Konke mayelana nokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha

Kuyini ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha?

La ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kufanele ihlukaniswe ne-baby-blues, empeleni, i-baby-blues ngokuvamile izibonakalisa ezinsukwini ezilandela ukuzalwa. Ngokuvamile kungaba ngenxa yezinguquko emazingeni e-hormone ngenxa yalokho nokubeletha. I-baby blues iyadlula futhi idala imizwa enamandla kanye nokwesaba ukungakwazi ukunakekela ingane yakho.  

Uma izimpawu ze baby-blues qhubeka ngale kwesonto lokuqala, uma zanda futhi zizinzile ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lokhu ukucindezeleka ngemuva kokubeletha.

Yiziphi izimpawu zokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha?

Omama abasebancane abanokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha bavame ukuba ne- umuzwa wecala okuhlobene nokungakwazi ukunakekela ingane yabo. Lokhu kubangela ukukhathazeka okunamandla okuhlobene nempilo noma ukuphepha kwengane. Besaba ukulimaza ingane. Abanye besifazane nabo banikeza umbono wokuphelelwa isithakazelo enganeni yabo. Okokugcina, ngezikhathi zokucindezeleka, sivame ukuzihlukanisa futhi sizihlukanise, ngezinye izikhathi sibe nemicabango eguquguqukayo noma yokuzibulala.

Yimuphi umehluko phakathi kwe-Baby blues kanye ne-postpartum depression?

Ezinye izimpawu ze ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha azivusi kakhulu ngoba zivame ukuba khona kulesi sikhathi esilandela ukubeletha. Bangadideka - ngokungalungile - nge-blues yengane elula, ngokuvamile engapheli ngaphezu kwezinsuku ezimbalwa ngemva kokubeletha. Omama bavame ukuba nokuphazamiseka kwesifiso sokudla noma ukulala, ukukhathala okukhulu, futhi ngezinye izikhathi bangabi nasithakazelo emisebenzini evamile.

Ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha: izici eziyingozi

Uyanyakaza akunakwenzeka ukubikezela ukuthi ubani ozoba nokucindezeleka ngemva kokuzalwa. Nokho, abanye omama ngokushesha basengozini kakhulu kunabanye. Ikakhulukazi labo asebevele babhekana nesiqephu sokucindezeleka ngesikhathi noma ngaphambi kokukhulelwa kwabo.

Ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kungenzeka lapho ukukhulelwa noma ukubeletha kwakunzima, lapho ukukhulelwa kwakungadingeki noma lapho kuphakama izinkinga emntwaneni ngesikhathi sokuzalwa (ngaphambi kwesikhathi, isisindo esincane, ukulaliswa esibhedlela, njll.).

Izici zenhlalo-mnotho nazo zivuna ubunzima bomama: izinkinga zomshado, umama ongayedwa, isikhathi sokungasebenzi, njll.

Ekugcineni, isenzakalo sakamuva esicindezelayo, njengokushonelwa noma ukuwohloka komshado nakho kunethonya.

Imiphumela yokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha enganeni

Empeleni ingu-a ithonya ekukhuleni kwengqondo nokuziphatha kwengane. Izingane zomama abacindezelekile zingase zibonise izimpawu zokucasuka noma ukukhathazeka kube nzima ukudedela unina nokwesaba abanye. Kwesinye isikhathi baveza ukubambezeleka ekufundeni, njengamakhono olimi noma amakhono emoto. Ezinye izingane zihlushwa izinkinga zokugaya ukudla (ama-spasms, ukwenqatshwa) noma ukuphazamiseka kokulala.

Ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha: isibopho sikamama nengane kanye nombhangqwana

Ebudlelwaneni obuphazanyiswa kakhulu yilesi sifo, omama abacindezelekile ngokuvamile abazinaki izidingo zengane yabo, abanalo uthando futhi bayabekezelela. Izingxabano phakathi kwabashadikazi ngokuvamile zibangelwa ukudangala kwangemva kokubeletha futhi akuvamile ukuthi umlingani agcine esethula inkinga engokwengqondo. Into yokuqala uma uzizwa kabi ngemva kokuzalwa kwengane yakho khuluma ngokuhlupheka kwakhe futhi ikakhulukazi ungazihlukanisi. Umndeni, ubaba, abangani abaseduze ngokuvamile bawusizo olukhulu. Inhlangano ye-Maman blues isiza omama abadonsa kanzima ngokuba ngumama. Ngokuvamile ukulandelela kwengqondo kuyadingeka ukuze ukhuphuke umqansa.

Ungaphuma kanjani ekucindezelekeni kwangemva kokubeletha: yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha ezihlukene zokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha?

Ezengqondo 

Ukwelashwa ngokuhlanganyela kukamama nengane nge-psychotherapist kuyisixazululo esingcono kakhulu. Ukwelashwa kungathatha amaviki angu-8 kuye kwayi-10. Phakathi nalezi zikhathi, umelaphi uzoqeda ukungqubuzana phakathi kukamama nengane, ngokuvamile ngokubuyela emuva kanye nokungqubuzana okungenzeka kwakhe nomugqa wakhe womama. Ukwelashwa kuzovumela ukubuyiselwa kobudlelwane phakathi kukamama nengane. 

