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Ngibonise umdwebo wakho… ngizokutshela ukuthi ungubani!

Lapho uMathilde eklama indlu yakhe yenkosazana, ufaka yonke inhliziyo yakhe kuyo. Imibala yayo igqamile futhi igqamile, ukwakheka kwayo kugcwele ukunyakaza kanye nezinhlamvu zayo zihlekisa kakhulu. Njengaye impela! Mina nobaba wakhe sishaqekile ngekhono lomculi wethu oneminyaka engu-4 ubudala! », Amanothi ngokuthakasela uSéverine, umama wakhe. Yebo, uqinisekisa uPatrick Estrade, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo: “ Okuphawula imidwebo yezingane ubuhlakani bazo kanye nobulula bazo obumangalisayo. Abazihluphi ngemibono okuvunyelwene ngayo. Inqobo nje uma sibavumela ukuba bakwenze futhi sibathathe ngabanye (ukuze sibavimbe bangathonyeli omunye nomunye), bavumela ukucabanga kwabo kanye nemicabango yabo kugijime ngokuthanda kweminwe yabo. »Ipensela elimnyama, ama-pastel anemibala, izimpawu, izimpawu, upende, konke kuhle ukuveza imizwa yabo. Ikhaya liyitimu ekhuthaza izingane ezisacathula kakhulu. “Yize thina bantu abadala sivame ukujwayela futhi sibambelele ekuxoxeni kwethu izindaba, izingane, zikhombisa isibindi ngesikhathi esifanayo nezinkondlo. Umuntu omdala uzodweba i-stereotype evamile yendlu noma acabange ukuthi uzoyimela kanjani. Ingane izovumela ukuzenzela kwayo kusebenze. Ngokungafani nomuntu omdala, uyaphila, akazilungiseleli ukuphila. Ngakho-ke inqubo yokudweba ishesha futhi imahhala, ”kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.

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Isibonelo, ingane ingakwazi ukudweba kalula ilanga elibili ngaphezu kwendlu yakhe, lokhu akuyona inkinga kuye. Umuntu omdala ngeke alinge noma acabange ngakho. Kuvame ukuba nenani lezakhi ezingaguquki emiklamo yezindlu zezingane. Kukhona uphahla olunxantathu, amafasitela phezulu, hhayi phansi, umnyango ovame ukuba yindilinga (okunikeza ukuthamba), ofakwe isibambo (ngakho-ke ukwamukela), indawo yomlilo kwesokudla (akuvamile kwesokunxele)) kanye nentuthu. ukuya kwesokudla (uma kunomlilo eziko, kusho ukuthi indlu ihlalwa. Umusi oya kwesokudla ufana nekusasa), -inkomo ophahleni (okungabhekwa njengeso). Uma indlu imelela ingane ngokwayo, okuzungezile nakho kuyathakazelisa ukuhlaziya. Kungase kube nezihlahla, izilwane, abantu, indlela eholela lapho, imoto, ichibi, izinyoni, ingadi, amafu ... Noma yini ilungele ukuxoxa indaba engaphakathi nangaphandle. Ngalo mqondo, umdwebo wendlu unikeza ulwazi ngobuhlobo ingane enabo nezwe kanye nabanye.

Okuthakazelisa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emdwebeni akusona isici sayo sobuhle, kodwa okuqukethwe kwengqondo, okungukuthi, lokho indlu engayiveza mayelana nengane nokuphila kwayo. Akuwona umbuzo lapha wencazelo ye-psychoanalytic ehlose ukuhlonza amaphutha athile noma ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, kodwa ukuthambekela kwangempela.

