Kusukela ekuzalweni kwendodakazi yami, ngaqonda ukuthi indlela omama abasebasha ababhekwa ngayo ihluke kakhulu phakathi kweJalimane neFrance. “Awu ngiyabonga kakhulu! Ngathi ngisamangele kugogo womyeni wami ewodini lababelethayo. Ngangisanda kwembula isipho sami sokuzalwa futhi ngathola ngokumangala isethi ebabazekayo yezingubo zangaphansi. Ugogo wanginika ngaleso sikhathi amazwi acashile: “Akufanele ukhohlwe umbhangqwana wakho…”
Okuncane okungashiwo ukuthi lolu hlelo luzobonakala luyikude eJalimane, lapho abesifazane abasha abasanda kubeletha bese beba omama abaningi kunabesifazane. Kungokwemvelo ukuma iminyaka emibili ukukhulisa izingane. Uma singakwenzi lokho, ngokushesha sifakwa ohlwini njengomama abangafaneleki. Umama, owokuqala, uhlezi engitshela ukuthi sizala izingane ukuze sizibone zikhula. Akakaze asebenze. Kepha kufanele wazi ukuthi uhlelo lwaseJalimane lukhuthaza abesifazane ukuthi bahlale ekhaya, ikakhulukazi, ngosizo lukahulumeni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukushiya ingane yakho kumzanyana noma enkulisa akuvamile kakhulu. Njengoba amahora okunakekela engedluli ihora leshumi nantathu ebusuku, omama ababuyela emsebenzini bangabamba itoho kuphela. I-Kindergarten (i-nurseries), kunoma yikuphi, ifinyeleleka kuphela kusukela eminyakeni emi-13 ubudala.
“Mnike i-paracetamol!” »Nginombono wokuzwa lo musho uphindaphindwa lapha ngokushesha nje lapho izingane zami zihogela noma ziba nomkhuhlane omncane. Lokhu kungimangaza kakhulu ngoba indlela yokwelapha eJalimane ingokwemvelo kakhulu. Okokuqala, siyalinda. Umzimba uyazivikela futhi siyawuvumela. Imithi iyindlela yokugcina. Umkhuba wokuzenzela, ukushiywa kwemikhiqizo yezimboni kuvame kakhulu: awekho amabhodwe amancane, ama-organic purees, amanabukeni aagezekayo ... Ngendlela efanayo, abesifazane bayayifulathela i-epidural ukuze bakuzwe ngokugcwele ukubeletha kwabo. Ukuncelisa ibele nakho kubalulekile. Sitshelwa ukuthi kunzima, kodwa kumele sibambelele kuzo zonke izindlela. Namuhla, ngokombono wami we-expat, ngizitshela ukuthi amaJalimane angaphansi kwengcindezi emangalisayo. Ngakwazi ngaphandle kokuzizwa nginecala, nganquma ukuyeka ukuncelisa ngemva kwezinyanga ezimbili ngoba amabele ami ayebuhlungu, ayengahambi kahle futhi kwakungaseyona intokozo ebantwaneni bami noma kimina.
EJalimane, ukudla akudlalwa. Ukuba etafuleni, ukuhlala phansi kahle, kubalulekile kithi. Ayikho ingane edlalisa ithoyizi sibe sifaka isipuni emlonyeni singanakile. Nokho izwe licabanga ukubekela izingane izindawo zokudlela ukuze zikwazi ukuyozijabulisa. Kodwa hhayi etafuleni! Ukuhlukahluka kokudla kuqala ngenyanga yesi-7 ngokusanhlamvu. Kusihlwa ikakhulukazi, sinikeza iphalishi lokusanhlamvu elixutshwe nobisi lwenkomo namanzi, konke ngaphandle kokushukela. Uma ingane iphenduka iqinile, siyayimisa ibhodlela. Ngokungazelelwe, ubisi lweminyaka engu-2 noma yesi-3 alukho.
Amakhambi namathiphu
Uma izingane zinezinhlungu zesisu, zinikezwa infusions of fennel, futhi ukuze zizole, zinikezwa ama-chamomile herbal teas aphuma ebhodleleni.
Ukuze sivuse i-lactation, siphuza ubhiya omncane ongewona utshwala.
Ngezinye izikhathi eFrance ngibona abazali bethethisa izingane zabo emgwaqweni, epaki, into eyayingeke ibonakale eJalimane. Siyabakhuza abancane uma befika ekhaya, hhayi esidlangalaleni. Sasivame ukushaya noma ukushaya izandla esikhathini esidlule, kodwa akusaphathwa. Namuhla, isijeziso siwukuvinjelwa kwethelevishini, noma kuthiwa abahambe baye ekamelweni labo!
Ukuhlala eFrance kungenza ngibone izinto ngendlela ehlukile, ngaphandle kokungitshela ukuthi enye indlela ingcono kunenye. Ngokwesibonelo, ngakhetha ukubuyela emsebenzini lapho izingane zami zinezinyanga eziyisi-6 ubudala. Eqinisweni, ngezinye izikhathi ngithola le mibono emibili iyeqisa: abangani bami baseFrance bacabanga ukuphinda baqalise umsebenzi wabo kanye “nenkululeko” ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, lapho abaseJalimane sebekhohliwe kakhulu.
Ukuba ngumama eJalimane: izinombolo
Izinga lokuncelisa: 85% ekuzalweni
Isilinganiso sengane / sowesifazane: 1,5
Ikhefu lokuyobeletha: 6 amasonto ngaphambi kokubeletha kanye 8 ngemuva kokubeletha.
Ikhefu labazali iminyaka engu-1 kuya ikhokhwe ngo-65% wesamba somholo womzali onquma ukuyeka
kungenzeka futhi.