu. Lokhu kuyisenzakalo esiyingozi ngoba lapho singakwazi ukuphila ngokuvumelana nesimiso esihle sobuhle, ngokuvamile sizizwa singelutho, okuholela ekwehliseni ukuzethemba.

Izibalo aziguquki futhi zithi cishe u-90% wabesifazane abayamukeli imizimba yabo

Ukunganeliseki ngendlela umuntu abukeka ngayo kucishe kube umqedazwe kulezi zinsuku. Ngeshwa, isivele ithinta izingane, inamandla ikakhulukazi kubantu abasha, kodwa ayigodli abantu abadala kanye nasebekhulile. Ekuphishekeleni umzimba ophelele, sisebenzisa amaqhinga ahlukahlukene ukuze isibuko nabanye abantu ekugcineni babone ubuhle bethu.

Ngezinye izikhathi siwela ogibeni lomjikelezo ononya wokulahlekelwa isisindo nokukhuluphala. Sijima ngokucijile ukuze sithole umzimba omodelayo futhi ozacile. Senza ukwelashwa kobuhle ukuze sihlangabezane nobuhle obuhle esibuthwele emakhanda ethu. Uma sehluleka, kuzalwa ukungavunyelwa nokuzigxeka.

Konke lokhu kuyasiphazamisa ekwakheni ubuhlobo obuhle kakhulu nemizimba yethu. Ukuze senze lokhu, kufanele siqale sicabangele ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani ukuba sibe negative.

"Ukhuluphala" - ngokusho kwezazi ze-anthropologists kuwukuncoma okukhulu kakhulu kwabesifazane baseFiji

Engxenyeni yethu yomhlaba, la mazwi asho ukwehluleka futhi awafiseleki kakhulu. Ekhulwini elidlule, ukuba khona kwemizimba ethambile eziqhingini zaseFiji kwakungokwemvelo. “Yidla ukhuluphale” - yile ndlela izivakashi ezamukelwa ngayo esidlweni sakusihlwa futhi kwakuyisiko ukudla kahle. Ngakho imifanekiso yezakhamuzi zaseziqhingini zaseNingizimu Pacific yayimikhulu futhi mikhulu. Lolu hlobo lomzimba lwaluwuphawu lwengcebo, ukuchuma nempilo. Ukulahlekelwa isisindo kwakubhekwa njengesimo esiphazamisayo nesingathandeki.

Konke kwashintsha lapho ithelevishini, eyayingekho ngaphambili, yethulwa esiqhingini esikhulu saseFiji - iViti Levu. Amantombazane amancane angalandela isiphetho samaqhawekazi ochungechunge lwaseMelika: "Melrose Place" kanye "Beverly Hills 90210". Into ekhathazayo yaphawulwa entsheni eminyakeni embalwa ngemva kwalolu shintsho. Selinyukile isibalo samantombazane anenkinga yokudla okungakaze kubikwe eFiji ngaphambilini. Amantombazane amancane ayengasaphuphi ngokubukeka njengonina noma omalumekazi bawo, kodwa amaqhawekazi azacile ochungechunge lwaseMelika.

Sahlelwa kanjani ukuba sithatheke ngobuhle?

Ingabe indaba yeziqhingi zaseFiji ezingavamile ayifani nalokho okwenzeka futhi okwenzeka emhlabeni wonke? Ukuthatheka ngomzimba omncane kuqhutshwa isiko nemithombo yezindaba egxile kakhulu ekubukekeni kwabesifazane kunobuntu babo. Abantu abaphoxa abantu besifazane ngenxa yokubukeka kwemizimba yabo, kodwa nalabo abancoma amantombazane nabesifazane kuphela ngobuhle babo, bafaka isandla kulokhu.

