"Kulungile ukuphupha ngekusasa elijabulisayo, kodwa kungcono uthathe isinyathelo ukuze ulidale"

"Kulungile ukuphupha ngekusasa elijabulisayo, kodwa kungcono uthathe isinyathelo ukuze ulidale"

Psychology

U-Andrés Pascual, umbhali we- «Positive Uncertainty» ubhale umhlahlandlela wokuthola uhlangothi oluhle lwalokho okungaziwa nemfihlo ukuze ukungavikeleki, isiphithiphithi kanye noshintsho kusebenzele wena.

Sekuyiminyaka silalela futhi sifundela ochwepheshe be-coaching ne-psychology bethi akufanele sigxile kokwedlule noma esikhathini esizayo kepha sigxile esikhathini samanje, manje nalokho esinakho okwamanje. Kodwa-ke, lokhu, ezikhathini eziningi, kudala ukungaqiniseki, lowo muzwa wokungazi ukuthi sikuthanda kancane kangakanani.

U-Andrés Pascual, umbhali wenoveli ophumelelayo nongumbhali wamanga futhi oyisikhulumi esihloniphekile onikeza izinkulumo futhi aqhube izingxoxo emhlabeni jikelele, unombono ohluke kakhulu… Kuye, ukungaqiniseki kungaba kuhle futhi ukugxila esikhathini esizayo yisinqumo esingcono kakhulu esingasiphuza . Kungani? Ngoba ikusasa esilifunayo lenziwa «ukunaka ngokuphelele

 izinketho ezingapheli zokuchuma esinikezwa zona manje.

“Siphila esikhathini sika ukungaqiniseki, isimo esingokwemvelo, esihlala njalo futhi, ngenhlanhla, futhi siyisimo esihle sokuchuma kwethu, uqobo kanye nangokubambisana ”, kufingqa u-Andrés Pascual. Yini inkinga-ke? Ukuthi imicabango yethu sivamise ukuyibonisa ku- izithombe eziyindida nezingezona ezangempela yokuthi ezethu kufanele zibe kanjani, esikhundleni sokunaka sonke isikhathi ngasinye sefilimu eshukumisayo usuku nosuku: khona. Kulungile ukuphupha ngekusasa elijabulisayo, kepha kungcono kakhulu ukuhlala uphapheme bese wenza okuthile ukuze ulidale.

Ungakubheka kanjani okuhle ekungaqiniseki

U-Andrés Pascual (@andrespascual_libros) uthi uma kuze kube manje besizwana kabi nokungaqiniseki, bekungenxa yokuthi bekungekho umhlahlandlela wokuchaza ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nakho futhi usiphathe ukuze kuzuze thina. Sizamile ukukuqeda noma ukukugwema, izimangalo ezimbili ezingenakwenzeka ngoba asikwazi ukwazi konke noma ukulawula yonke into…

Futhi yingakho umbhali we-«Ukungaqiniseki Okuhle: ejika ukungazethembi, izinxushunxushu futhi eshintsha waba yindlela eya empumelelweni» udale ibhukwana elincane elinamaphuzu amancane ukuthi ngeke zikwenze ubone ukungaqiniseki njengokuwusongo: «Ukungaqiniseki okuhle kuyindlela ekhombisa ukuthi singabuthuthukisa kanjani ubudlelwano bethu nokungavikeleki, isiphithiphithi kanye noshintsho, ukubamukela njengento ethile engokwemvelo bese sibenza indlela eya empumelelweni». Ukwenza lokhu, umbhali uphakamisa izinyathelo eziyisikhombisa ezisuselwa ezimfundisweni zothisha nososayensi bazo zonke izikhathi ezizosikhomba kule ndlela elula nephayona sibhekise kumuntu omusha obekezelela ukungaqiniseki, ngakho-ke, siqonde kumuntu omusha. ngaphezulu mahhala.

"Akusona isikhathi esikahle sokudala ikusasa lethu, nsuku zonke kuzoba nezindaba ezimbi, izincwadi ezivela ebhange, izinkinga… Nsuku zonke kuzoba khona ukungaqiniseki," kusho u-Andrés Pascual, manje “oyisipho” sakhe. "Ngiyethemba ukuthi izinyathelo eziyisikhombisa zokungaqiniseki okuhle zisiza abantu abaningi ukuba benze futhi bahambe kulo mhlaba ongaqinisekile."