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    U-Ernest, oneminyaka engu-3 ubudala

    “Ngihlabeke umxhwele ngokuqukethwe umdwebo ka-Ernest. Ngingaba nephutha, kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi u-Ernest akayena yedwa ingane. Kukhona ukuhlalisana okuhle kulo mdwebo. Abantu, izilwane, izihlahla, sithola i-trio evamile lapho ingane icelwa ukuba idwebe indlu kanye nenja, ngakwesobunxele sendlu. Ngithanda ukuthi ugeja ilanga, ngoba lokho kusho ukuthi “akazange akopishe” kwenkulu. Indlu yakhe inesitho sangasese sowesifazane, kodwa kusobala ukuthi u-Ernest udwebe isakhiwo. Phela omunye akamvaleli omunye. Ngakwesokunxele, singabona ukuthi yini okufanele ibe ikheshi. Mhlawumbe uhlala esitezi esiphezulu? Maphakathi nendawo, ngaphezu komnyango, izitebhisi eziholela ezindlini ezifanekiselwa amafasitela e-bay. Naphezu kwakho konke, uphahla lwesakhiwo lunethambeka eliphindwe kabili, njengasezindlini zendabuko. U-Ernest ubonakala ethanda ukuphila, abantu, uyabazwela abantu nezinto. Kokubili kujwayelekile futhi kunesibindi, futhi akuzenzisi (ukuba sobala kohlaka). Umdwebo wakhe ulinganisela kahle, ngingasho ukuthi akadingi izingxabano ukuze zibe khona. Cishe unobuntu obumnandi nobuthandekayo. “

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    UJosephine, oneminyaka engu-4 ubudala

    “Lapha sinesimo esivamile saleyo midwebo emangalisayo lapho izingane ezisencane ezikwaziyo ukuyifunda, ezingenandaba nemibono ezizoyiveza kamuva. UJoséphine akantuli okwakhe, uyakwazi ukuziqinisa. Usevele unobuntu bakhe obuncane, umlingiswa wakhe omncane!

    Njengoba nje emdwebeni ka-Aroni, uphahla lumelela indlu eyisivikelo. Uphahla luyacatshangelwa futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngicabanga ukuthi "toihuhti" ikhombisa uphahla, ngaphandle uma kuwulimi lwangaphandle, isibonelo, isiTahiti engingasazi. Noma sisho “uphahla lwendlu” ku-“toihuhti”? Kunoma yikuphi, uJosephine usibonisa ukuthi useyakwazi ukubhala. Futhi ngosonhlamvukazi, ngicela! Sinombono wokuthi lo mdwebo wendlu ukhuluma indaba yothando okufanele iqanjwe kabusha. Ingxenye engezansi yomdwebo ikhumbuza inhliziyo. Kodwa lenhliziyo ihlukanisiwe nengxenye ephakathi ebonakala imele phezulu kobuso. Ingabe ingxenye yomkhaya wakhe ikude? UJosephine uthi noma yikuphi ukuthi uphahla lubaluleke kakhulu futhi unamehlo. Kungenza ngicabange ukuthi uma ufuna ukubuka okwenzeka kude, kufanele ukhuphukele phezulu ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, imivimbo engu-6 inqamula inhliziyo, njengokungathi kufanele yabiwe nabanye. Ngakho-ke lo mdwebo awusho ngendlu, ukhuluma indaba yomuntu olindele okuthile noma othile. Ngezansi kweso lesokunxele kudwetshwe unxantathu onombala ofanayo nongaphezulu kwalokho engikubize ngenhliziyo. Uma sibheka ingxenye engezansi (inhliziyo) kanye nengxenye ngamehlo, sinomuzwa wokuthi uma zihlanganiswa, uma sizihlanganisa, zingashintsha iyunithi, njengeqanda. UJoséphine usitshela ukuthi indlu inegumbi elingaphansi. Ngicabanga ukuthi le mininingwane kufanele iqondwe njengesidingo sokusungula indlu kahle emhlabathini, ukuthi iqine. Eqinisweni, uJosephine akazange adwebe indlu, watshela indlu. Uma esekhulile usezokwazi ukusebenza kwezokukhangisa ngaphandle kwenkinga. “

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    U-Aroni, oneminyaka emi-3

