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Abasemzini: isibopho semfundo yansuku zonke
Ukuhlukanisa akulula neze. Nokwakha kabusha impilo yakhe. Namuhla, cishe izingane eziyizigidi ezingu-1,5 zikhulela emikhayeni yokutholwa. Zingu-510 izingane ezihlala nosingamzali. Ukulondoloza ukuthula ngokuphumelelayo ekhaya lakho, ngisho nangemva kwesehlukaniso esinzima, ngokuvamile kuyinselele yabazali abahlukene. Umngane omusha kufanele athathe indawo yakhe futhi athathe indima yokuba usingamzali. Lizoshintsha ini igunya lemfundo yansuku zonke kosingamama kanye nosingababa? Izingane zizosithola kanjani lesi silinganiso esisha?
Umthetho womndeni: isibopho semfundo yansuku zonke ekusebenzeni
Uma umthetho we-FIPA unganikezi “isimo esisemthethweni” kwabasemzini, ivumela ukusungulwa "kwegunya lemfundo yansuku zonke", ngemvume yabo bobabili abazali. Leli gunya lenza umamezala noma umukhwe ohlala ngendlela ezinzile nomunye wabazali, enze izenzo ezivamile zokuphila kwengane kwansuku zonke phakathi nokuphila kwayo ndawonye. Ikakhulukazi, usingamzali angasayina ngokusemthethweni incwadi yokurekhoda yesikole, ahlanganyele emihlanganweni nothisha, ayise ingane kudokotela noma emsebenzini wangaphandle. Lo mbhalo, ongadwetshwa ekhaya noma phambi kommeli, qinisekisa amalungelo omuntu wesithathu okunakekela ingane ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Leli gunya lingahoxiswa noma nini umzali futhi lizophela uma kwenzeka kunqanyulwa ukuhlala kwabo ndawonye noma kushona umzali.
Indawo entsha yosingamzali?
Ingabe ukusungulwa kwegunya elinjalo kuzoba nomthelela wangempela ekuphileni kwansuku zonke kwemindeni exubile? Ku-Elodie Cingal, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nomeluleki ngesehlukaniso, uyachaza “uma konke kuhamba kahle emndenini oxubile, akudingekile ukuthi ufune isimo esikhethekile”. Ngempela, izingane eziningi, ezihlala emikhayeni evuselelwe kabusha enabazali bokutholwa kanye nezingane ezivela emshadweni wangaphambili, zikhula nosingamzali, futhi lezi zamuva zihamba naye njalo emisebenzini yangemva kwesikole noma ekhaya. udokotela. Ngokusho kwakhe, bekungaba okuthakazelisa kakhulu ukunikeza isimo esisemthethweni "kumuntu wesithathu" kunokukhetha lesi sigunyazo esingaphelele. Ubuye wengeza ngokuthi “ lapho ubuhlobo bunzima phakathi komamezala noma umkhwekazi nomunye umzali, lokhu kungabhebhethekisa izingxabano. Kungenzeka ukuthi umzali ongamzali othatha isikhala esiningi athathe ngisho nangaphezulu futhi afune leli gunya, njengohlobo lwamandla. Ngaphezu kwalokho, u-Agnès de Viaris, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esisebenza ngezinkinga zomndeni, ucacisa ukuthi" ingane izoba namamodeli amabili ahlukene wesilisa, okunempilo kuye. ” Ngakolunye uhlangothi, esimweni lapho ukugcinwa okuyinhloko kunikezwa umama, nalapho ubaba ozalayo ebona izingane zakhe ngempelasonto eyodwa kuphela kwezimbili, ngakho-ke, de facto, uchitha isikhathi esincane nezingane zakhe kunosingababa.. "Leli gunya elisha lizoqhakambisa lokhu kungalingani phakathi kukababa nosingababa" ngokusho kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Elodie Ndingali. UCéline, umama ohlukanisile ohlala emndenini oxubile, uchaza ukuthi "kumyeni wami wangaphambili, kuzoba nzima kakhulu, kakade unenkinga yokuba nobuhlobo obuzinzile nezingane zakhe". Lo mama ukholelwa ukuthi akufanele simnike isikhala esiningi kusingamzali. “Mayelana nemihlangano yesikole dokotela angifuni kube wumkhwenyana oyinakekelayo. Izingane zami zinomama nobaba futhi sinesibopho salezi zinto "ezibalulekile" ekuphileni kwazo kwansuku zonke. Asikho isidingo sokubandakanya omunye umuntu kulokhu. Ngokufanayo, angifuni ukubhekana nezingane zomngane wami omusha ngaphezu kwalokho, ngifuna ukuzinikeza induduzo, ukunakekelwa, kodwa izinkinga zezokwelapha kanye/noma zesikole zithinta abazali begazi kuphela. ”
Kodwa-ke, leli lungelo elisha elinikeziwe, inguqulo engenamanzi yalokho okungenzeka ukuthi kwakuyisimo sangempela “somuntu wesithathu”, inikeza umthwalo wemfanelo owengeziwe, ofunwayo noma ofunwayo, kwabasemzini. Lona umbono ka-Agnès de Viaris ochaza ukuthi “lokhu kusengaphambili kuyinto enhle ukuze usingamzali athole indawo yakhe futhi angazizwa ekhohliwe emndenini oxubile. “Umama ovela kuforamu ye-Infobebes.com, ohlala emndenini owenziwe kabusha, uyabelana ngalo mbono futhi uyawuthokozela lo msebenzi omusha:” abasekhweni banemisebenzi eminingi futhi abanamalungelo, kuwukwehlisa isithunzi kubo. Kungazelelwe, noma ngabe kungenxa yezinto ezincane abasekhweni abaningi asebevele bezenza, kuvumela ukuthi babonwe ”.
Futhi enganeni, lokho kushintsha yini?
Pho ihluke ngobani? Ingane? U-Elodie Cingal uyachaza: uma ukuncintisana noma izingxabano zikhona phakathi kwabazali, abazali bangaphambili kanye nosingamzali, lokhu kuzobaqinisa futhi ingane izophinde ihlupheke isimo. Uyodatshulwa phakathi kokubili. Ingane ihlukene kusukela ekuqaleni. Kudokotela wezifo zengqondo, yingane ekhuthaza impumelelo yomndeni ohlanganisiwe. Uyisixhumanisi phakathi kwemindeni emibili. Kuye, kubalulekile ukuthi usingamzali uhlala “eyisithandwa” ngonyaka wokuqala. Akumele azibophezele ngokushesha, lokhu kubuye kushiye isikhala sokuba khona komunye umzali. Khona-ke, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuba kuye ukuthi athathwe yingane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, nguye oqoka "umzali ongamzali" futhi kungalesi sikhathi lapho umuntu wesithathu eba "umzali wesinyathelo".