Njengoba u-Andrés Pascual ephawula, sifuna ukuqiniseka, ukuhleleka, nokuvikeleka… kodwa Ukungaqiniseki Okuqondile Akukona ukuba nakho, kepha kungokuba: ukwazi ukuthi ukungavikeleki kuyisimo sethu semvelo, ukuba nenkululeko yokukhetha indlela efanele kunazo zonke yezimo, ukuba munye nomzuzu wamanje, ube enembile futhi unesibindi sokuqhubekela phambili futhi ujabulele umgwaqo. «Kusuka kule nguqulo yethu entsha, kusuka kulesi sidalwa esisha, ukuba khona ngokungeziwe».

Izinyathelo Eziyisikhombisa Zokungaqiniseki Okuqondile

Encwadini entsha ka-Andrés Pascual, unikeza okhiye ukuze ukungaqiniseki kube ngumngane wakho hhayi isitha sakho, futhi utshele ukuthi yimaphi amaphuzu ayisikhombisa okufanele awacabangele:

Khipha imikhuba emibi kuwe. Lapho siqeda izindlela zokuziphatha eziphakamisa ukungabekezelelani kokungaqiniseki, sishiya isikhala sezinguquko ezincane zekhwalithi ezizokwakha ubunikazi bethu obusha noma bezinkampani.

Chitha iziqiniseko zakho. Ngenxa yokuthi emhlabeni asikho isiqiniseko esisodwa esisiphoqa ukuba silandele imizila ebekiwe kusengaphambili, sikhululekile ukuqala eyethu indlela futhi sizibophezele kulezo zinhloso ezinikeza incazelo.

Shiya okwedlule. Njengoba yonke into iguquka njalo, kufanele sivumelane nezimo namathuba omzuzu wamanje, ngaphandle kokubambelela kokudlule okungekho futhi ngaphandle kokwesaba ukulahlekelwa okuthile endleleni.

Dala ikusasa lakho manje. Siphila enkathini yezinketho zokuchuma ezingapheli okufanele sikhethe ukuzinaka ngokugcwele manje, ngaphandle kokuzibekisela ikusasa esilakhayo ngesenzo sethu ngasinye.

Yehlisa umoya. Amaphrojekthi ethu aya phambili ngenethiwekhi engaqondakali kodwa esebenzayo lapho kufanele siphume khona sigcine ukuthula, ngaphandle kokuzama ukulawula konke nokugxila ekunciphiseni izinxushunxushu zethu zangaphakathi.

Thembela inkanyezi yakho. Ukwenza inhlanhla kufanele sisebenzise umuzwa, ngaphandle kokukhohlwa lelo thuba nemicimbi engalindelekile nayo idlala amakhadi abo, esizowabeka eceleni kwethu uma sibheja ngokweqile nakubantu.

Jabulela umgwaqo. Ukugcina isimo somdlandla, ukujabula noma ukwamukelwa kuyimfihlo yokubekezela ngaphandle kokuyeka noma ukufuna izindlela ezinqamulelayo, sizinikeze umzimba nomphefumulo noma ngabe ukungaqiniseki kusivimbela ekuboneni ukuphela komgwaqo.

"Uma ukhetha ukuhlala kulomhlaba, kufanele ukhokhe inani," kusho umlobi. Yiphi? Ukungaqiniseki. Ukwenza kube umlingani wethu, u-Andrés Pascual uphakamisa indlela eyakhiwe kusukela ekubonisweni kwezingqondo ezivelele kakhulu zoBuntu. Ngamafuphi, "Ukungaqiniseki Okuqondile" kusifundisa ukuthi:

Ukuthatha izinqumo ukwazisa isipiliyoni sethu, kepha ngaphandle kokuboshwa ngamaketanga embonweni wempilo noma wenkampani eguquka ngaso sonke isikhathi nemvelo.

Jabulela inzuzo ezisinikeza imininingwane nezibikezelo, ngaphandle kokusivimba ekufuneni ulwazi oluphelele.

Yeqa ukwesaba uye ekuzethembeni lapho kwenziwa amasu namasu amasha.

Dlala iqhinga elihle kakhulu ngengozi nethuba, ukudala amathuba empumelelo ngenkathi kuqinisekiswa isikhala esinempilo ngaphansi kwezinyawo zethu.

Sebenzisa imikhuba elula yansuku zonke elula lokho kuzosilungiselela ukubhekana ngempumelelo nezimo zokungaqiniseki okuphelele.