Ukuthuthukiswa kokuqwashisa

Ukuthuthukiswa kokuqwashisa ukuthuthukiswa kwekhono, ikhono kanye nomkhuba wokuhambisana nokwazi komuntu siqu:

• ithi,
  
• izenzo,
  
• umsebenzi,
  
• inkambo yempilo yakho.

Muva nje, igama elithi ukucabangela selivame kakhulu futhi livame ukukhulunywa ngokungafanele. Inani elikhulu lezindlela zokwelapha ezingokwengqondo nezengqondo zibonisa ukuthi isici sabo siwukuthuthukiswa kokuqwashisa abantu. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ayisho ukuthi le mfanelo isho ukuthini, yiziphi izimpawu ezibonakalayo ezibuzwayo.

Kukhona ukuqwashisa ngenkulumo, kukhona ukuqaphela ukunyakaza, kukhona ukuqaphela ukucabanga, kukhona ukuqaphela impilo yomuntu iyonke - sikhuluma ngani?

Izimangalo zezikole ezahlukahlukene zokomoya noma ezengqondo: "Sithuthukisa ukuqwashisa!" akuyona into engaphezu kokukhangisa. Wonke umuntu uthuthukisa ukuqwashisa: bobabili abazali, lapho befundisa ingane ukubeka isipuni emlonyeni wakhe, nothisha, abafundisa umfundi wokuqala ukubhala umugqa ngomugqa, kanye nomfundisi, ofundisa indlela yokusebenzisa ubuchwepheshe obusha. "Sithuthukisa ukuqwashisa" kuzwakala kufana nokuthi "Sinikeza ulwazi!". Wonke umuntu unikeza ulwazi. Bonke othisha abajwayelekile bathuthukisa ukuqaphela — ezindaweni nezikhombisi-ndlela ezihlukene kuphela, futhi lena indlela engapheli.

Ukucabangela kukhula njalo empilweni yonke, kuyinqubo eqhubekayo engenaso isiphetho. Ukuthuthukiswa kokuqwashisa njalo ukuthuthukiswa kokuqwashisa engxenyeni ethile yokuphila komuntu, kulowo msebenzi lapho lokhu kuqwashisa kuyadingeka khona. Akukho ukuqeqeshwa okukodwa okusiza ukuthuthukiswa kokuqwashisa, futhi angeke kube khona. Kungase kube nokuqeqeshwa okudonsela ukunaka kwabahlanganyeli ezikhathini ezihlukene zokuqwashisa kunabanye, kodwa akunangqondo ukuhlanganisa zonke izikhathi zokuqwashisa ekuqeqeshweni okukodwa.

Njengokuthuthuka kwanoma yiliphi ikhono, ukuthuthukiswa kokuqwashisa kunamazinga ako kanye nezinkomba zakho.

Ukuthuthukiswa kokuqwashisa ngezinga eliyisisekelo kwenziwa lula yizo zonke izinqubo ezisiza ukulawula imizwa yomuntu, ikakhulukazi ukuba khona okuzolile, umkhuba wokukhululeka, kanye nezinqubo zokuzindla ezihlanganisa lokhu ngempumelelo.

Uma umuntu ephilela namuhla, azi kuphela izidingo nezifiso zakhe zesikhashana noma ezisheshayo, khona-ke lokhu ukuqwashisa okuphansi. Uma umuntu ebheka ukuphila okubanzi ngaphezu kwe-prism yezifiso zakhe, akazicabangeli yena kuphela, kodwa futhi nabanye abantu, uhlela ikusasa lakhe, uyazi ukulayisha ikhanda lakhe ngemicabango efanele, futhi umphefumulo wakhe unemizwa efanele. , khona-ke izinga lakhe lokuqaphela selivele liphakeme kakhulu.

Ukucabangela kungathuthukiswa, ukuqwashisa akukwazi ukuthuthukiswa. Le ndida ithi ukuthuthukiswa kokuqwashisa akuyona inqubo eyodwa enesiphelo esithile, kodwa indlela engapheli yamagatsha, izigaba ezilandelayo ezivulekile kuphela kulabo asebedlule ingxenye yayo. Inkulumo kaSocrates: “Lapho ngazi okwengeziwe, kulapho ngiqonda ngokwengeziwe ukuthi kuncane kangakanani engikwaziyo” kusebenza ngokugcwele ekuqwashiseni: lapho umuntu eqala ukuphila ngokuqaphela, yilapho eqala khona ukuqonda ukuthi kungakanani okusengazi lutho ekuphileni kwakhe.

Kodwa-ke, akunzima ukuhlukanisa umuntu nganoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuqwashisa okuthuthukisiwe kumuntu ophila ngokungazi. Izimpawu zangaphandle zokuqwashisa ziwukubukeka kokunaka, ukungabi bikho kokunyakaza okubukhali ngokweqile, okungenangqondo, ukuzola emzimbeni okhululekile. Ekukhulumisaneni, ukucabangela kubonakala ekukwazini ukwakha ngokucacile i-thesis yomuntu, ukulawula imizwelo yomuntu kanye nekhono lokuphinda lokho okushiwo umxhumanisi. Ebhizinisini - ukuba khona kohlu lwemisebenzi yosuku, ukucabangela kwezinhloso zonyaka, njll.

