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Indawo yokuhlala eshintshanayo emibuzweni
Kwakufanele kube umthethosivivinywa ophasiswe ngaphandle kobunzima. Uphuthelwe. Ukuhlolwa kombhalo othi “Igunya labazali kanye nezintshisakalo zengane”, okuhlongozwe isekela leSocialist uMarie-Anne Chapdelaine, kudingeke ukuthi kuhlehliswe i-sine die ngenxa yokuqubuka kwezichibiyelo ezethulwe ngabaphikisayo. Isihloko esimayelana negunya lemfundo yansuku zonke yosingamzali engamukelwa kuphela. Ezinye izihloko zaziyinkulumo-mpikiswano evuthayo ngaphakathi nangaphandle kweNkantolo, njengaleyo eyayithi ingane izozuza ngempela ngokuhlala abantu ababili, nabazali bayo ngamunye. Isilinganiso sasihloselwe ukuba sibe esingokomfanekiso, kwakuwukuqeda umqondo “wendawo yokuhlala eyinhloko”, evame ukunikeza umzali ongagcini ngokugcina izingane umuzwa wokuthi woniwe. Kubabhali bombhalo, lokhu kubusa okukabili kwakungasho ukuqaliswa okuhlelekile, ngokuzenzakalela, kokushintshana okuhlanganyelwe kwelungelo lokuhlala phakathi kukababa nomama. Kodwa abahlaseli bomlando bendawo yokuhlala eshintshanayo baqinisekile ukuthi bekuwumzamo wokuyibeka njengendlela ephambili yenhlangano ngemuva kwanoma yikuphi ukuhlukana. Ngakho-ke ochwepheshe abangaphezu kwe-5 nezinhlangano basukumele phezulu ngesikhalazo esilahla "enye indawo yokuhlala ebekwe kuyo yonke iminyaka". Phezulu kwabo nguMaurice Berger, inhloko yomnyango wezifo zengqondo zezingane e-CHU de Saint-Étienne, uBernard Golse, inhloko yomnyango esibhedlela i-Necker-Enfants Malades noJacqueline Phélip, umongameli wenhlangano “ye-L'Enfant devant”. .
Enye indawo yokuhlala, contraindicated izingane ezisacathula
Laba chwepheshe bacela ukuba umthetho owenqabela uku-oda enye indawo yokuhlala yengane engaphansi kweminyaka engu-6 ubudala, ngaphandle kwemvume yokuzithandela yabo bobabili abazali, ufakwe emthethweni. Kuvele ukuthi leli yiphuzu elincane elingaxabani. Ochwepheshe abaningi ebuntwaneni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi benza noma baphikisane nokwandiswa kwezinhlelo zokufunda umsebenzi, bayakukholelwa lokhokufanele ihambisane neminyaka yengane, futhi ingalingani kusukela ekuqaleni. Cishe ngazwilinye, izinga lama-50/50 kanye nezinsuku ezingu-7/7 libhekwa njengeliyiphutha enganeni engaphansi kweminyaka emi-3 ubudala. Bese, njengenjwayelo, kukhona “anti” ngokuphelele kanye “nochwepheshe” olinganiselayo. Kuya ngokuthi uchwepheshe oceliwe usebenzisa inkolelo-mbono yokunamathiselwe encwadini futhi ungaphezulu noma ngaphansi kokuthi "umama", uzocabangela ukuthi ingane akufanele ilale ngaphandle kwekhaya likamama ngaphambi kweminyaka engu-2 ubudala, noma izozwa ukuthi ingane encane ingasuka kunina, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanele (hhayi ngaphezulu kwamahora angama-48).
