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Ukulungiselela ngokomzwelo ukuzalwa
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La ukulungiselela ngokomzwelo ukuzalwa uma sikhuluma ngokuqinile akulona ukwelashwa. Kuyindlela ehlose ukusiza abazali ukuthi basungule nezabo Umntwana - izinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwakhe - a maqondana obuseduze, obunothando futhi obuphathekayo kakhulu. Kwabesifazane abaningi, lokhu kwenzeka ngokwemvelo, kodwa kwabanye, futhi ikakhulukazi amadoda, kungase kube nzima ukuhlobana ngempela nosana olungakazalwa. Kungaphezu kwakho konke kubo ukuthi ukulungiswa ngokomzwelo kokuzalwa kubhekiswe. |
La ukulungiselela ngokomzwelo ukuzalwa inikeza abazali isimo sengqondo esifanele namathuluzi:
- phila okwangempela maqondana uthando oluhambisanayo ne-fetus ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa;
- belethisa ingane ngo ihambisana eqaphela futhi ithenda;
- iqondise ingane kweyakhe ukuzimela ngonyaka wokuqala wokuphila kwakhe.
Abanakekeli ekulungiseleleni ukuzalwa ngokomzwelo baqeqeshelwa ukunikeza abazali bakusasa ulwazi oluyisisekelo olungatholakala emakilasini okubeletha. Nokho, bagcizelela kakhulu isici se ubuhlobo obungokomzwelo nengane engakazalwa. Lokhu kungenziwa ezifundweni zangasese, ezivumelaniswe nezidingo zabazali ngokwesimiso esibafanelayo, noma ezifundweni zeqembu, ezinikeza ithuba lokushintshana neminye imibhangqwana ephila ngokukhathazeka okufanayo. Ngokubheka ukubaluleka okukhulu kokuhlangenwe nakho ngokomzwelo, le ndlela ihlose ukuphila kahle kwesikhashana nesikhathi eside kwabantu abathathu okukhulunywa ngabo, Umntwana (kusukela empilweni yayo ye-intrauterine), i umama futhi ubaba.
Indlela le igqugquzelwa kakhulu yi-haptonomy, “isayensi yokusebenzisana kwabantu kanye nobudlelwano obuthinta inhliziyo”, eyathuthukiswa umDashi uFrans Veldman ekuqaleni kwawo-1980. Ekuqaleni kwawo-2000, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sase-Belgian kanye nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esihlaziyayo u-Brigitte Dohmen, owayelandele ukuqeqeshwa kuka-Frans Veldman, wenza ngcono indlela yokwenza. Ukhethe ukwengeza emqondweni omaphakathi walokho okubizwa ngokuthi yi-affective kanye “nokuqinisekisa” ubukhona be-haptonomy, imikhuba egqugquzelwa ingoma yokubeletha, Psychology ukuthuthukiswa, i-osteopathy kanye nomsebenzi we i-perineum, ngaleyo ndlela kudala ukuzilungiselela ngokomzwelo ngesikhathi sokuzalwa.
Sawubona baby, silapha... Beqondiswa umnakekeli, abazali abangu-2 bafunda ukwakha ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo nengane engakazalwa ngekhwalithi ye ubukhona, uthinte futhi izwi. Le nqubo ihlanganisa ikakhulukazi “imidlalo yobudlelwano”, lapho abazali benza ingane yabo encane izizwe sengathi isingumuntu wangempela kubo nokuthi ilindelwe ngothando nangenhlonipho. Kusuka ku-3e ezinyangeni zokukhulelwa, kubonakala sengathi ingane ingase isabele lapho ithintwa. Ubekwazi, isibonelo, ukunyakaza ngokunyakaza kwezandla zikababa noma zikamama ezibekwe esiswini salona. Abasebenzisa le ndlela bathi umntwana angase, ngisho nangaphambi kokuzalwa, abe nomuzwa wokulondeka kwangaphakathi. Le ndlela ikhuthaza a okunamathiselwe kanye nokutshalwa kwezimali kusenesikhathi ngabazali bobabili. Ikakhulukazi, ivumela i- ubaba ukuqinisa indima yayo ngokungalindi ukuzalwa kwengane ukuze kusungulwe ubuhlobo bomuntu siqu nayo - njengoba umama engenza kakade ngokwemvelo. |
La ukulungiselela ngokomzwelo ukuzalwa ihlanganisa nengxenye yokusekela ngesikhathi se-ukulethwa. Umnakekeli udlala indima yokududuza nokusekela, phakathi kwabanye nobaba. Akayithathi indawo yakhe, kodwa uyameluleka ngalokho okufanele akwenze futhi uyamkhuthaza ukuba azibandakanye nomlingani wakhe ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngokwesibonelo, angakwazi ukuphulula umama emhlane kuyilapho umlingani wakhe embheke emehlweni, emcela ukuba aphefumule ngokujulile. Ngenxa yokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe nezibopho eziseduze azidale nabazali, umnakekeli angabasiza futhi benze izinqumo lapho inqubo yokuzala iletha isimo esingalindelekile. (Qaphela ukuthi lolu hlobo lomsebenzi luwukusekelwa ngokomzwelo kuphela, nokuthi lokhu kuqeqeshwa akunikezeli amakhono adingekayo ukuze kungenelele ngobuchwepheshe ngesikhathi sokubeletha.)