Umuntu okwaziyo ukuphila kwakhe angaphendula le mibuzo: “Ngingubani mina? Ngivelaphi? Ngenzani? Ngiyaphi?" (kokubili ezintweni ezincane kanye nombono omkhulu wempilo). Abantu abaqaphelayo babona abakwenzayo, bezwa abakushoyo, nokuthi bakhuluma kanjani omunye nomunye.

Lapho umuntu eqaphela ngokwengeziwe izenzo zakhe nokuziphatha kwakhe, kucaca nakakhulu umbono wezifanekiso namathuluzi awasebenzisayo, ukuqonda izisusa nemigomo yakhe, izinkinga zakhe namathuba akhe.

Kuyenzeka futhi kuyadingeka ukuthuthukisa ukuqwashisa, kodwa umuntu kufanele futhi athuthukise ukuqwashisa kwakhe ngokuqaphela, esecabangele iziqondiso zomsebenzi wesikhathi esizayo.

Izikhombisi-ndlela eziyinhloko zokuthuthukiswa kokuqwashisa

Kulabo abangathanda ukuthuthukisa ukuqwashisa kwabo, kubalulekile okokuqala ukunquma ngesiqondiso salo msebenzi. Akunakwenzeka futhi akudingekile ukuqaphela konke, kodwa ukuqaphela ezindabeni ezibalulekile kubalulekile. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuthuthukiswa kokuqwashisa ngezindlela eziningi kufana nokuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba, lapho kukhona ukuqeqeshwa ngokomzimba okujwayelekile kanye nokuthuthukiswa kwamakhono akhethekile. Lapha singanikeza izeluleko ezithile ukusiza ukuthuthukisa ukuqwashisa okuvamile.

Ukuze uthuthukise ukuqwashisa okuvamile, thola ukuba khona okuzolile, zikhulule (uma bekunjalo) ekuthathekeni okubukhali kanye nemigilingwane enjengeye. Ungalokothi unikine ikhanda kakhulu - ngezikhathi zokuphenduka okubukhali, ukwazi kuba nzima noma kucime, ukuqaphela kuyanyamalala.

Ukucabangela Inkulumo: Prakthiza Ingqikithi Yebo. Qala ukulalela abanye, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, wena ngokwakho.

Ukuqwashisa ngokuziphatha: funda ngesikhathi esisodwa ukuqondisa ivekhtha eyodwa yokunaka kwakho ngaphandle, empilweni ekuzungezile, kanye nevekhtha yesibili kuwena, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo uqaphele ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngesikhathi ngasinye.

Ukuqaphela ukunyakaza. Okwenze ngokuxhamazela, kungazelelwe, ngokushesha - qala ukukwenza kancane futhi ngokushelela, ukubona nokuzwa ukunyakaza, ukuphenduka, ukungezwani nokuphumula. Kuphela ngemva kwalokho zuza isivinini.

Ukuqwashisa ngomsebenzi. Funda ukubola izenzo eziyinkimbinkimbi zibe imisebenzi elula, eyisisekelo, futhi uqeqeshe ukwenza ingxenye ngayinye ngendlela engcono kakhulu: kahle nangesikhathi.

Ukuqaphela izenzo. Ngaphambi kokwenza noma yini, zijwayeze ukukubheka ngezindlela ezehlukene: kuyiqiniso yini lokho okufunayo, kunjani ezithakazelweni zabanye, njalo njalo.

Ukuqaphela izindinganiso zakho. Nquma ukuthi yini oyithandayo ngempela, iyini imigomo yakho nezimiso zakho.

Ukuqaphela umsebenzi womuntu nempilo jikelele. Qala usuku ngalunye ngokwenza uhlu lwezinto zokwenziwa zosuku. Ukucabanga ngemisebenzi yosuku, gxila emisebenzini yesonto nenyanga. Imigomo yamasonto onke neyenyanga kufanele ihambisane nezinhloso zakho zonyaka. Ngokunjalo, cabanga ngezinjongo zakho zonyaka, wesithathu nowesihlanu, bhala lezi zinhloso embonweni wempilo yakho yonke.

Ukuqonda kwengqondo. Ngaso sonke isikhathi beka emagameni amaqiniso ngokwenzeka ngaphakathi naseduze kwakho, bheka amaqiniso amasha, ukwakheka, amaphuzu wokubuka. Lapho uqaphela ukuba khona kwemizwelo njengeqiniso, cabanga ngamaqiniso neziphetho ezivela kuyo, hhayi imizwelo.

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Akukho ukuqeqeshwa okukodwa okusiza ukuthuthukiswa kokuqwashisa, futhi angeke kube khona. Kungase kube khona ukuqeqeshwa okudonsela ukunaka kwabahlanganyeli ezikhathini ezihlukene zokuqwashisa kunabanye, kodwa akunangqondo ukuhlanganisa zonke izikhathi zokuqwashisa ekuqeqeshweni okukodwa. Izikhathi ezihlukene zokucabanga zithuthuka emikhubeni ehlukene nasekuqeqesheni okuhlukene, futhi ukuthuthukiswa kokuqwashisa okwenzeka ekuqeqeshweni okuhle akuboniswa njalo emigomeni yokuqeqeshwa. Nokho, yini engatuswa? Uhlelo lwe-Syntone (NI Kozlov), Stalking (Sergey Shishkov) Bona →