Okuqukethwe
Sawubona! Akuvamile kakhulu, ubuvila buwukubonakaliswa komlingiswa obuthakathaka, ukungabi namandla, njalonjalo. Ngokuyisisekelo, kuvela ukuthi kuwuphawu, okungukuthi, isibani esinjalo sokuthi umuntu wenza okuthile okungalungile noma okuthile okungalungile empilweni yakhe. Kungani kungekho amandla okwenza, qaphela izifiso zakho, futhi ngezinye izikhathi uvele uvuke embhedeni.
Futhi namuhla ngiphakamisa ukuthi ucabangele izimbangela eziyinhloko zobuvila kubantu abadala. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi yini ngempela okufanele ubhekane nayo. Uma kungenjalo, yonke imizamo yokuyinqoba ingaba yize ngokuphelele, ngoba ekuqaleni kuyadingeka ukuthola imbangela yesimo esinjalo.
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Ngokuvamile, ezinye izifo zithatha amandla amaningi, njengoba umuntu kufanele abekezelele ubuhlungu, ukungakhululeki, zonke izinhlobo zezifundo zezokwelapha, izinqubo ...
Ngezinye izikhathi uzama ukuzivumelanisa nanoma yiziphi izimo contraindicated ngokuphelele kuye. Futhi ngokuvamile, "isizinda" sesifo, okungukuthi, ngokungabonakali, singancisha wonke amandla, kuze kube seqophelweni lokuthi ngeke kuhlale kufisa.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, emphakathini wethu, abantu bavame ukufuna usizo lapho kuba nzima ukubekezelela. Okusho ukuthi, bangakwazi ukubekezelela izifo isikhathi eside kakhulu, hhayi nje "ukuthola" ukuxilongwa.
Futhi ngenkathi "bedlala umacashelana" ngesifo sabo, kancane kancane ubhubhisa umzimba, uwuphuca zonke izinsiza.
Indlela yokuphila engalungile
Lokhu kubhekisela ekuntulekeni kokusebenza ngokomzimba, ukulala kahle nokudla kwekhwalithi. Manje, uma ifoni ingashajiwe isikhathi eside, ingena kumodi yokonga amandla. Okusho ukuthi, ukukhanya kwe-backlight okungenani, ezinye izinhlelo zivaliwe, njalonjalo.
Kungokufanayo nangemizimba yethu. Ngakho-ke, kukhona ukuntuleka kobungqabavu. Amathuba anqunyelwe, kuyadingeka ukwanelisa izidingo eziphuthumayo ezizosiza ukusinda. Okunye kuba yinto engasho lutho.
Futhi ngendlela, uyazi ukuthi yini enye esongela ukuntuleka kokusebenza kwengqondo nomzimba? Umuntu ulahlekelwa umuzwa wokuzwana kwangaphakathi futhi aphazamiseke ngokomzwelo. Ngokungazi, "uzilungiselela" ukwehlukana kwakhe, ngoba akukho okuvelayo okuthile okuvela ekuphileni, ukudla okucatshangwayo nakho.
Futhi ukuqhuma kwentukuthelo, njengoba kungenzeka uyazi, kuyakhathaza kakhulu, kuchitha wonke amandla akho. Ngemuva kwalokho, ngokwemvelo, isimo siqala lapho "kahle, angifuni lutho." Futhi njalo embuthanweni kuze kube yilapho ubuvila obungapheli noma i-astheno-depressive syndrome kwenzeka.
Ngokuvamile, i-psychology yomuntu ilandelayo - lapho esebenza kakhulu, izinsiza namandla anakho.
Kodwa ukubeka umgomo, isibonelo, ukuya ejimini ngoMsombuluko, nakho kuyingozi. Njengoba ngokuvamile izithembiso ezinjalo zihlala zisesimweni sezithembiso, futhi amahloni nomuzwa wecala kusahlala ngaphakathi kangangokuthi azizange zifeze lokho ezazikulindele. Kusho ukuthi akakwazi lutho nokunye. Kusukela lapho kukhona ukumelana nakakhulu ukwenza okuthile.
Ngakho-ke, uma ucabanga ngokuthile, qala ukukusebenzisa ngaso leso sikhathi.
Iqiniso lezifiso
Khumbula, lapho ufuna okuthile ngempela, kuba nomuzwa wokuthi akukho okungakuvimba? Uzonqoba noma yiziphi izithiyo, kodwa ingabe uzowufeza umgomo wakho?
Futhi konke ngoba isifiso siyisisusa esinamandla kakhulu. Kufana nenjini esishayela ngaphandle kokusivumela ukuba sime.
Ngakho-ke, ngeshwa, ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi umuntu ulandela indlela yokumelana okuncane futhi ufuna ukuhlangabezana nokulindelwe abathandekayo nabathandekayo abathandekayo. Kungani ekhetha umsebenzi ongahehi nhlobo.
Lokhu kuvame ukwenzeka uma kukhona isizukulwane sonke sodokotela emndenini futhi inzalo inganikezwa ithuba lokuba, isibonelo, umculi. Noma kunebhizinisi elidinga ukudluliselwa kundlalifa, walithatha wanquma ukwenza izifundo zobudokotela bezilwane.
