Okuqukethwe
Izimpawu ezimbalwa zabantu okufanele ukugweme ukuxhumana nabo, noma ngabe senineminyaka eyikhulu nazana.
Uke wazibamba ucabanga ukuthi abangani abaseduze ababonakali bejabule kakhulu ngempumelelo yakho, kodwa, ngokuphambene nalokho, banomona ngezimpumelelo zakho? Uma ucabanga ngakho, cishe uwususe ngokushesha lo mcabango kuwe. Ngakho-ke, kodwa nazana iminyaka eminingi - kusukela ekolishi noma esikoleni. Mhlawumbe nakhula ndawonye, nabhekana nokuningi ndawonye ... Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi ubungane kufanele bugcinwe.
1. Ngokomzwelo, bakusebenzisa njengesikhwama sokubhoboza.
Kuyadabukisa kodwa kuyiqiniso: laba “bangane” abakunaki - bamane bakusebenzisele ukujabulisa ukuzikhukhumeza kwabo. Basebenza kahle kakhulu kulokhu uma okuthile empilweni yakho kungahambi ngendlela obungathanda ngayo: uma wehluleka, kuba lula ukuthi bavuke ngezindleko zakho.
Futhi futhi kufanele uhlale ubakhipha emigodini yemizwa - ngemva kokuhlukana, ukudilizwa nokunye ukwehluleka; duduza, duduza, zincome, zikhuthaze, zibabaze. Futhi, yiqiniso, ngokushesha nje lapho bebuyela kokujwayelekile, awusadingeki.
Akudingeki ukuthi, uma wena ngokwakho uzizwa kabi, akekho ozihlupha ngawe kanjalo?
2. Kuhlale kunombango phakathi kwenu.
Ingabe wabelana nomngane wakho injabulo yakho yokumenyelwa emsebenzini osunesikhathi eside wawufisa? Qiniseka: ngaphandle kokukulalela, uzoqala ukukhuluma mayelana nokuthi naye, usezokhushulwa esikhundleni. Noma ezothola iholidi osekunesikhathi elindelwe. Noma qala ukungabaza ikhono lakho. Noma yini okufanele "ingabi yimbi" kunawe.
Futhi-ke, umuntu onjalo ngeke akusekele emizamweni yakho, aqinise ukuzethemba kwakho, ikakhulukazi uma ulwela imigomo efanayo. Umsebenzi wakhe ukukukhuba ukuze uqede ngokuphelele ukuzethemba kwakho. Ungadlali le midlalo, ngisho noma umazi umuntu kusukela ebuntwaneni.
3. Bakwenza unamathele ngokudlala ngobuthakathaka bakho.
Ngenxa yobudlelwano obuseduze, sonke siyazazi “izindawo ezibuhlungu” zabangane bethu, kodwa abantu abanobuthi kuphela abazivumelayo ukuthi basebenzise lokhu. Futhi uma unesibindi “sokuphuma emanetheni abo” futhi uhambe ohambweni lwamahhala, qiniseka ukuthi ukuhlambalaza, ukunyundela, nezinsongo kuzowela emva kwakho. Noma yini ezokubuyisela ebudlelwaneni obungenampilo.
Ngakho-ke kufanele ulungele iqiniso lokuthi ngeke kube lula ukuhlukana nabantu abanjalo. Kodwa kuyafaneleka – nakanjani uzothola abangani abasha abazokuphatha ngendlela ehlukile, bazokwazisa, bakuhloniphe futhi bakusekele.
Ungavumeli abanye bakulahle endleleni. Ungavumeli labo obizwa ngokuthi “abangane” bakho bakuphuce ukuzethemba kwakho. Ungazibandakanyi emqhudelwaneni oyinqaba kanye nokubangisana okungadingekile. Ungavumeli izintambo zidonswe futhi ziphathwe icala.
Zibeke wena, izintshisekelo zakho, amaphupho nezinhlelo zakho phambili. Yiba nesineke futhi ubheke abangani abasha - labo abazokwenza impilo yakho ibe ngcono.