Ngaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana wesibili
Uzomtshela nini?
Hhayi kusesekuseni kakhulu, ngoba ukuhlobana nesikhathi somntwana kuhluke kakhulu kunomuntu omdala, futhi izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye ziyisikhathi eside; kungakephuzi kakhulu, ngoba engase ezwe sengathi kunento eyenzekayo angayazi! Ngaphambi kwezinyanga ezingu-18, kungcono ukulinda sekwephuzile ngangokunokwenzeka, okungukuthi cishe inyanga yesi-6, ukuze ingane ibone ngempela isisu esiyindilinga sikanina ukuze siqonde isimo kalula.
Phakathi kweminyaka emi-2 no-4 ubudala, ingamenyezelwa cishe enyangeni yesi-4, ngemva kwe-trimester yokuqala futhi umntwana ungcono. KuStephan Valentin, udokotela wezokusebenza kwengqondo, “kusukela eneminyaka engu-5 ubudala, ukufika komntwana kumthinta kancane ngoba unokuphila komphakathi, akancikile kubazali. Lolu shintsho aluvamile ukuba buhlungu kakhulu ukuhlangana nalo ”. Kodwa uma ugula kakhulu ku-trimester yokuqala, kufanele umchazele imbangela ngoba uyakwazi ukubona zonke izinguquko. Ngokufanayo, uma wonke umuntu oseduze kwakho ekwazi, kufanele nakanjani ubatshele!
Indlela yokumemezela ukufika kwengane enganeni endala?
Khetha isikhathi esithule lapho nobathathu nindawonye. “Okubalulekile ukungakulindeli kusengaphambili ukusabela kwengane,” kuchaza uStephan Valentin. Ngakho khululeka, mnike isikhathi, ungamphoqi ukuthi ajabule! Uma ebonisa intukuthelo noma ukunganeliseki, hlonipha imizwelo yakhe. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sinikeza ukukusiza ngencwadi encane ukukusiza uthole amagama alungile.
Ukumbonisa izithombe zikanina owayezithwele, exoxa indaba yokuzalwa kwakhe, izindaba ezilandisayo kusukela esemncane, kungamsiza aqonde ukuza komntwana. Ukolweni ungakhulumi naye ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi uvumele ingane ize kuwe nemibuzo yayo. Ngezinye izikhathi ungamenza iqhaza ekulungiseleleni igumbi lomntwana: menze akhethe umbala wefenisha noma ithoyizi, esebenzisa elithi "thina", ukumfaka kancane kancane kuphrojekthi. Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, kufanele umtshele ukuthi siyamthanda. “Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bamtshele lokho futhi!” »Ugcizelela uSandra-Elise Amado, udokotela wezengqondo enkulisa kanye no-Relais Assistante Maternelles. Bangasebenzisa umfanekiso wenhliziyo ekhula emndenini nokuthi kuyoba nothando ngomntwana ngamunye. »I-classic enhle esebenzayo!
Cishe ukuzalwa komntwana
Mazise ngokungabibikho kwakho ngo-D-day
Ingane endala ingase icindezeleke ngombono wokuzithola iyodwa, ilahliwe. Kumele azi ukuthi ubani ozobe ekhona ngesikhathi abazali bakhe bengekho: “U-Anti uzofika ekhaya azokunakekela noma uzochitha izinsukwana noGogo noMkhulu”, nokunye.
Yilokho-ke, wazalwa… kanjani ukwethula komunye nomunye?