Okuhle komzimba wesifazane kudalwe kusiko lwe-pop. Emaphephandabeni, kumabonakude noma ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ezidumile, umuntu omncane omncane ufana nobuhle kanye nemodeli okufanele siyilwele. Umhlaba wokuqina, isiko lokudla, kanye nebhizinisi lobuhle kusasiqinisekisa ukuthi asibukeki kahle ngokwanele, sihola imali ngokuphishekela okuhle.

Abesifazane basebenza ezweni lapho kungekho ukuphunyuka esibukweni. Lapho beyibuka, abaneliseki kangako ngalokho abakubona kuyo. Ukunganeliseki ngokubukeka komuntu kubonakala njengengxenye ehlala njalo yobunikazi bomuntu wesifazane. Ososayensi baqambe igama elichaza le nkinga: ukunganeliseki okujwayelekile.

Ucwaningo lubonise umehluko ekuboneni komzimba phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane. Lapho bebuzwa ngemizimba yabo, amadoda ayibona ngokugcwele, hhayi njengeqoqo lezakhi ngazinye. Banaka kakhulu amandla emizimba yabo kunokubukeka kwayo. Abesifazane bacabanga kancane ngemizimba yabo, bayihlukanise ibe yizicucu, bese beyihlola futhi bayigxeke.

Inkolo edlangile yabantu abancane, ekhuliswa abezindaba, ibhebhezela ukunganeliseki kwabesifazane ngemizimba yabo. I-85 - 90% yokuhlinzwa kwepulasitiki kanye nezinkinga zokudla emhlabeni wonke kuhilela abesifazane, hhayi amadoda. I-canons yobuhle iyimodeli engafinyeleleki kwabesifazane abaningi, kodwa abanye bethu bakulungele ukuzidela okuningi nokuzidela ukuze bazivumelanise nabo. Uma uhlala uphupha ngomzimba ophelele, ngeke wamukele lo onawo.

Kuyini ukuzigxeka, futhi kungani kulimaza?

Zicabange uzibuka esibukweni. Kuyo, uhlola ukuthi i-silhouette yakho ibukeka kanjani. Ukuthi izinwele zihlelwe ngendlela othanda ngayo. Ugqoke kahle. Ukuzigxeka ukuthi uma usuka esibukweni ngokwenyama, kuhlala emicabangweni yakho. Ingxenye yokuqaphela kwakho ihlale iqapha futhi iqondise indlela obukeka ngayo ngokombono wabanye abantu.

Uma uthintwa yile nkinga, awuwedwa. Ngeshwa, abesifazane abaningi bahlushwa yi-self-objective engapheli, okuba yisici sobuntu esivela ezimweni ezihlukahlukene. Khona-ke wonke umzuzu phakathi kwabantu uwuhlobo lomncintiswano wobuhle, lapho amandla engqondo asetshenziselwa ukuqapha ukubukeka komzimba. Lapho abantu abaningi abakuzungezile bekhathalela kakhulu ukubukeka kwakho, yilapho uba nengcindezi eyengeziwe futhi maningi amathuba okuba ufane.

Ukuzibekela eceleni kungaba yingozi futhi kubi ebuchosheni. Ucwaningo oluningi luye lwabonisa ukuthi lapho ingxenye enkulu yokwazi kwethu igxile ekucabangeni ukuthi sibukeka kanjani, kuba nzima ngathi ukugxila emisebenzini enengqondo edinga ukunakwa.

Ocwaningweni "I-swimsuit iba nguwe" - "uzizwa kahle kule suti yokugeza" - sona kanye isenzo sokuzama ngabesifazane sinciphise imiphumela esivivinyweni sezibalo. Olunye ucwaningo, iBody on my mind, lwathola ukuthi ukuzama ingubo yokubhukuda kuphoxa abesifazane abaningi futhi baqhubeka becabanga ngemizimba yabo isikhathi eside ngemva kokugqoka izingubo. Phakathi nocwaningo, akekho ngaphandle kwabahlanganyeli ababona imizimba yabo. Banele babukane esibukweni.

