Okuqukethwe
- 1. Akakwazi ukulawula imizwa yakhe.
- 2. Akayifundi imizwa yakho ngaphandle kwamagama.
- 3. Akanabangane
- 4. Uhlala efile
- 5. Ukuveza kwakhe imizwelo akuyindawo.
- 6. Uyabagwema abantu abadinga ukwesekwa ngokwengqondo.
- 7. Akakwazi ukuveza uzwela
- 8. Akayiqondi ithoni yezwi lakho.
- 9. Akakwazi ukulawula izwi lakhe
- 10. Amafilimu nezincwadi ezinesiqephu esimangalisayo azimthinti.
- 11. Ukholelwa ukuthi imizwa nemizwa inikezwa ukubaluleka okukhulu kakhulu.
- 12. Akanandaba nezinja
Umngane wakho omusha uhlakaniphile, ufunde kahle, ufundile. Angeke abekwe icala lokuntula ubuhlakani. Kodwa-ke, angaba nokungalungi kwakhe endaweni ebaluleke ngokulinganayo yeminyakazo engu-XNUMX. Akunakwenzeka ukwakha ubuhlobo obuseduze nomuntu onjalo lapho bobabili abathintekayo bekwazi ukuqondana ngaphandle kwamagama. Indlela yokubona umuntu onjalo, kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uRonald Riggio.
Abantu abahlakaniphe kakhulu ngokomzwelo bayakwazi ukulalela nokuzwa omakhelwane babo, babone kahle imizwa yabo, baqonde izinhloso zabo, izisusa nezifiso zabo. Kungomuntu onjalo lapho amathuba okwakha ubuhlobo obujulile futhi obuzinzile emakhulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma ubuhlakani bomzwelo bomlingani wakho buphansi, lungele iqiniso lokuthi kuzoba nzima kuwe ukuthola uzwela nenhlonipho ngawe ohlangothini lwakhe. Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zinaka izibonakaliso ezingu-12 ukuthi umuntu akakwazi ukuziqhayisa ngokuhlakanipha okukhulu ngokomzwelo.
1. Akakwazi ukulawula imizwa yakhe.
Abantu abakwazi ukuqonda kahle abanye bathambekele ekubhekaneni nemizwa yabo engemihle. Uma noma yini encane ingase ivuse umngane wakho (intombi) ukuba akhiphele ukucasuka kwabanye, khona-ke cishe abathambekele ekubekezeleni nekhono lokwamukela abantu njengoba benjalo kwezinye izimo ezibalulekile.
2. Akayifundi imizwa yakho ngaphandle kwamagama.
Ikhono lokubona nokuhumusha ngendlela efanele izimpawu zombuso wethu, esizinikeza i-interlocutor ngaphandle kwamagama: isimo sobuso, ukushukuma komzimba, ukuma, kuyisici esibalulekile sokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo. Uma umlingani wakho, ngaphandle kwezincazelo zakho, engakwazi ukunquma ukuthi yini engakhululekile kuwe manje futhi kungase kudingeke ubonise ukunaka kwakhe: amazwi afudumele, ukugona, khona-ke kuyoba nzima kuwe ukwakha ukuxhumana okuthembekile ngokomzwelo naye.
3. Akanabangane
Abantu abahlakaniphile ngokomzwelo bakhuthaza uthando nokwethenjwa. Njengomthetho, bazungezwe abangani abagcina nabo futhi balondoloze ubudlelwano. Uma umuntu omaziyo engenabo abantu abasondelene naye futhi ekhononda ngokuthi akaziswanga emsebenzini nokuthi akathuthukisi ubudlelwano nozakwabo, lokhu kuphinde kukhombise ukungakwazi kwakhe ukunikela ngokomzwelo.
4. Uhlala efile
Akukhona nje kuphela ikhono lokufunda imizwa yabanye abantu, kodwa futhi nekhono lokuziveza ngobuqotho ngokwakho liba yingxenye ebalulekile yobuhlakani bomzwelo. Uma ekukhulumisaneni nomuntu kuhlale kunzima kuwe ukuqagela ukuthi uzizwa kanjani okwamanje (ikakhulukazi uma ujwayele ukufunda imizwelo yabanye abantu kahle), ngakho-ke, cishe, ukuzwela kwangaphakathi akuyona ingxenye eqinile ye-interlocutor yakho.
