Ukugibela ibhayisikili lokuqala, indawo yokuqala yokushwibeka e-skating, umjovo wokuqala “ongethuki” … Kuhle futhi akunjalo amakhasi esikhathi esidlule. Kodwa ezinye izenzakalo ezenzeka ebuntwaneni bethu asikwazi ukuzikhumbula. Kungani kwenzeka?
"Ngikhumbula lapha, angisakhumbuli lapha." Inkumbulo yethu iwahlukanisa kanjani amabele namakhoba? Ingozi eminyakeni emibili edlule, ukumanga kokuqala, ukubuyisana kokugcina nomuntu othandekayo: ezinye izinkumbulo zihlala, kodwa izinsuku zethu zigcwele ezinye izenzakalo, ngakho asikwazi ukugcina konke, ngisho noma sifuna.
Ubuntwana bethu, njengomthetho, sifuna ukugcina - lezi zinkumbulo zesikhathi esimnandi nesingenamafu esandulela isiphithiphithi sokuthomba, esongwe ngokucophelela "ebhokisini elide" endaweni ethile ejulile ngaphakathi kwethu. Kodwa ukukwenza akulula kangako! Zihlole: ingabe ukhumbula izingcezu eziningi nezithombe zesikhathi esidlule? Kunezingcezu ezinkulu “zekhasethi yethu yefilimu” ezigcinwe cishe ngokuphelele, futhi kukhona okubonakala sengathi kunqanyuliwe ngokuhlolwa.
Abaningi bayavuma ukuthi asiyikhumbuli iminyaka yokuqala emithathu noma emine yokuphila kwethu. Umuntu angase acabange ukuthi ubuchopho bengane kuleyo minyaka abukwazi nje ukugcina zonke izinkumbulo nemifanekiso, ngoba abukakakhuli ngokugcwele (ngaphandle okungenzeka kube ngabantu abanenkumbulo ye-eidetic).
Ngisho noSigmund Freud wazama ukuthola isizathu sokucindezelwa kwezenzakalo zasebuntwaneni. UFreud cishe wayeqinisile mayelana nokuphelelwa yinkumbulo ezinganeni ezihlukumezekile. Kodwa abaningi babenobuntwana obungebuhle kangako, ngokuphambene nalokho, bejabule futhi bengenakho ukuhlukumezeka, ngokusho kwezinkumbulo ezimbalwa amaklayenti abelana ngazo nodokotela wezengqondo. Pho kungani abanye bethu benezindaba zobuntwana ezimbalwa kakhulu kunabanye?
"Khohlwa konke"
Ama-Neurons ayayazi impendulo. Lapho sincane kakhulu, ubuchopho bethu buphoqeleka ukuba buphendukele ezithombeni ukuze sikhumbule okuthile, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ingxenye yolimi yezinkumbulo ivela: siqala ukukhuluma. Lokhu kusho ukuthi “uhlelo lokusebenza” olusha ngokuphelele luyakhiwa ezingqondweni zethu, oluthatha indawo yamafayela agciniwe adlule. Konke esikugcinile kuze kube manje akukakalahleki ngokuphelele, kodwa kunzima ukukubeka ngamazwi. Sikhumbula izithombe ezivezwa ngemisindo, imizwa, izithombe, imizwa emzimbeni.
Ngokukhula, kuba nzima kakhulu kithi ukukhumbula ezinye izinto - kungcono ukuthi sizizwe kunalokho esingakwazi ukuzichaza ngamagama. Kokunye ukuhlola, izingane ezineminyaka ephakathi kwemithathu nemine zabuzwa ngezenzakalo eziye zazenzakalela muva nje, njengokuya e-zoo noma ukuyothenga. Lapho eminyakeni embalwa kamuva, zineminyaka engu-XNUMX nesishiyagalolunye, lezi zingane ziphinda zibuzwa ngesenzakalo esifanayo, zahluleka ukusikhumbula. Ngakho-ke, "i-amnesia yobuntwana" yenzeka kungakapheli iminyaka eyisikhombisa.
isici samasiko
Iphuzu elibalulekile: izinga le-amnesia yobuntwana liyahlukahluka kuye ngezici zamasiko nezolimi zesizwe esithile. Abacwaningi baseNew Zealand bathole ukuthi “iminyaka” yezinkumbulo zakudala zabantu base-Asia iphakeme kakhulu kuneyabantu baseYurophu.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseCanada uCarol Peterson naye, kanye nozakwabo baseShayina, bathola ukuthi, ngokwesilinganiso, abantu baseNtshonalanga maningi amathuba okuthi "balahlekelwe" yiminyaka emine yokuqala yokuphila, kuyilapho abantu baseShayina belahlekelwa iminyaka embalwa eyengeziwe. Ngokusobala, kuncike emasikweni ukuthi izinkumbulo zethu "zihamba" kude kangakanani.
Njengomthetho, abacwaningi beluleka abazali ukuba batshele izingane zabo okuningi mayelana nesikhathi esidlule futhi bababuze ngalokho abakuzwayo. Lokhu kusivumela ukuba senze umnikelo obalulekile “encwadini yethu yenkumbulo”, ebonakala futhi emiphumeleni yocwaningo lwaseNew Zealand.
Mhlawumbe lesi yisona sizathu esenza abanye babangane bethu bakhumbule ubungane babo ngaphezu kwethu. Kodwa ingabe lokhu kusho ukuthi abazali bethu bakhuluma nathi kuyaqabukela, njengoba sikhumbula okuncane kangaka?
Indlela "yokubuyisela amafayela"?
Izinkumbulo zingaphansi, ngakho-ke kulula kakhulu ukuziguqula nokuzihlanekezela (sivame ukwenza lokhu ngokwethu). Eziningi “zezinkumbulo” zethu empeleni zazalwa ngezindaba esizizwile, nakuba thina ngokwethu singakaze sikuzwe konke lokhu. Isikhathi esiningi sidida izindaba zabanye abantu nezinkumbulo zethu.
Kodwa ingabe izinkumbulo zethu ezilahlekile zilahlekile ngempela unomphela - noma zisekhoneni elivikelekile lokuquleka kwethu futhi, uma kudingekile, "zingaphakanyiswa phezulu"? Abacwaningi abakwazi ukuphendula lo mbuzo kuze kube namuhla. Ngisho ne-hypnosis ayiqinisekisi ubuqiniso "bamafayela atholiwe".
Ngakho-ke akucaci kahle ukuthi wenzeni “ngezikhala zenkumbulo” yakho. Kungase kube amahloni lapho wonke umuntu oseduze exoxa ngenjabulo mayelana nobungane bakhe, futhi sima eduze futhi sizame ukungena enkunguni siye ezinkumbulo zethu. Futhi kuyadabukisa ngempela ukubheka izithombe zakho zobuntwana, njengokungathi abantu ongabazi, uzama ukuqonda ukuthi ubuchopho bethu benzani ngaleso sikhathi, uma ungakhumbuli lutho nhlobo.
Kodwa-ke, izithombe zihlala zikithi: kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ziyizithombe ezincane ezisenkumbulweni, noma amakhadi e-analogi aku-albhamu yezithombe, noma awedijithali kukhompuyutha ephathekayo. Singazivumela zisibuyisele emuva futhi ekugcineni zibe yilokho ezihloselwe ukuba yikho - izinkumbulo zethu.