Inkundla yezokuxhumana kanye nokuqhathanisa imizimba yakho nabanye

Ucwaningo seluveze ukuthi abesifazane abachitha isikhathi esiningi ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, begxile ekubukekeni kwabanye besifazane, basemathubeni amaningi okuthi bacabange kabi ngabo. Lapho becabanga kanjalo, yilapho bezizwa benamahloni kakhulu ngomzimba wabo. Abantu abanezinga eliphezulu lokunganeliseki ngemizimba yabo benza ukuqhathanisa komphakathi kaningi.

Ukuthintana nezithombe ezinhle zabesifazane kwabezindaba kanye nesiko le-pop ngokuvamile kuholela ekwamukeleni lokhu kubukeka okuyisibonelo njengokuphela kwekhanoni elungile yobuhle. Indlela esebenzayo yokuncisha izithombe ezifanelekile zabesifazane kwabezindaba umthelela wabo ukukhawulela ukuchayeka kubo. Ngakho esikhundleni sokulwa negciwane lobuhle elingena emzimbeni, kungcono ungazibeki kulo.

Ukubhujiswa okungokomfanekiso - kuyisimo esiyingozi sokunganaki nokungafaki abantu abakhuluphele ngokweqile, abadala nabakhubazekile kwabezindaba. Emaphephandabeni besifazane, amamodeli namaqhawekazi ezindatshana ahlala ethintwa ngokuphelele. Khumbula ukuthi owesifazane omemezela isibikezelo sezulu ubukeka kanjani ku-TV. Ngokuvamile kuba intombazane ende, ezacile, esencane futhi enhle, egqoke ingubo egcizelela isimo sayo esihle.

Kunezibonelo ezengeziwe zokuba khona kwabesifazane abafanelekile kwabezindaba. Ngenhlanhla, lokhu kushintsha kancane ngenxa yokunyakaza komphakathi okufana nokuba nomzimba omuhle. Kwezentengiso, abesifazane abanemizimba ehlukene abebenganakwa ngaphambilini isiko le-pop baqashwa njengamamodeli. Isibonelo esihle salokhu ingoma ka-Ewa Farna "Umzimba", ekhuluma "ngokwamukela izinguquko emzimbeni esingenalo ithonya". Ividiyo ikhombisa abesifazane abanobumo obuhlukene kanye "nokungapheleli".

Kusukela ekuzifuneni kuye ekuzamukeleni

Ingabe kufanele ushintshe umzimba wakho ukuze ekugcineni uzizwe ulungile kuwo? Kwabanye, impendulo izoba ngokungananazi: yebo. Nokho, ungakha isithombe esihle somzimba wakho ngokushintsha izinkolelo zakho ngomzimba wakho ngaphandle kokuthuthukisa ukubukeka komzimba wakho. Kungenzeka ukwakha ubuhlobo obunobungane nomzimba wakho, naphezu kokungalungi okuningi onakho.

Ukuba nomzimba omuhle awukholelwa ukuthi umzimba wakho ubukeka umuhle, kodwa ukucabanga ukuthi umzimba wakho muhle kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubukeka kanjani.

Uma sikwazi ukuba nombono ohlukile wokuzibheka thina kanye nabanye abantu besifazane, ukulungisa kwethu ngokweqile ngendlela esibukeka ngayo kuzoncipha noma kunyamalale ngokuphelele. Sizoqala ukwazisa ukuthi singabantu abanjani, ngaphandle kokuzibheka njengezinto okufanele sizihlole.

Ucabangani ngomzimba wakho?

Ngikubuze lo mbuzo esithangamini ngesonto eledlule. Ngithanda ukubonga bonke abantu ngezimpendulo zabo 😊 Lombuzo awugxilile ekubukekeni kuphela. Naphezu kwalokhu, iqembu elikhulu le-Vitalijek ikakhulukazi libhala ngesithombe somzimba wabo. Abanye abantu babonise ukungeneliseki okunamandla ngendlela abaziveza ngayo, abanye, ngokuphambene nalokho - babezibheka njengabahle futhi bekhangayo - babonga izakhi zabo zofuzo ngesipho somzimba omuhle.

