U-Carl Rogers wayekholelwa ukuthi imvelo yomuntu inomkhuba wokukhula nokukhula, njengoba nje nembewu yesitshalo inomkhuba wokukhula nokukhula. Okudingekayo ekukhuleni nasekuthuthukisweni kwamandla emvelo atholakala kumuntu ukudala izimo ezifanele kuphela.
“Njengoba nje isitshalo silwela ukuba isitshalo esinempilo, njengoba nje nembewu iqukethe isifiso sokuba isihlahla, kanjalo umuntu ushukunyiswa isifiso sokuba umuntu ophelele, ophelele, ozicabangela yena ngokwakhe”
“Enhliziyweni yomuntu isifiso soshintsho oluhle. Ekuxhumaneni okujulile nabantu ngesikhathi sokwelashwa kwengqondo, ngisho nalabo abanezifo ezinzima kakhulu, abaziphatha ngendlela ephambene kakhulu, imizwa yabo ibonakala idlulele kakhulu, ngifinyelele esiphethweni sokuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso. Lapho ngikwazi ukuqonda ngobuqili imizwa abayivezayo, ngibamukele njengabantu ngabanye, ngakwazi ukubona kubo ukuthambekela kokukhula ngendlela ekhethekile. Isiphi isiqondiso abathuthuka ngaso? Kakhulu ngendlela efanele, lesi siqondiso singachazwa ngala magama alandelayo: okuhle, okwakhayo, okuqondiswe ekuzalweni kwakho, ukuvuthwa, ukuhlalisana kwabantu” K. Rogers.
“Ngokuyisisekelo, isidalwa esiphilayo, 'isimo' somuntu osebenza ngokukhululeka, siyadala futhi sithembekile. Uma sikwazi ukukhulula umuntu ekuphenduleni kokuzivikela, ukuvula umbono wakhe kokubili ezinhlobonhlobo zezidingo zakhe kanye nezidingo zalabo abamzungezile kanye nomphakathi uwonke, singaqiniseka ukuthi izenzo zakhe ezilandelayo zizoba zinhle. , edala, imqhubekisela phambili. C. Rogers.
Isayensi iyibheka kanjani imibono ka-C. Rogers? — Ngokujulile. Izingane ezinempilo ngokuvamile zifuna ukwazi, nakuba kungekho bufakazi obubonisa ukuthi izingane zinokuthambekela okungokwemvelo kokuzithuthukisa. Kunalokho, ubufakazi bubonisa ukuthi izingane zikhula kuphela lapho abazali bazo bezikhulisa.