Okuqukethwe
Umphefumulo uyacula, inhliziyo iyadangala… Futhi kwenzekani ebuchosheni bomuntu osothandweni? Izinguquko eziyisikhombisa ezingenzeka kuphela uma sazi ukuthi lolu uthando.
Siyalutheka
Uthando alubizwa ngokuthi umuthi walutho. Lapho sisothandweni, izindawo ezifanayo ebuchosheni bethu zisebenza njengalapho sesiluthwe yizidakamizwa. Sizizwa sijabule futhi sifisa ukuzwa lezi zindaba ngokuphindaphindiwe. Ngomqondo othile, umuntu osothandweni cishe uyisigqila sezidakamizwa, nokho, akafaki impilo yakhe engozini, kunalokho okuphambene.
Asizicabangeli thina, kodwa “thina”
Esikhundleni sokukhuluma nokucabanga "mina", siqala ukukhuluma futhi sicabange "thina". Uyini umehluko? Ucwaningo lwakamuva luveze ukuthi labo abasebenzisa isabizwana esithi “mina”, “wami”, “mina” kaningi bathambekele ekucindezelekeni kunalabo abajwayele ukusebenzisa isabizwana esithi “thina” kanye “wethu” - okufakazela futhi ukuthi. uthando Ubudlelwano buthuthukisa impilo.
Siya ngokuya sihlakanipha
Uthando luhle ku-psyche. Abathandi bahlangabezana namazinga anda e-dopamine, i-hormone ehlotshaniswa nenjabulo, isifiso, kanye nenjabulo. Ubudlelwano kumbhangqwana bunomthelela empilweni ende, ukuhlakanipha kanye nempilo enhle yengqondo.
Sizimisele kakhulu ukweseka abanye
Ukwethemba nokwesekwa kubaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni, futhi ingqondo yethu isilungele ukusisiza ngayo yonke indlela. Ucwaningo lwe-MRI lubonisa ukuthi lapho sisothandweni, umsebenzi we-lobes yangaphambili, enesibopho, ikakhulukazi, ukwahlulela nokugxeka, uyancipha, futhi mancane amathuba okuba sigxeke noma singabaze abantu ababalulekile kithi.
Asicindezelwe kangako
Ingqondo yethu ayikhohlwa imizwa evela ekuthinteni kokuqala kothandekayo. Iqiniso elimangalisayo: uma sibamba isandla somlingani wethu nje, siyamvikela ekucindezelekeni, kwehlisa umfutho wegazi futhi kunciphisa ubuhlungu.
Isikhungo senjabulo ebuchosheni siyakhazimula ngokoqobo
Ngemva kokutadisha ukusabela kobuchopho babantu abavuma “uthando oluhlanyayo” komunye nomunye, ososayensi bathola ukuthi umsebenzi “wesikhungo sokuzijabulisa” salowo nalowo wabo wakhula kakhulu lapho bebona ... isithombe sesithandwa. Futhi endaweni ehambisana nokuphendula ukucindezeleka, umsebenzi, ngokuphambene nalokho, wehla.
Sizizwa siphephile
Ubudlelwano obubopha izithandani bufana nobudlelwano phakathi kwengane nomama. Yingakho “umntwana wangaphakathi” ephenduka ebuchosheni bethu, futhi imizwa yethu yobuntwana, ngokwesibonelo, yokulondeka okuphelele, ibuyela kithi. Ucwaningo luphinde lubonise ukuthi uma sisothandweni, izifunda zobuchopho ezihambisana nokwesaba nemizwa engemihle ziye zingasebenzi.