Eqinisweni, bambalwa abazali abafuna lolu hlobo lokunakekela izingane ezincane kakhulu, futhi kunoma yikuphi, ambalwa amajaji akunikezayo.. Ngokwezibalo zoMnyango Wezobulungiswa kusukela ngo-2012 *, U-13% wezingane ezineminyaka engaphansi kwemi-5 zihlala ndawonye, uma kuqhathaniswa no-24,2% wezingane ezineminyaka engu-5-10 ubudala.. Futhi ezinganeni ezingaphansi kweminyaka emi-5, wukusabalalisa okuguquguqukayo, hhayi u-50/50 wamasonto onke, okhethwayo. UGérard Poussin, uprofesa wezengqondo yezokwelapha, ovezwe njengomsekeli wenye indawo yokuhlala, utshele ephephabhukwini laseQuebec ukuthi useyekile ukushicilela umsebenzi wabafundi bakhe ababili, ngoba esibonelweni sabo sezingane ezingamashumi amathathu nesithupha, ziyisithupha kuphela kubo. babephakathi kweminyaka emi-3 nengu-6 ubudala, futhi akekho owayeneminyaka engaphansi kwemi-3 ubudala. Ngisho nomsebenzi wocwaningo, ngakho-ke kunzima ukuthola izingane ezincane kakhulu ezingaphansi kwesigqi kanambambili ngokuphelele!
Enye indawo yokuhlala, okufanele igwenywe ezimeni ezingqubuzanayo
Lesi esinye isexwayiso esikhishwe yi-5 petition. Uma kwenzeka ukungqubuzana phakathi kwabazali, ukungenela indawo yokuhlala eshintshanayo kumelwe kwenqatshelwe.. Lesi sixwayiso senza amaqoqo obaba agxume. ” Kulula kakhulu ! », Bayaphikisana. Kwanele ukuthi umama aveze ukungezwani kwakhe ukuze abuyiselwe kuyena. Lena impikiswano ngaphakathi kwenkulumo-mpikiswano. Obaba abazizwa bonile ngomthetho bavame ukubeka phambili “i-parental alienation syndrome”, ngokusho kwayo umzali (kulokhu umama) akhohlisa ingane yakhe futhi abangele ukuba nomuzwa wokulahlwa ngomunye. umzali. Ochwepheshe abasayine incwadi yezikhalazo ngokumelene nenye indawo yokuhlala baphikisana nokuba khona kwalesi sifo futhi baphinde bagxeke enye ingxenye yomthethosivivinywa: ukusungulwa kwenhlawulo yentela ebekwe kumzali engavimbela ukusetshenziswa kwegunya labazali kowayeshade naye. Isihloko esingaphansi sisobala: omama bayohlale bethembekile lapho benqaba ukwethula ingane kowayeshade naye ukuze bamvumele ukuba asebenzise ilungelo lakhe lendawo yokuhlala. Nokho, izimantshi eziningi nabameli bayaqaphela ukuthi kukhona ngempela isilingo phakathi kwabanye babo sokuba “bathumbe” ingane futhi bacekele phansi isithunzi sikayise.. Ukuqonda okubi phakathi kwabazali noma kunjalo kuqhubekele phambili kuma-35% ezinqumo zokwenqaba enye indawo yokuhlala.. Kodwa, ngokuthakazelisayo, lapho kunokungaboni ngaso linye phakathi kwabazali, indawo yokuhlala eyinhloko ngokuvamile ayibizwa ngokuthi umama (63% ngokumelene nama-71% ezivumelwaneni zokuthula) futhi kabili kaningi kubaba (24% ngokumelene ne-12% ezivumelwaneni zokuthula). Ngakho-ke obaba ababona, isikhathi ngasinye, abahluliwe abakhulu endabeni, ngokuphambene nalokho okushiwo ukunyakaza kobaba njalo.
Ezinyangeni eziyishumi nesishiyagalombili ezedlule, lapho labobaba begibela kuma-cranes befuna ukufinyelela okulinganayo kuzingane zabo, ochwepheshe bakhumbula iqiniso lalezi zibalo: u-10% kuphela wokuhlukana okungqubuzanayo, iningi lamadoda alikufuni ukugada izingane, kanti u-40% wemali yesondlo ayikhokhelwa.. Ngemva kokuhlukana, inkambiso ingase ibe ukuhlukana kancane kancane, noma kancane ngokuzithandela kukababa, bese kuba ukuhlukaniswa nokuba sengozini kukamama.. Ngibhekene nalesi simo sangempela nesishaqisayo, abakholi aba-5 nokho bancamela ukulwa nengcuphe ecatshangelwayo, leyo yokuhlelwa kwezindawo zokuhlala ezishintshanayo zezingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka engama-500 ubudala.
* Isikhungo sokuhlola ubulungiswa bomphakathi, “Indawo yokuhlala yezingane zabazali abahlukene, Kusukela esicelweni sabazali kuya esinqumweni sejaji”, Juni 2012.