Ngokuvamile, uyaqonda ukuthi izimo zihlukile. Munye kuphela umphumela - umuntu uphucwa ilungelo lokuzikhethela. Futhi-ke ukunganeliseki kuyanqwabelana, kanye nentukuthelo, engase ingabonakali, iphazamise ukuzibona.
Noma kuyenzeka umuntu avele angazi ukuthi ufunani. Lokho akukwazi ukuthola izifiso zabo, qaphela izidingo. Futhi uqala ukwenza lokho akunikezwayo. Futhi ngokuphelele ngaphandle kokuthakasela nobumnandi.
Ngakho-ke, uma uqaphela ukuthi usuvilaphe, cabanga ukuthi ngabe konke kwenzeka ngendlela obuyifunayo futhi oyiphuphile?
Crisis
Izinkinga azinakugwenywa, zingabangane abaqhubekayo bomuntu ngamunye wethu. Uma nje ngoba zisiza ukuthuthukisa, phambili, ukushintsha.
Ngakho-ke, lapho kufika isikhathi sokuthi «okudala kungasebenzi, futhi okusha akukakasungulwa» - umuntu udidekile. Icala elihle kakhulu lesimo. Ngokuvamile ukwesaba, ikakhulukazi uma ujwayele ukugcina yonke into ilawulwa. Bese kuba yiqhwa ngokoqobo, ame, ngoba awazi ukuthi enzeni, noma alinde ukuthi yonke into ibuyele ezingqondweni zayo.
Futhi yizo kanye izikhathi ezinjalo ezingase kudidaniswe nobuvila. Amanani ashintshile, kanye nemihlahlandlela, yingakho kubalulekile ukuthi ubuyekeze izinhloso zakho nezinto eziza kuqala ukuze unqume ukuthi yini okufanele uyilandele nokuthi uthembele ini.
Ngakho-ke uma uke wabhekana nesiphetho esinjalo, ungazithethisi ngokungenzi lutho, kodwa kunalokho chofoza lapha, lapha uzothola imininingwane enemininingwane yokuthi ungasithola kanjani isiphetho sakho, injongo yokuphila.
Protection
Sekuvele kushiwo ukuthi uma umzimba usuphelile, ungena kwimodi yokonga amandla. Ngakho-ke, kungalesi sikhathi lapho ubuvila busiza ukubuyisela, ukuzivikela emthwalweni. Futhi akunandaba ukuthi umuntu wayesebenza ngokweqile, noma i-asthenia yazibonakalisa ngokumelene nesizinda sokucindezeleka okuhlangenwe nakho, noma ngisho nakakhulu, ngenxa yokukhathala kwesimiso sezinzwa.
Ngakho-ke, uma ungazange uzinakekele, ungazinaki amaholide, izimpelasonto, ubhekane nezinkinga wedwa, njalonjalo, bese ubonga i-psyche yakho ukuthi ikunakekele ngendlela enjalo. Ngokuvula imodi yokuvilapha.
Abantu, ngenxa yesizathu esithile, abangazange bathole ukushintsha okunjalo ukuze basuke emsebenzini baye ekuzijabuliseni, banengozi yokubhekana nesifo sokukhathala. Okusongela ukucindezeleka isikhathi eside kanye nezifo ezihlukahlukene ze-psychosomatic. Ungathola ukuthi zinjani izindaba zakho, ngokuqondile, ukuthi ngabe lesi sifo sikufice ngosizo lwalolu vivinyo oluku-inthanethi.
Ukwesaba
Emphakathini, ubuvila bumukeleka kakhulu kunokuba, isibonelo, ubugwala, okuyinto ehlekwa usulu. Ngakho-ke, kulula kumuntu ukuthi angaqali uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi, alubeke kuze kube umzuzu wokugcina, kunokuba abeke ingozi futhi ayenze, bese ekhathazeka ngokuthi empeleni uphenduke isihluku, engakwazi lutho. .
Ukwesaba "ukuphelelwa amandla" kungaba namandla kakhulu. Futhi akufanele kuqashelwe, ngakho-ke umnikazi ngokwakhe ngezinye izikhathi akaqapheli ukuthi kungani engakwazi ukuziphoqa ukuba enze okuthile.
Ngale ndlela, uyakwazi ukulondoloza ukuzethemba kwakhe. Ikakhulukazi ezimweni lapho engaphansi kwengcindezi evela ngaphandle.
Umphakathi wamukela abantu abaningi abaphumelelayo, abaqinile futhi abazinzile. Izihlobo nabantu abaseduze bangalindela into engenakwenzeka ngokuphelele kulo muntu. Futhi ukubadumaza kusho ukulahlekelwa ilungelo lokuthanda. Ngeshwa, ezimweni eziningi, lena yindlela abantu ababona ngayo imiphumela yamathemba angenasisekelo.
Ukugcwaliswa
Ekugcineni, ngifuna ukuncoma isihloko esichaza izindlela eziphumelela kakhulu zokulwa nobuvila. Izosebenza kunoma yikuphi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukwazile ukuthola isizathu sokungasebenzi kwakho noma cha.
Zinakekele futhi, yebo, ujabule!
Indaba ilungiswe isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, i-Gestalt Therapist, uZhuravina Alina