    “Uma uthi nhlá, kuwumdwebo umuntu angawulindela enganeni eneminyaka emi-2 kuya kwemi-2 nengxenye, eyenziwe ngemibhalo emincane kuneminonjana ebonakalayo, kodwa lapho kufundwa okwesibili, sesiyakwazi ukubona isakhiwo. Uphahla, izindonga. Kunzima kithina bantu abadala ukuthi sicabange ukuthi yindlu, kanti umqondo usekhona. Singabona ngokucacile uphahla oludwetshiwe oluluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, olubonakala lujwayelekile kimi: uphahla luwuphawu lokuvikela. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, uphahla lufanekisela uphahla olungaphakathi. Sibeka izinto endlini engaphansi esifuna ukuyigcina, noma sigcine ukudla lapho. Imigqa emibili eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ngakwesobunxele kanye nomugqa onsundu kwesokudla kungaba izindonga zendlu. Lo mdwebo unikeza umbono wokuma mpo, futhi ngenxa yalokho wamandla. Futhi kule minyaka, lokhu kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Ngokwami, anginaso isiqiniseko sokuthi u-Aaron wayefuna ngempela ukudweba, ingabe wayefuna ukwenza enye into? Ingabe isandla sakhe siphoqelelwe? Kunoma ikuphi, wenza umzamo futhi wabonisa ukugxilisa ingqondo okukhulu. Ngambona ekhipha ulimi ecindezela kakhulu umaka wakhe. Ubufuna indlu? Nakhu. “

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    UVictor, oneminyaka engu-4

    “Nansi indlu enhle kakhulu eyaklanywa uVictor. Umbono ophelele ukuthi le ndlu incike kwesokunxele. Izichazamazwi zezimpawu zivame ukulinganisa kwesokunxele nesedlule (kwesinye isikhathi inhliziyo) kanye nesokudla nekusasa. Indlu kaVictor ifuna ukuvikeleka. Ngaphandle uma uVictor eyinxele? Kunoma yikuphi, wonke amanani angokomfanekiso akhona (kuhlanganise ne-stereotype ye-bull's-eye, ngokuqinisekile ayiqanjwanga nguVictor, kodwa ikopishwe kwenkulu). Ushimula onomusi ophuma kuwo uye kwesokudla kusho ukuthi kukhona ukuphila, ubukhona kuleli ziko. Isicabha siyindilinga (soft access), sinengidi, awungeni kanjalo. Amafasitela afakwe amatheku, kodwa asazi ngempela ukuthi yini edwetshwa kwesokudla somnyango, ifasitela? Okuwukuphela kwento enombala umnyango. Mhlawumbe uVictor waba nesithukuthezi futhi wayefuna ukuyeka umdwebo wakhe? Akazihluphi ngemininingwane. Ikhaya yilokho, ikhaya yimi. Ngingumfana, ngenza i-dude house. Asikho isidingo sokuthatha emini kuze kube ihora lesibili. UVictor ungathi uyasitshela: lapho usucelile indlu, ngikwenzele indlu! “

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    U-Lucien, oneminyaka engu-5 ½ ubudala

    “Indlu kaLucien kumele ngibeke ubuningi ngoba udwebe ababili. Enkulu, enoshimula kwesokudla, kodwa ayinantuthu. Ayikho impilo? Mhlawumbe, kodwa mhlawumbe ukuphila kwangempela kusendlini encane e-attic, nomama? Encane, esendaweni engaphansi enophahla olubhalwe uMama (umama?). Awukho umnyango wangaphambili, iwindi le-bay esitezi sokuqala. Eqinisweni, indlu yangempela ayibonakali inkulu, kodwa encane, lapho umuntu esendaweni yokukhosela, e-attic. Bese kuthi-ke, isilwane sezilwane: izintuthwane ezikhuthele, njalo ngamaqembu, kanye nomnenke othwala indlu yawo (igobolondo). Uma indlu ingadwetshiwe kancane, isihlahla sinemininingwane ecacile. Kuyisihlahla esiqinile, isiqu siqinile, futhi sinomsoco, ama-cherries… Amagatsha aqonde endlini, ngokungangabazeki kuhloswe ngawo ukondla umndeni. Ingabe indlu ayinazo izinto zamadoda? Awukho umnyango noma ingidi. Indawo yangaphakathi kaLucien, ngamanye amazwi, indawo yakhe ikhombisa ubuthakathaka obuthile. Izindonga azilivikeli, singabona ingaphakathi (itafula). Indlu yangempela yilena encane okubhalwe kuyo ukuthi MAM MA. “

