Okuqukethwe
ungabuthuthukisa kanjani ubudlelwano bengane nobaba ongayizali
Ngokuvamile, ukuzama ukuthuthukisa ubuhlobo phakathi kwengane nomyeni omusha, omama bamane baxake isimo. Ukwenza kube lula ukuzivumelanisa nezimo, kubalulekile ukugwema izinto ezimbalwa. Uchwepheshe wethu uViktoria Meshcherina, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo eSikhungweni Sokwelashwa Komndeni Kwesistimu.
Mashi 11 2018
Iphutha 1. Ukufihla iqiniso
Izingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka emithathu zisheshe zijwayelane nabantu abasha futhi zikholelwa ngobuqotho: indoda eyabakhulisa ingubaba wangempela. Kodwa ukuthi akayena owomdabu akumele kube yimfihlo. Umuntu oseduze kufanele abike lokhu. Ngemva kokufunda ngephutha kubantu abangabazi noma ukuzwa ukuxabana phakathi kwabazali, ingane izozizwa ikhashelwe, ngoba inelungelo lokwazi ngomndeni wayo. Uma zitholwa ngokuzumayo, lezi zindaba zivusa ukusabela okunolaka futhi zibangele nokuwohloka kobudlelwano.
Ukuphila kwethu konke kungaphansi kwezingane: ngenxa yazo sithenga izinja, sizibekele iholide olwandle, sidela injabulo yomuntu siqu. Kuyofika umcabango wokubonisana nengane mayelana nokuthi ishade nawe - imxoshe. Ngisho noma lowo ozongenela izihlobo engumuntu olungile, umntwana uyoba nokwesaba ukuthi ngeke abe namandla kakhulu ekugcineni. Kunalokho, thembisa ukuthi uzokwenza konke ongakwenza ukuze ugcine ukuphila kwakho njengokujwayelekile. Kukhona abantu abanele emvelweni, kusukela kogogo kuya komakhelwane, ngubani nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ozobiza ingane ngokuthi "intandane empofu," ikusasa layo lifanelwe ukuhawukelwa, futhi lokhu kuzoqinisekisa kuphela ukwesaba kwezingane. Naka ingane yakho, uthi ibaluleke kakhulu kuwena.
Iphutha 3. Ukufuna ukuthi ubaba ongamzali abizwe ngobaba
Angeke kube khona ubaba wesibili wemvelo, lokhu esikhundleni sesimo sengqondo, futhi izingane ziyazizwa. Ukwethula indodana noma indodakazi yakho koyikhethile, imethule njengomngane noma umkhwenyana. Yena ngokwakhe kufanele aqaphele ukuthi angaba umngane, uthisha, umvikeli wendodana yakhe noma indodakazi yokutholwa, kodwa ngeke esikhundleni somzali. Uma uphoqeleka ukusebenzisa igama elithi "ubaba", kungabhubhisa ubuhlobo noma kuholele ezinkingeni ezingokwengqondo ezingathi sína: ukulahlekelwa ukuthembela kwabathandekayo, ukuhlukaniswa, ukukholelwa okungenamsebenzi.
Iphutha 4. Yamukela ukucasuka
Ngokuzithoba, umntwana uthemba ukuthi abazali bazophinde bahlangane, futhi bazozama ukuxosha "umfokazi": uzokhononda ngokuthi ucasukile, abonise ulaka. Umama kumele akubone lokhu: hlanganisa wonke umuntu, uchaze ukuthi bobabili bayathandeka kuye futhi akahlosile ukulahlekelwa muntu, nikeza ukuxoxa ngale nkinga. Mhlawumbe kunobunzima, kodwa ngokuvamile kuyiphupho elivumela umntwana ukuba adonsele ukunaka kuye. Kubalulekile ukuthi usingayise abe nesineke, angazami ukubeka imithetho, aziphindiselele, asebenzise isijeziso somzimba. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukushuba kwezinkanuko kuzokwehla.
Iphutha 5. Ukuzihlukanisa nobaba
Ungagcini ukuxhumana kwengane nobaba, khona-ke uzogcina umuzwa wobuqotho bomndeni. Kudingeka azi ukuthi naphezu kwesehlukaniso, bobabili abazali basamthanda.