Kungaba ewodini yababeletha noma ekhaya, kuye ngeminyaka yakhe nezimo zokuzalwa. Kuzo zonke izimo, qiniseka ukuthi enkulu ikhona lapho ingane ifika endlini yakho. Kungenjalo, angase acabange ukuthi lo muntu omusha usethathe indawo yakhe. Okubalulekile ukuthi uqale uzinike isikhathi sokuhlangana nomama wakho, ngaphandle komntwana. Khona-ke, umama uyachaza ukuthi umntwana ukhona, nokuthi angahlangana naye. Mazise kumfowabo omncane (udadewabo omncane), makasondele, ahlale eduze. Ungambuza ukuthi ucabangani ngakho. Kodwa, njengasesimemezelweni, mnike isikhathi sokujwayela ! Ukuze uhambisane nomcimbi, ungamtshela ukuthi ukuzalwa kwakhe kwenzeka kanjani, umbonise izithombe. Uma ubelethele esibhedlela esisodwa sokubeletha, mkhombise ukuthi wazalelwa kuliphi igumbi. “Konke lokhu kuzomqinisa idolo ingane ezokwazi ukuzwelana nale ngane nomona wengane ngoba ithole into efanayo nale entsha. baby”, kunezela uStephan Valentin.
Lapho omdala ekhuluma ngomfowabo / udadewabo omncane ...
“Siyibuyisela nini?” “,” Kungani engadlali isitimela? “,” Angimthandi, ulala njalo? »… Kumele ube ofundisayo, umchazele ubuqiniso balo mntwana futhi uphinde umtshele ukuthi abazali bakhe bayamthanda futhi abasoze bayeka ukumthanda.
Eza ekhaya nengane
Yazisa enkulu yakho
Kubalulekile ukumtshela ukuthi mude futhi angenza izinto eziningi. Ngisho, ngokwesibonelo, kusukela eneminyaka engu-3 ubudala, uSandra-Elise Amado usikisela ukuba amenywe ukuba abonise ingane endlini: “Ingabe uyafuna ukukhombisa ingane indlu yethu? “. Singase futhi sibandakanye umdala, lapho efisa, ukunakekela umntwana osanda kuzalwa: isibonelo, ngokumenza ahlanganyele ekugeza ngokubeka ngobumnene amanzi esiswini sakhe, asize ngoshintsho ngokunikeza ukotini noma ungqimba. Angakwazi nokumtshela nendaba encane, amculele ingoma ngaphambi kokulala ...
Mqinisekise
Cha, lo muntu omusha akayithathi indawo yakhe! Eminyakeni engu-1 noma engu-2, kungcono ukuba nezingane ezimbili zisondelane ngoba akufanele ukhohlwe ukuthi omdala naye uyingane. Ngokwesibonelo, lapho umntwana encela ibele noma encela ibhodlela, omunye umzali angase asikisele ukuba omdala ahlale eduze kwakhe nencwadi noma ithoyizi, noma alale eduze nomntwana. Kubalulekile futhi ukuthi omunye wenu enze izinto yedwa nenkulu. : isikwele, idamu lokubhukuda, ibhayisikili, imidlalo, ukuphuma, ukuvakasha ... Futhi uma, ngokuvamile, ingane yakho endala ihlehla futhi “izenza ingane” ngokuchamisa umbhede futhi, noma ngokungasafuni ukudla yodwa, zama dlalela phansi, ungamthethisi noma umehlise isithunzi.
Ungawulawula kanjani ulaka lwakho?
Ingabe uyamkhama udadewabo omncane (kancane kakhulu), amncinze noma amlume? Lapho kufanele uqine. Umdala wakho udinga ukukubona lokho abazali bayo bayomvikela futhi uma othile ezama ukumlimaza,kanye nomfowabo omncane noma udadewabo omncane. Lo mnyakazo wodlame ukhombisa ukusaba le mbangi, yokulahlekelwa uthando lwabazali bayo. Impendulo: “Unelungelo lokuthukuthela, kodwa ngiyakwenqabela ukuba ungamlimazi. “Ngakho intshisekelo yokumvumela ukuthi aveze imizwa yakhe: ngokwesibonelo” angakwazi ukudonsa intukuthelo yakhe “, noma ayidlulisele kunodoli angakwazi ukuwuphatha, awuthethise, awududuze ... : “Ngiyakuzwa, kunzima kuwe”. Akulula ukwabelana, lokho kuqinisekile!
Umbhali: Laure Salomon