Okuqukethwe
Injongo: ikuvumela ukuthi ubone izinga lokuncika komunye wabazali noma kukho kokubili ndawonye.
Indaba
“Izinyoni zilala esidlekeni esihlahleni: ubaba, umama netshwele elincane. Ngokushesha kwafika umoya onamandla, igatsha laphuka, futhi isidleke sawa: wonke umuntu waphelela phansi. Ubaba uyandiza ahlale kwelinye igatsha, umama ahlale kwelinye. Yini okufanele yenziwe itshwele?"
Izimpendulo ezijwayelekile ezijwayelekile
- naye, uzondiza futhi ahlale egatsheni;
- uzondizela kunina, ngoba wayesaba;
- uzondizela kubaba, ngoba ubaba unamandla;
- uzohlala phansi, ngoba akakwazi ukundiza, kodwa uzobiza usizo, futhi ubaba nomama bazomthatha.
- Izimpendulo ezinjalo zibonisa ukuthi ingane ikwazi ukuzimela futhi iyakwazi ukwenza izinqumo. Ukholelwa emandleni akhe, angakwazi ukuthembela kuye ngisho nasezimeni ezinzima.
Izimpendulo okufanele uziqaphele:
— iyohlala phansi ngoba ayikwazi ukundiza;
- uzofa ngesikhathi sokuwa;
- uzobulawa indlala noma amakhaza;
- wonke umuntu uzokhohlwa ngaye;
Umuntu uzomnyathela.
- Ingane ibonakala ngokuncika kwabanye abantu, ikakhulukazi abazali bayo noma labo abathintekayo ekukhulisweni kwayo. Akajwayele ukuthatha izinqumo ezimele, ubona ukwesekwa kubantu abaseduze kwakhe.
Ukuphawula kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo
Ezinyangeni zokuqala zokuphila, ukusinda kwengane kuncike ngokuphelele kulabo abamnakekelayo. Ukulutheka kuye kuwukuphela kwendlela yokuthola ukwaneliseka okungokwemvelo.
Ukuncika okuqinile kumama kwakheka lapho, lapho ekhala kancane, ethathwa. Ingane isheshe ijwayele lokhu, futhi ayizoli ngaphansi kwanoma yiziphi ezinye izimo. Ingane enjalo ingase inamathele kunina, futhi ngisho nalapho isikhulile, ngokuzenzakalelayo, ngokungazi, iyofuna isivikelo nosizo kunina.
Okuningi kuncike ekutheni ingane ikwazile ukufeza izidingo zayo ezingokwengqondo - othandweni, ukwethembana, ukuzimela kanye nokuqashelwa. Uma abazali bengaphikanga ukuqashelwa nokwethenjwa kwengane, kamuva ikwazi ukuthuthukisa amakhono okuzimela kanye nesinyathelo, okuholela ekuthuthukisweni komqondo wakhe wokuzimela.
Esinye isici ekubunjweni kokuzimela ukuthi esikhathini esisukela eminyakeni emi-2 kuya kwemi-3, ingane ithuthukisa ukuzimela kwezimoto nokuhlakanipha. Uma abazali bengakhawuleli umsebenzi wengane, khona-ke unokuzimela. Umsebenzi wabazali ngalesi sikhathi ukuhlukaniswa nokuhlukaniswa komuntu ngamunye, okuvumela ingane ukuba zizwe "inkulu". Usizo, ukwesekwa, kodwa hhayi ukugada izingane kufanele kube yinto evamile kubazali.
Abanye omama abakhathazekile nabacindezelayo ngokuzenzakalelayo banamathisela izingane kubo kangangokuthi zidale kuzo ukuncika okuzenzela noma okubuhlungu kubo ngisho nemizwa yabo. Laba omama, ngenxa yokwesaba isizungu, baphila ngokukhathalela kakhulu ingane. Ukunamathela okunjalo kubangela ukuzala, ukuntuleka kokuzimela, nokungaqiniseki ngamandla namakhono omuntu enganeni. Ukuqina okweqile kukababa, ongagcini nje ngokufundisa, kodwa oqeqesha ingane, efuna ukulalelwa okungangabazeki kuye futhi amjezise ngokungalaleli okuncane, kungaholela emiphumeleni efanayo.
Uvivinyo
- The Tales of Dr. Louise Duess: Projective Tests for Children
- Ukuhlolwa kwezinganekwane "IWundlu"
- Ukuhlolwa kwenganekwane "Isikhumbuzo somshado wabazali"
- Tale-test "Ukwesaba"
- Ukuhlolwa kwenganekwane "Indlovu"
- Ukuhlolwa kwenganekwane "Hamba"
- Ukuhlolwa kwamakhono "Izindaba"
- Tale-test "Iphupho elibi"