Ubhale nangenhlonipho yakho ngomzimba wakho nokwaneliseka ngalokho ongakwenza, naphezu kokubona amaphutha athile kuwe. Abaningi benu sebeyamukele imizimba yenu njengoba nikhula futhi bayekile ukuzihlupha ngokuphishekela okuhle. Ingxenye enkulu yabesifazane abakhulume ngayo ibhale ngomusa nokubekezela emizimbeni yabo. Ngakho-ke iningi lemibono yayimihle ngokwedlulele, okududuzayo futhi okubonisa ukuthi isimo sengqondo sesishintshile saba nokwamukela okwengeziwe.

Ngeshwa, izifo ezingalindelekile nokuguga nakho kuhlotshaniswa nomzimba. Thina esibhekene nalezi zinkinga siyazi ukuthi akuwona umsebenzi olula. Ubuhlungu, ukusabela okungajabulisi, ukuntuleka kokulawula umzimba wakho, ukungaqiniseki kwawo kungabangela ukukhathazeka okukhulu. Kwesinye isikhathi umzimba uba yisitha okungelula kakhulu ukubambisana naso. Ngeshwa, ayikho incwadi kadokotela esenziwe ngomumo futhi ayikho indlela yokubhekana nezikhathi lapho umzimba ugula futhi uhlupheka. Wonke umuntu osesimweni esinjalo ufunda indlela entsha emzimbeni ogulayo, odinga ukunakekelwa okukhethekile, ukubekezela namandla.

Isifundo sokubonga

Umzimba usisebenzela ngokwethembeka. Yimoto esithwalayo empilweni. Ukunciphisa indima yakhe kuphela ngendlela abukeka ngayo akulungile futhi akulungile. Ngezinye izikhathi imicabango emibi ngomzimba wakho iphakama ngokumelene nentando yethu. Khona-ke kuyafaneleka ukuthi ume isikhashana futhi ucabange, futhi kungcono kakhulu ukubhala phansi konke esikukweleta emizimbeni yethu.

Masingasekeli ingqondo ekugxekeni imizimba yethu. Masifunde isimo sengqondo esibonga umzimba ngalokho osenzela kona, singawugxeki ngendlela obukeka ngayo. Njalo kusihlwa, lapho siyolala, masibonge imizimba yethu ngakho konke esikwazile ukukwenza ngenxa yayo. Singenza uhlu lokubonga ephepheni futhi sibuyele kulo ngezikhathi lapho singacabangi kahle kakhulu ngemizimba yethu.

Isifinyezo

Umzimba - uyinhlanganisela yengqondo nomzimba odala umuntu ngamunye oyingqayizivele. Ngaphezu kokugxila nokuzindla ngomzimba wakho nokuthi ubukeka kanjani noma ongasenzela wona, ake sizibheke thina ngokwethu ngombono obanzi nakakhulu. Mina – akuwona umzimba wami kuphela kanye namakhono awo. Mina - lezi yizici zami ezihlukile, zomuntu ngamunye, ukuziphatha, izinzuzo, izinto engizithandayo kanye nezintandokazi. Kuyafaneleka ukunaka ingaphakathi lakho kaningi futhi ungagxili ekubukeni kuphela. Ngale ndlela, siyozazisa ezinye izimfanelo zethu futhi sakhe umuzwa onempilo wokubaluleka osekelwe kulokho esiyikho, hhayi indlela esibukeka ngayo. Kubonakala kusobala, kodwa esikhathini esigxile ku-physiognomy yomuntu, ukuzamukela kanye nokuba nobuhlobo obuhle nomunye nomunye kuyisifundo okufanele sisenze komunye nomunye wethu.