Umhlangano ngamunye uvula iminyango yezwe elisha, inethiwekhi yokuxhumana ecebile ngamathuba amasha aphula isimiso futhi asenze sizizwe siphila ngokwesabekayo. Lesi siqeshana somphakathi lapho ukuhlangana okusinika khona ukufinyelela kugcwele izindawo ezintsha, ulwazi olusha, abantu abasha, ukuze sithi okuvusa ukuhlangana yikuhlangana uqobo. Ngakho-ke ingxenye enzima kakhulu ukuqala lo mbuthano omuhle. Thatha isinyathelo sokuqala, esinzima kakhulu bese uzivumela ukuthi uqondiswe yimisinga yokuhlangana. Ukuhlangana nabantu, ngakho-ke kufanele ngaphezu kwakho konke ufune futhi wenze izenzo zokukufeza lokho. Okunye kulula ngokumangalisayo.

Nazi izindlela eziyi-10 zokuthatha leso sinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekile sokuhlanganisa ukugeleza kokuthandana.

Prakthiza umdlalo. Iningi lemihlangano eholela ebunganini yenzeka endaweni yomphakathi njengeqembu labasebenzi, iqoqo lezinyunyana, iklabhu yebhola lezinyawo, noma amasethi amancane angakahleleki njengeqembu labavamile endaweni yokucima ukoma noma indawo yokudlela. abangani bephromoshini. Kodwa umkhuba womdlalo, i-fortiori uma uhlangene, usebenza ngendlela emangalisayo. Cabanga ngomdlalo ohambisana nezindinganiso zakho, okuthandayo, izimfanelo zakho noma ngokuphambene nomdlalo ongawazi nofuna ukuwuthola, bese uqala! Cela iseshini yamahhala, ukucwilisa umoya, bese uphinda eminye imidlalo uze uqiniseke ukuthi iyona efanele. Lesi sinyathelo sokwenza isinyathelo esinzima kakhulu, kodwa imivuzo iwufanele umzamo! Imihlangano eqinisekisiwe.

Thola uthando. Izinkanuko ziletha abantu ndawonye futhi bakhe imibuthano yomphakathi esebenzayo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ubuhlobo bomuntu siqu bubalulwa lapho, abantu bayagqama futhi ngezinye izikhathi bakhushulelwa ezingeni labangane. Uma ungenalo uthando, zinike isikhathi futhi uhlonze izifiso obulokhu wenqaba ukuzilalela.

Volunteer. Yini engaba ngcono kunokukwazi ukusiza abanye ube nokuhlangana okuhle? Ukuzinikela, ngaphezu kokukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakho, kukuvumela ukuthi wakhe izibopho eziqinile nabanye abantu ababelana ngokuzwela kwakho ngenxa yesizathu osikhethile. Ungavolontiya ngesinye sesikhathi sakho ukuze unakekele izinja endaweni yokukhosela futhi wabelane ngothando lwakho lwezilwane nabanye abantu, noma unikeze abantu abaswele ukudla futhi uhlangane nabantu ababuhlungu.

Qalisa amaphrojekthi. Ayisoze yahluleka! Ukwandisa ngokwemvelo isibalo samathuba okuthandana, okumele ukwenze nje ukucabanga futhi uqalise iphrojekthi eseduze nenhliziyo yakho. Kungaba iphrojekthi yomuntu siqu, njengokuhamba ngebhayisikili uzungeze i-France, ukuba uthisha we-yoga, noma iphrojekthi yobungcweti, njengokubhala incwadi. Ngokushesha uzodinga ukuhlangana nabantu ukuze uyithuthukise, uyenze yaziwe futhi uyiholele empumelelweni.

Bamba iqhaza emicimbini yamasiko. Imicimbi yamasiko efana nemikhosi yomculo, imibukiso ehleliwe, amathilomu efilosofi, izikhathi zakusihlwa zasetiyetha zingamathuba amahle okuhlangana nabantu, kodwa zifuna kakhulu mayelana nokuhlalisana kwabantu futhi ngeke zivumelane nezingeniso eziningi.

