Amacala enziwe ababulali abalandelanayo ashaqisa izigidi zabantu. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uKatherine Ramsland sizamile ukuthola ukuthi omama bezigebengu bazizwa kanjani ngalobu bugebengu.
Abazali bababulali banemibono ehlukene ngalokho okwenziwa izingane zabo. Abaningi babo bethukile: abaqondi ukuthi ingane yabo ingaphenduka kanjani isilo. Kodwa abanye bayawaphika amaqiniso futhi bavikele izingane kuze kube sekugcineni.
Ngo-2013, uJoanna Dennehy wabulala amadoda amathathu wazama amanye amabili. Ngemuva kokuboshwa kwakhe, wavuma ukuthi wenza la macala ukuze "abone ukuthi wayenawo yini amandla okuwenza." Kusithombe ozishuthe sona esinemizimba yezisulu, u-Joanna ubukeke ejabule kakhulu.
Abazali bakaDennehy bathula iminyaka eminingana, kwaze kwaba yilapho unina uKathleen enquma ukuphumela obala ezintathelini: “Wabulala abantu, kimina akasekho. Akuyena uJoe wami lona." Esikhumbuzweni sikanina, wahlala eyintombazane enesizotha, ejabule futhi ezwela. Le ntombazane emnandi yashintsha kakhulu ebusheni bayo lapho iqala ukuthandana nendoda eyayikhulile kakhulu. Nokho, uKathleen akakwazanga ngisho nokucabanga ukuthi indodakazi yakhe izoba umbulali. “Umhlaba uzophepha uma uJoanna engekho kuwo,” evuma.
“UTed Bundy akakaze abulale abesifazane nezingane. Ukholo lwethu ngobumsulwa bukaTad alupheli futhi luyohlala lunjalo,” kusho uLouise Bundy etshela iNews Tribune, naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi indodana yakhe yayisiwavumile amacala amabili okubulala. ULouise utshele izintatheli ukuthi u-Ted "wayeyindodana engcono kakhulu emhlabeni, eqotho, enomthwalo wemfanelo futhi ebathanda kakhulu abafowethu nodadewethu."
Ngokusho kukamama, izisulu ngokwazo zinecala: zigcona indodana yakhe, kodwa izwela kakhulu
U-Louise wavuma ukuthi indodana yakhe yayingumbulali olandelanayo kuphela ngemva kokuba evunyelwe ukulalela i-tape yokuvuma kwakhe izono, kodwa noma kunjalo akazange amlahle. Ngemva kokuba indodana yakhe igwetshwe intambo, uLouise waqinisekisa ukuthi “uyohlala eyindodana yakhe ethandekayo phakade.”
Eboshwe ngonyaka odlule, u-Todd Kolchepp wacela ukubona umama wakhe ngaphambi kokusayina ukuvuma. Wamcela intethelelo futhi wamthethelela «uTodd othandekayo, owayehlakaniphe kakhulu futhi enomusa futhi ephanayo».
Ngokusho kukamama, izisulu ngokwazo zinecala: zigcona indodana yakhe, kodwa izwela kakhulu. Kubukeka sengathi usekhohliwe ukuthi naye uke wamsongela ngokumbulala. Umama kaColhepp uyenqaba ukubiza i-spade. Uphinda ukuthi konke kwenzeka ngenxa yokucasuka nokuthukuthela, futhi akabheki indodana yakhe njengombulali obulalayo, naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi amacala ayisikhombisa asevele afakazelwa futhi abaningi bayaphenywa.
Abazali abaningi bazama ukuthola isizathu esenza izingane zabo zibe izilo. Umama wombulali waseKansas uDennis Rader, ongakaze abanjwe eminyakeni engaphezu kwengu-30, akakhumbuli lutho olungavamile kusukela ebuntwaneni bakhe.
Abazali ngokuvamile ababoni lokho abantu bangaphandle abakubonayo. Umbulali we-serial uJeffrey Dahmer wayeyingane evamile, noma kusho umama wakhe. Kodwa othisha babembheka enamahloni futhi engajabule neze. Umama uyakuphikisa lokhu futhi uthi uGeoffrey wayengasithandi isikole, futhi ekhaya wayengabukeki ecindezelekile futhi enamahloni nhlobo.
Abanye omama babebona sengathi kukhona okungahambi kahle enganeni, kodwa bengazi ukuthi benzeni
Abanye omama, ngokuphambene nalokho, babenomuzwa wokuthi kukhona okungalungile ngengane, kodwa bengazi ukuthi benzeni. UDylan Roof, osanda kugwetshwa intambo ngecala lokubulala abantu abayisitshiyagalolunye esontweni leMethodist eSouth Carolina, uloku ethukuthele evezwa ngabezindaba ngamacala okucwasa.
Lapho unina kaDylan, u-Amy, ezwa ngalesi sigameko, waquleka. Ngemuva kokululama, ukhombise abaseshi ikhamera yendodana yakhe. Imemori khadi yayinezithombe eziningi zikaDylan nezikhali kanye nefulegi le-Confederate. Ezinkantolo ezivulekile, umama wacela intethelelo ngokungalivimbi icala.
Abanye omama baze bajikise ababulali bezingane emaphoyiseni. Ngesikhathi uGeoffrey Knobble ekhombisa umama wakhe i-video yokubulawa kowesilisa enqunu, akafunanga ukukholwa akubona. Kodwa eqaphela ukuthi indodana yakhe yayenze ubugebengu futhi ayizange izisole neze ngesenzo sayo, wasiza amaphoyisa ukuba athole futhi abophe uJeffrey aze afakaze ngokumelene naye.
Kungenzeka ukuthi ukusabela kwabazali ezindabeni zokuthi ingane yabo iyinunu kuncike emasikweni omkhaya nokuthi ubuhlobo phakathi kwabazali nezingane babuseduze kangakanani. Futhi lesi isihloko esithakazelisa kakhulu futhi esibanzi socwaningo.
Mayelana Nombhali: U-Katherine Ramsland unguprofesa wezengqondo eDeSalce University ePennsylvania.