Kodwa-ke, izizwe zethu zenkundla yezokuxhumana zinwebeka kakhulu futhi zifinyelela kude kunezizwe zasendulo. Amapulatifomu afana ne-Facebook ne-Instagram asivumela ukuthi sixhumane nabangane nomndeni emhlabeni jikelele. Endaweni elula, sibuka izingane zikhula, intsha iya emanyuvesi, imibhangqwana ishada futhi ihlukanisa - sibona zonke izenzakalo zokuphila ngaphandle kokuba khona ngokomzimba. Siqapha ukuthi abantu badlani, bagqokani, uma beya ku-yoga, mangaki amakhilomitha abagijimayo. Kusukela ezenzakalweni ezivamile kuye kwezibaluleke kakhulu, ukubuka kwethu kuhambisana nokuphila okuseduze kothile.
Inkundla yezokuxhumana ayigcini nje ngokunikeza umuzwa oduduzayo othi "laba ngabantu bami", kodwa futhi isikhuthaza ukuthi senze ukuxhumana okusha futhi sifinyelele kwezinye izizwe noma amaqembu omphakathi. Njengoba siqongelela abangane abengeziwe abanqamula izizwe ezikude nezethu, umuzwa wethu wokuba ngabangane uyakhula. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngaphezu kokuxoxa nabangani, singajoyina amaqembu avaliwe, sakhe imiphakathi namanethiwekhi njengezingcweti. Sinokufinyelela okusheshayo ezenzakalweni zamanje kanye nethuba lokuveza umbono wethu. Konke okuthunyelwe kuyithuba lokuxhumana nesizwe sethu, futhi noma yini, ukubeka amazwana, ukwabelana noma ukufunda kabusha kuthuthukisa umuzwa wethu wokusinda.
Kodwa akuyona yonke into enhle njengoba kubonakala ekuqaleni. Masibhekane nakho, ukusakazwa njalo kwezithombe kungabangela ukuqhathanisa, umona, ukudabuka, amahloni, nokunganeliseki ngalokho esiyikho nendlela esibukeka ngayo. Izihlungi namanye amathuluzi okuthuthukisa isithombe akhuphule igeyimu uma kuziwa ekwethuleni umhlaba kithi njengesithombe esihle esingasishiya sizizwe sicindezelwe.
Ungakha kanjani ubudlelwano obunempilo nezinkundla zokuxhumana?
Kubasebenzi be-yoga, inkundla yezokuxhumana iyithuba elihle kakhulu lokuzijwayeza i-Swadhyaya, i-niyama yesine ku-Yoga Sutras yasePatanjali. I-Svadhyaya ngokwezwi nezwi isho ukuthi "ukuzifundisa" futhi kuwumkhuba wokubheka ukuziphatha kwethu, izenzo, ukusabela, imikhuba nemizwelo ukuze sizuze ukuhlakanipha kokuthi singanciphisa kanjani ukuhlupheka futhi sibe namandla ngokwengeziwe ezimpilweni zethu.
Uma kuziwa ekusetshenzisweni kwenkundla yezokuxhumana, ungazinika amandla ngokunaka ukuthi izici zenkundla yezokuxhumana zithinta kanjani ubudlelwano bakho nomzimba wakho: kahle, kabi, noma ngokungathathi hlangothi.
Ukuze uqonde incazelo eyisisekelo yalobu budlelwano, ukuthi inkundla yezokuxhumana isithinta kanjani isithombe somzimba wakho kanye nesithombe sakho, kuzothatha imizuzu embalwa ukuzindla ngale mibuzo:
Impendulo yombuzo wokugcina ibaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uyifunde, njengoba inkhulumomphendvulwano yakho yangaphakathi inamandla amakhulu phezu kwesithombe sakho siqu, isithombe somzimba, nesimo sengqondo.
Khumbula ukubheka izimpendulo zale mibuzo ngaphandle kokwahlulela. Cabanga ngalokho okwavela kulo msebenzi omfushane wokuzifundela. Uma ubhekene nemicabango engenamandla, yinake, phefumula, futhi uzinikeze uzwelo. Cabangela isenzo esisodwa esincane ongasithatha mayelana nendlela osebenzisa ngayo izinkundla zokuxhumana. Isibonelo, ungakhawulela isikhathi esichithwa kuzo, uzikhiphe ohlwini lwama-hashtag noma amanye amakhasi.
Ukuzijwayeza Ubudlelwano Bezokuxhumana Obunempilo
Thola ibhalansi yezithombe oziphakela amehlo nengqondo yakho ngalo mkhuba wokuqeqeshwa kwe-yoga. Njengoba wenza lokhu, hlola ukuzifundela futhi unake ukuthi ukuzikhulumela kwakho namavayibhu ajwayelekile kuqhathaniseka kanjani nalokhu okubonakalayo uma uqhathanisa nenkundla yezokuxhumana:
Bona imidwebo, imidwebo, izithombe, neminye imisebenzi yobuciko ekhuthaza imizwa eyakhayo. Naka imibala, ukwakheka, neminye imininingwane emincane edonsa ukunaka kwakho. Yiziphi izimfanelo eziyingqayizivele ozijabulelayo kule misebenzi yobuciko? Uma ucezu lobuciko lujabulisa kakhulu iso lakho, cabanga ukulusebenzisa njengendawo yokuzindla. Kubheke kuqala ekuseni ngesikhathi esinikeziwe lapho uphinda amazwi, ukuhambisana nosuku, noma umthandazo.
Sebenzisa lo mkhuba kaningi ukulinganisela ukusebenzisa kwakho inkundla yezokuxhumana futhi uzibuyisele enkabeni uma uzizwa “ungaxhunyiwe” ngemva kokuskrola esiphakelini sakho sezindaba. Ungaphinda ugxile emvelweni noma kwezinye izinto ezingaphandle kwesikrini ezikulethela umuzwa wokugxila, ukuzola, nokubonga.
Bheka ukuzijwayeza ukuzifundela wena njalo ukubona amaphethini ekusebenziseni kwakho inkundla yezokuxhumana athatha amandla akho phezu kwempilo yakho. Uma isetshenziswa ngomoya wangempela wokuxhumana, inkundla yezokuxhumana iyithuluzi elimangalisayo lokuthuthukisa isidingo sethu semvelo somqondo wokuba ngabathile esixhumanisa nesidingo sethu esiyinhloko sobuntu. Okwake kwaba yisizwe noma isigodi manje sekuyifomethi ye-inthanethi yabantu abanomqondo ofanayo.