Zihlanganyele nabangane bakho kakhulu. Ukuhlangana okuningi kwezothando kungenzeka ngenxa yobungane obufanayo. Uqaphele ukuthi ukubona abangani bakho kuholela ekutheni uhlangane njalo nabanye abangani babo ngesikhathi sephathi, usuku lokuzalwa, ukuvakasha, umshado ... Ungayinaki le ndlela elula yokuhlangana nabantu abasha futhi ungalahlekelwa abangane bakho. usunayo!

Zibekele imigomo. Kwesinye isikhathi uphuthelwa ukuhlangana okuhle ngoba awulokothi usondele kubantu, awazi ukuthi uzothini kubo futhi wesaba ukwahlulelwa. Noma lolu hlobo lokuqomisana mancane amathuba okuthi luguquke lube ubudlelwano obuqinile, obuhlala njalo, kungaba yindlela elula yokuxoxa nabantu abasha. Uma uzizwa unamahloni kakhulu ukwenza lokhu, kutuswa ukuthi uzibekele imigomo emincane futhi wandise ubunzima njengoba uqeda impumelelo yakho. Isibonelo, phakathi nesonto elizayo, ziphoqelele ukuthi ucele ulwazi oluhlelekile kubadayisi bezitolo ongena kuzo. Bese ukhulisa ubunzima ngokuziphoqa ukuthi ukhulume nomuntu ongamazi emicimbini yamasiko, isibonelo.

Phila okuhlangenwe nakho okungavamile. Kuyaziwa ukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho okungavamile okuphawulwa amazinga aphezulu kakhulu emizwelo kuletha abantu ndawonye. Yenza uhlu lwezinto ezingajwayelekile obuhlale ufuna ukuzenza bese ukhetha oku-3 ozokwenza ezinyangeni eziyi-12 ezizayo. Kungaba ukuhamba ngepharashuthi, ukuya phesheya, ukugibela uhambo oluhle njengoSantiago de Compostela ...

Sebenza nabangani. Yeka ukubamba iqhaza esimeni esibi esikhungethe indawo yakho yokusebenza: nquma manje ukuhamba ekuseni ngenhloso eqinile yokunikeza ubungane bakho kubo bonke abantu abazobe besendleleni eya emsebenzini. Mahhala, ngaphandle kokulinda futhi ngendlela eqotho! Kujabulele usuku lonke futhi uzothola ukuthi singabahlomuli bokuqala balokho esikunikezayo. Ukuhlangana okuhle kuqinisekisiwe!

Yiba nelukuluku. Abantu abaningi kakhulu abanandaba nalokho abanakho phambi kwamehlo abo. Funa ukuqonda, ukumba, ukuthatha i-reflex ukubuza abanye ulwazi, imininingwane ngaphandle kokuba ingahlulelwa. Izingxoxo ezingahleliwe zihlanganisa ndawonye abantu abathanda izinto ezifanayo, izinkanuko ezifanayo kanye nezithakazelo ezifanayo! 

Lonke ucwaningo lwezibalo lukhombisa ukuthi iminyaka iyona ehluka kakhulu ekunqumeni ukuphola. Lapho ukhula, kulapho isimo sakho sengqondo sokuhlangana nabantu, ukusungula nokugcina ukuxhumana nabo, siyancipha. Ngokusobala isizathu salokhu ukwehla komkhuba wemisebenzi ehlangene, ukubhaliswa kwamaqembu, ukubamba iqhaza emicimbini nasemibuthanweni kanye nomphumela wokwehla kwezinga lokuhambela kwamalungu ala manethiwekhi.

Kuyiqiniso, nokho, ukuthi igama nenani labangane lihlala lizinzile kuze kube yiminyaka ethile (cishe 65). Lesi simo sibheka uhlobo oluthile lwe-inertia okusho ukuthi siyaqhubeka nokuqamba abangane abangasaboni nhlobo, noma nhlobo.

Ukufakwa njengombhangqwana, umshado kanye nokuzalwa kwengane yokuqala kuyizigaba eziwujuqu eziphawula ukwehla kokuhlalisana kwabantu kanye nokushoda kwamathuba okuhlangana nabantu. Imisebenzi eyenziwa nabangane kanye nezinga lokuphindaphindwa kwalokhu nakho kwehla kakhulu.  

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