Amayunithi omzali nengane 

EFrance, cishe kunamayunithi angamashumi amabili omzali nengane; omama bangalaliswa khona isikhathi esigcwele noma nje usuku. Kulezi zinyunithi, ithimba labanakekeli elakhiwe odokotela bengqondo yezingane, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, abahlengikazi basenkulisa kanye nabahlengikazi benza umsebenzi wokuvumela umama ukuba aphinde azethembe, ukuze asekele isibopho nengane yakhe. Isibopho sokunamathela esidingekayo ekuthuthukisweni kwayo phakathi nezinyanga zayo zokuqala zokuphila. 

Ukungenelela kwasekhaya

Amanye amayunithi omzali nengane amise uhlelo lokunakekela ngokwengqondo yasekhaya ukuze avale ukuntuleka kwezindawo kumayunithi omzali nengane. Lokhu kunakekelwa kwenziwa ngumhlengikazi osungula umsebenzi ongokwengqondo nomama, futhi aqaphe impilo nezidingo zomntwana. Lolu sizo lwasekhaya luvumela abesifazane ukuthi baphinde bathole ukuzethemba. 

Ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha: Indaba kaMarion

“Ukuwa kwenzeke ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane yami yesibili. Ngangishonelwe ingane yokuqala ku-utero ngakho lokhu kukhulelwa okusha, kusobala, ngangikwesaba. Kodwa kusukela ekukhulelweni kokuqala, ngangizibuza imibuzo eminingi. Ngangikhathazekile, ngezwa ukuthi ukufika kwengane kuzoba yinkinga. Futhi lapho indodakazi yami izalwa, kancane kancane ngacindezeleka. Ngazizwa ngingelutho, ngingelutho. Naphezu kwalobu bunzima, ngakwazi ukuzihlanganisa nengane yami, yanceliswa, yathola uthando olukhulu. Kodwa lesi sibopho asizange sibe nokuthula. Ngangingazi ukuthi ngizosabela kanjani lapho ngikhala. Ngalezo zikhathi, ngangingasatholakali nhlobo. Ngangivele ngithatheke kalula bese ngizizwa nginecala. Emasontweni ambalwa ngemva kokuzalwa, othile ovela ku-PMI wangivakashela ukuze athole ukuthi kwakuhamba kanjani. Bengiphansi kwalasha kodwa yena akaboni lutho. Ngakufihla lokhu kuphelelwa ithemba ngenxa yehlazo. Ubani owayengaqagela? “Nganginakho konke” ukuze ngijabule, umyeni owayehileleke, izimo zokuphila ezinhle. Umphumela, ngizigoqe. Ngangicabanga ukuthi ngiyinunu. Ngagxila kule mibono yobudlova. Bengithi bazofika bathathe ingane yami.

Nganquma nini ukusabela ekucindezelekeni kwami ​​kwangemva kokubeletha?

Lapho ngiqala ukwenza izenzo ezingalindelekile enganeni yami, lapho ngesaba ukuyihlukumeza. Ngiseshe ku-inthanethi ukuze ngithole usizo futhi ngathola isayithi lika-Blues Mom. Ngikhumbula kahle, ngabhalisa esithangamini futhi ngavula isihloko esithi “hysteria and nervous breakdown”. Ngaqala ukuxoxa nomama ababeyiqonda le nto engibhekene nayo. Ngeseluleko sabo, ngaya kudokotela wokusebenza kwengqondo esikhungweni sezempilo. Njalo ngesonto, ngangimbona lo muntu isigamu sehora. Ngaleso sikhathi, ukuhlupheka kwakungangokuba ngacabanga ukuzibulala, lokho Ngangifuna ukulaliswa esibhedlela nengane yami ukuze ngiqondiswe. Kancane kancane, ngenyuka ngomqansa. Kwakungadingeki ngiphuze noma yiluphi uhlobo lwemithi, ukukhuluma okwangisiza. Futhi futhi iqiniso lokuthi ingane yami iyakhula futhi kancane kancane iqala ukuziveza.

Ngenkathi ngikhuluma nalokhu kuncipha, izinto eziningi ezingcwatshiwe zavela phezulu. Ngathola ukuthi nomama wami waba nenkinga yokuzala ngemva kokuzalwa kwami. Okwakwenzeke kimi kwakungeyona into encane. Uma ngibheka emuva emlandweni womndeni wami, ngaqonda ukuthi kungani nganginyakaza. Ngokusobala lapho ingane yami yesithathu izalwa ngangesaba ukuthi amadimoni ami amadala azophinde avele. Base bebuya. Kodwa ngangazi ukuthi ngingazinqanda kanjani ngokuqala kabusha ukulandelelwa kwezokwelapha. Njengabanye omama abaye baba nokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, okunye okungikhathazayo namuhla ukuthi izingane zami zizokhumbula lobu bunzima bomama. Kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle. Intombazanyana yami ijabule kakhulu futhi umfana wami uhleka kakhulu. “