Ukubonakaliswa kokudabuka nokuwohloka kwangaphakathi kwethusa abantu abanobuhlakani obuncane bemizwa
5. Ukuveza kwakhe imizwelo akuyindawo.
Waqhulula ihlaya emngcwabeni, embuthanweni wabantu engekho esimweni sokuzijabulisa. Uxoxa izindaba okubonakala sengathi akekho umuntu ohlakaniphile, futhi abalaleli babekezelela ngenxa yobuhle kuphela. Cha, abafuni ukucasula noma ukugxambukela, bamane nje bangezwa ukuthi abanye bababheka kanjani.
6. Uyabagwema abantu abadinga ukwesekwa ngokwengqondo.
Ukubonakaliswa kokudabuka nokuwohloka kwangaphakathi kwethusa abantu abanobuhlakani obuncane bemizwa. Abazi ukuthi kufanele baziphathe kanjani futhi bakhetha ukuyigwema imihlangano enjalo.
7. Akakwazi ukuveza uzwela
Ngokuvamile isimo sokucindezeleka somunye umuntu simane singasifundi. Ngisho noma ekugcineni ebona ukuthi omunye mubi, akakwazi ukukhombisa imfudumalo nozwelo. Ezimweni eziningi, akazizwa enesidingo esinjalo, kodwa ngisho noma engathanda ukusho okuthile, akazi ukuthi yini ngempela.
8. Akayiqondi ithoni yezwi lakho.
Siphinde sidlulise ulwazi mayelana nesimo sethu somzwelo ngokusebenzisa iphimbo lenkulumo. Uma othandekayo wakho ekhuluma nawe ocingweni futhi engakuboni, engakwazi ukubamba ukucasuka kwakho noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, umuzwa wenjabulo, lokhu kubuye kumbonise njengomuntu ongathambekele ekuboneni imizwa yakho.
9. Akakwazi ukulawula izwi lakhe
Kwesinye isikhathi ukuvezwa okukhulu nokuzwakalayo kwemizwa - okuhle noma okubi - kusho ukuthi umuntu akazi kahle futhi uyakwazi ukulawula izifunda zakhe zangaphakathi. Lokhu-ke kuvele kube wukubonakaliswa kozwelo oluphansi.
10. Amafilimu nezincwadi ezinesiqephu esimangalisayo azimthinti.
Ubuciko obuhlanganisa uzwela ngokuvamile bushiya abantu abanjalo bengenandaba. Mancane amathuba okuthi abelane ngemizwa yakho mayelana nefilimu eyakuthinta, eniyibuke ndawonye. Futhi lokhu kusebenza kunoma yiluphi uhlobo.
Abantu abanjalo bathi imizwa iyingozi futhi ikhuthaza ukulingana.
11. Ukholelwa ukuthi imizwa nemizwa inikezwa ukubaluleka okukhulu kakhulu.
Abantu abanobuhlakani obuncane bemizwa basaqaphela ukuthi ikhono labo lokuzwelana nokuxhumana nabanye ngokomzwelo liphansi. Bazama ukubekela inselele ukubaluleka kwemizwelo ngokukhuthaza ukulingana, ikhono lokuba nokunengqondo nokwenza ngokuvumelana nokucabanga kuphela, njengezimfanelo zomuntu ezinenzuzo kakhulu. Akufanele ulandele ukuhola kwabo: imizwa iyingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu yobudlelwano bethu, nayo iyadingeka ukuze senze izinqumo ezisebenzayo.
12. Akanandaba nezinja
Inja yakho ingaba inkomba yokuthi kuphakeme kangakanani ubuhlakani bomzwelo bomlingani wakho. Izinja zingenye yezilwane ezifuywayo zomphakathi kakhulu, ezibonisa ngokukhululekile uhla olugcwele lwemizwa nemizwelo. Uma umuntu engaqageli isimo sesilwane sakho futhi engazinaki ngokuphelele izimpawu ezinikezwa yinja, cabanga ukuthi lolu uhlobo oluthile lwesixwayiso oluvela kumngane onemilenze emine.