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    UMarius, oneminyaka engu-6

    “Sithuthela kwenye i-age group. Eminyakeni engu-6, ingane isivele ibone imidwebo eminingi yezindlu. Futhi wakwazi ukuthola ugqozi kukho. Kusukela kule minyaka, singabona ukuthi izindlu zakhiwe kanjani. Ziyizindlu zokuhlala ezincane, izindlu zokuhlala kunezindlu ze-cerebralized, ezihlelekile, ezicatshangelwe. Ngakho, lokho kaMarius. Kodwa naphezu kwakho konke, bahlala beyizindlu ezihlala abantu abaqulekile. UMarius uthathe inkathazo ukwenza umdwebo ophelele. Ngokungangabazeki ubambisana kakhulu, uthanda ukwelula isandla, uyacophelela futhi ngenxa yalokho ufuna ngenkani. Umnyango uhlehlisiwe futhi ubukeka sengathi ungena ngezitebhisi. Ngaye, kufanele sizibonakalise. Kunalokho kwakungavamile, uMarius wadweba iziko kwesokunxele. Futhi intuthu ikhuphuka ibheke phezulu. Ukuze ungaminyanisi inyoni engakwesokudla? Ngakho-ke uMarius uyabakhathalela abanye. Inhloko yekati uMinette kubonakala sengathi ikopishwe komunye umdwebo. UMarius "ukhohlwe" ukudweba umfowabo omncane uVictor - isenzo esihlulekile? -. Kunoma yikuphi, umlaza womndeni usethiwe: umama, ubaba, mina (narcissist, Marius). Unohlangothi "lwami kuqala", isitayela esiphezulu somndeni. “

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    U-Ludovic, oneminyaka engu-5 ½ ubudala

    “Umdwebo womfana ojwayelekile?” Ihlukaniswe phakathi kombono we-phallic (impi) kanye nombono wemizwa (indawo yomlilo). Lena yindlu ezivikela futhi ihlasele. ULudovic ukuthathaphi lokhu kumelwa kwendlu? Ingabe umncane ongathanda ukuzinika umoya wendoda enkulu, noma omncane okhule ngokushesha? Ingabe kukhona ukuhlonza nobaba onegunya noma nalabo abakhulu kunaye, onegunya, noma i-Playstation ilala naye embhedeni wakhe? Nalelolanga elikhulu ngakwesobunxele, kodwa asiliboni neze. Ubudoda okunzima ukubusho? Naleya enye indlu engakwesokunxele, enamehlo ayo amabili, isho ukuthini? Akuyona yini indlu yangempela, indlu emnene, engalinganisa indlu yezempi ephakathi nendawo? U-Ludovic ucacisa ukuthi lesi sakhiwo siqhuma ngamabhomu ezindlini ezingakwesokunxele, ngani? Ingabe izindlu noma abantu. Ingabe kukhona ukungqubuzana phakathi kwalezi zindlu ezimbili, futhi ingabe izindlu ezincane ezingakwesokunxele zingaphindiselwa? Kukhona ukulinganisa okuningi emininingwaneni, cishe kuyakhathaza. Ngokumangalisayo, lezi zindlu ezine ezincane ziqondaniswe ngakwesokudla, zibukeka "njengezindlu zamasosha". Omunye umniningwane othakazelisayo: umnyango lapha uwumfanekiso omncane wendlu. Futhi, akuvamile ngokwanele ukuba kuphawulwe, kukhona amawindi phansi. Kufanele ukwazi ukubona yonke indawo, ungabanjwa ungalindele. Ngokumangazayo ukuqashelwa, intuthu isuka iqonde, okunikeza konke ukuma okuthe xaxa kuwo wonke (sesha amandla). “

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