Ukwesekwa kungaqhubeka futhi izinyanga ezimbalwa ngemva kokubeletha ukusiza abazali banqume imilayezo yezingane zabo. Lokhu kuzobavumela ukuthi babone kangcono futhi baqonde izimpilo zabo izidingo kanye nokungenelela ngendlela efanele. Lokhu okuguquguqukayo kunganikeza okwengeziweInsurance abazali kanye nesimo esingcono Imikhiqizo enganeni.
Noma kunjalo uthinte kuyisenzo semvelo futhi ngisho noma abazali besikhathi esizayo sebevele begcwele ububele kumntwana wabo, kubonakala sengathi ubuciko bokuthinta abuyona innate, okungenani hhayi kuwo wonke umuntu. I amadoda, ikakhulukazi, kuzodingeka ukuthi kukhuthazwe umkhuba wokuthinta okuthinta inhliziyo, ukuthinta okungenakho ukubanda kokuthintwa kobuchwepheshe noma ukungaqondakali kokuthinta inkanuko.
La ukukhulelwa futhi ukuzalwa zibonwa njengezigaba endabeni yothando eyenzeka ku-3.
Izicelo zokwelapha zokulungiselela imizwa yokuzalwa
La ukulungiselela ngokomzwelo ukuzalwa kokubili kuwuhlelo lweimfundo abazali ekwenzeni kanye aihambisana. Ithinta ngokuqondile ubuhlobo phakathi kwabazali nengane. Ngenhloso yokuthuthukisa ukuphepha nokuzimela kwawo wonke umuntu (ingane, umama, ubaba) ngokucabangela izidingo zabo ezithile ezingokwengqondo nengokomzwelo.1, ukulungiselela ukuzalwa ngokomzwelo akunayo injongo yokwelapha eqondile.
Ngokwazi kwethu, alukho ucwaningo ngale ndlela olushicilelwe kumajenali esayensi.
Ukulungiselela ngokomzwelo ukuzalwa ngokusebenza
Kungakhathaliseki ngesikhathi ukukhulelwa noma kamuva, abazali banquma, nomuntu oyinsiza, inani lemihlangano. Ukuze uhlole ngokugcwele izihloko ezihlobeneukulethwa futhi ukwazi amasu okuxhumana, siphakamisa imihlangano emi-6 kuye kweyi-12.
Amakilasi nokusekelwa kunikezwa kubazali ngochwepheshe abahlukahlukene bezempilo abaye bathola ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile. Kungaba ababelethisi, osteopaths, ababelethisi, abahlengikazi, odokotela bengqondo noma abanye.
Uhlelo lwe ukulungiselela ngokomzwelo ukuzalwa ihlinzekwa emazweni aseYurophu abakhuluma isiFulentshi naseQuebec.
Ukuqeqeshwa kwezandla ekulungiseleleni ukuzalwa ngokomzwelo
Njengesinyathelo sokuqala, abafakizicelo kumele baqeqeshelwe ukuxhumana ngokuthinta okuhlose ukuqwashisa ngakho konke okusengcupheni mayelana nokuthinta, kumazinga ezinzwa, ubudlelwano, i-phantasmatic, ukuquleka kanye namandla. Ufunda futhi ukuthuthukisa amandla akho okuqonda kanye nekhwalithi yakho ubukhona ekuxhumaneni. Lokhu kuqeqeshwa kuhlanganisa izinsuku zokusebenza ezingama-24 ezisabalele eminyakeni emi-2.
Bese ukuqeqeshwa ku ukulungiselela ngokomzwelo ukuzalwa ihlanganisa izici ezingokwengqondo neziqulekile zokukhulelwa; imidlalo yokuxhumana nengane ku-utero ngokuthinta okuthinta inhliziyo nokucula ngaphambi kokubeletha; ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo komntwana ngesikhathi sokuzalwa; isipiliyoni esingokwengqondo sokubeletha kanye ne-physiology yayo. Lokhu kuqeqeshwa kuhlanganisa nezinsuku zokusebenza ezingama-24 ezisabalele eminyakeni emi-2.
Ukulungiselela ukuzalwa ngokomzwelo - Izincwadi, njll.
Dohmen B, Gere C, Mispelaere C. Izinganekwane ezintathu zesicelo - Ekudumiseni ukuzalwa kothando nokuqaphela, Éditions Amyris, Belgium / France, 2004.
U-Brigitte Dohmen, umdali wokulungiselela ukuzalwa ngokomzwelo, umbelethisi kanye nodokotela wezifo zabesifazane, bayaligxeka iqiniso lokuthi ukukhulelwa okuvamile nokuzalwa ngokwemvelo kusendleleni yokuphuma futhi bahlongoza ukukubeka esimweni sabo sobuntu, esingokomzwelo nesingokomzwelo.
Ukulungiselela ukuzalwa ngokomzwelo - Amasayithi anentshisekelo
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