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Indlela yokusiza ingane ukuba iphile ngejubane layo?
Yenza izinqumo ezinhle ekuqaleni konyaka wesikole. Futhi uma kulo nyaka, bekungabazali abebesihlonipha isigqi somntwana wabo hhayi ngenye indlela.
ULouise uyingane engaphumuli kakhulu. Abazali bakhe abakwazi ukuchaza lokhu kuziphatha futhi, njengabaningi, bafuna iseluleko kuchwepheshe. Amantombazane anjengoLouise, uGeneviève Djénati, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esisebenza emndenini, ahlangana kakhulu ehhovisi lakhe. Abangaphumuli, abacindezelekile noma ngokuphambene nalokho bavimbele izingane ezinento eyodwa abafana ngazo: abaphili ngejubane labo. Ezweni elikahle, ingane izolandela isigqi somuntu omdala futhi ibone yonke into ngesikhathi sangempela. Asikho isidingo sokuphinda izikhathi eziyishumi kuye ukuze aphume okugeza kwakhe, ukumbizela etafuleni imizuzu engu-15 noma ukulwa ngesikhathi sokulala ... Yebo kwimodi yephupho, ngoba iqiniso lihluke kakhulu.
Isikhathi sabazali akusona isikhathi sezingane
Ingane idinga isikhathi sokuzwa nokuqonda. Lapho simnika ulwazi noma simcela ukuba enze okuthile, ngokuvamile kumthatha isikhathi esiphindwe kathathu kunomuntu omdala ukuhlanganisa umlayezo futhi ngenxa yalokho enze ngokufanele. Phakathi nezikhathi zokulinda, ezibalulekile ekukhuleni kwakhe, ingane izokwazi ukuphupha, icabange ukuthi kuzokwenzekani. Ijubane labantu abadala, indlela yabo yokuphila yamanje elawulwa ukuphuthuma nokushesha, ayikwazi ukusetshenziswa kwabancane ngaphandle kokulungiswa okuthile. ” Ingane icelwa isikhathi esifushane kakhulu sokuphendula, njengokungathi kufanele azi ngaphambi kokuba afunde, uyazisola isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Kuyamphazamisa kakhulu ukuphila ngesigqi okungesona esakhe. Angase abe nomuzwa wokungazethembi okumenza abe buthaka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kwezinye izimo ezimbi kakhulu, ukuphazamiseka kwesikhashana kungaholela ekusebenzeni ngokweqile. “Ingane ihlale inyakazisa, isuka komunye umdlalo iye komunye futhi ayikwazi ukwenza okuthile kusukela ekuqaleni kuze kube sekugcineni, kucacisa uGeneviève Djénati. Isimo sezulu sidambisa usizi ngakho uyayaluza ebalekela lesi simo. ”
Hlonipha isigqi sengane yakho, ingafundwa
Sisihlonipha kahle isigqi somntwana ngokumnika ukudla lapho efunwa khona phakathi nezinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala zokuphila kwakhe, ngakho kungani singanaki esengane. Kunzima ukunqoba izithiyo zokuphila kwansuku zonke kodwa ukukhohlwa ngezikhathi ezithile umjaho ophikisana newashi ukunikeza isikhathi, sesikhathi sakhe, kuhle kumndeni wonke. Njengoba uGeneviève Djénati egcizelela: “ abazali kufanele baphathe izinto eziningi, kodwa ingane ayikwazi ukulawulwa. Kufanele ubeke umthelela, imizwa ibuyele ebuhlotsheni. »Ingane idinga isikhathi sokuyilalela nokumbuza. Lena indlela engcono kakhulu yokugwema ukungezwani nezingxabano futhi ekugcineni wonge isikhathi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Lapho isikhathi sabazali nezingane sihlanganiswa, “isigaba sesithathu sifakwa ekuphileni kwabo, leso sokudlala, sendalo evamile” lapho wonke umuntu ezikhulula khona ngokuvumelana.
Funda futhi: Abazali: Amathiphu ayi-10 okuthuthukisa ukuzithiba kwakho
Ekuseni ngaphambi kokuphuma kwesikole
Abazali bavame ukuvusa izingane zabo ngomzuzu wokugcina ukuze zithole ukulala okwengeziwe. Ngokungazelelwe, yonke into ixhunywe, isidlo sasekuseni sigwinywa ngokushesha (uma kusekhona), sigqoka ingane ukuba ihambe ngokushesha futhi ibe nesikhathi sokuzilungiselela. Umphumela: songa isikhathi okwamanje kodwa silahlekelwa izinga lesikhathi. Ngoba isimo esiphuthumayo siyabaqeda amandla abazali, sidala ukungezwani emndenini. “Ngezinye izikhathi sigcina sinezingane ezineminyaka engu-9 ezingakwazi ukuzigqokisa,” kusho uGeneviève Djénati. Abazange nje banikezwe isikhathi sokufunda. Ukuze uthuthukise isimo, okungenani ekuseni, ungaqala ngokuyisa iwashi lakho le-alamu phambili ngemizuzu engu-15.
Iphaseji eliya etafuleni
Ukudla nezingane ezisacathula kwesinye isikhathi kungaphenduka iphupho elibi. Akulula ukunaka ijubane lawo wonke umuntu. “Ngaso sonke isikhathi khumbula ukuthi lokho okubonakala kuhamba kancane kumzali kuyisigqi esivamile somntwana,” kugcizelela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Okokuqala, uqala ngokuhlala eduze kwezingane zakho lapho zihlezi etafuleni. Uma omunye wabo ehudula, siyabona ukuthi kungani edla kancane. Bese sizama ukuhlela kabusha isidlo sakusihlwa ngokufanele.
Ngesikhathi sokulala
Isimo sakudala, ingane iyanqikaza ukulala. Wathi engalala wabuyela endlini yokuphumula. Kusobala ukuthi akabuthi quthu ubuthongo futhi lokhu kubadumaza abazali ababe nosuku olukhathazayo, futhi bafuna into eyodwa kuphela: ukuthula. Kungani ingane imelana? Lokhu kungase kube ukuphela kwendlela yokuba adedele ingcindezi enkulu ngenxa yokuphuthuma okubusa endlini. Lesi sigqi abhekene naso simnika umunyu,usaba ukuhlukana nabazali bakhe. Esikhundleni sokuphikelela ukuthi alale, kungcono ukubambezela isikhathi sokulala kancane. Kungenzeka ukuthi ingane ilahlekelwe ubuthongo, kodwa okungenani izolala ngaphansi kwezimo ezinhle. Ngesikhathi sokulala, kubalulekile ukumtshela ukuthi “sibonane kusasa” noma, isibonelo, “uma uvuka kusasa ekuseni, sizotshelana amaphupho ethu”. Ingane iphila esikhathini samanje kodwa idinga ukwazi ukuthi kuzoba nemuva lokuzethemba.
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