Izinto eziyi-12 ezidinga umuntu ongenayo ukuze ajabule

“Njengoba ngangingumuntu ongeyena umuntu, ngangivame ukubhekana nokungakhululeki okukhulu,” kusho u-Jen Granneman, umbhali wencwadi ekhuluma ngezingeniso kanye nomsunguli womphakathi omkhulu we-inthanethi wabantu abaqalayo kanye nabantu abazwela kakhulu. “Ngangifuna ukufana nabangane bami ababengazi lutho, ngoba babengenankinga yokukhuluma nabantu abangabazi, babengakhathele ukukhulumisana nokuphila njengoba nganginjalo.”

Kamuva, egxile esifundweni salesi sihloko, waqaphela ukuthi akukho lutho olungalungile ngokuba umuntu ongamazi. "Phela, i-introversion iku-DNA yethu kusukela ekuzalweni, futhi ubuchopho bethu busebenza ngokuhlukile kunama-extroverts. Izingqondo zethu zicubungula okuvelayo ngokujulile, samukela kangcono ama-neurotransmitters e-dopamine, i-hormone "yokuzizwa kahle", futhi asikutholi ukondliwa okufanayo ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi okutholwa yizigebengu.

Ngenxa yalezi zici, abantu abanjalo bangadinga izimo ezihlukene ukuze bathole injabulo kunama-extroverts. Ngezansi kunezimo ezinjalo eziyi-12 ngokusho kukaJen Granneman.

1. Ukuphelelwa yisikhathi kokucutshungulwa kombono

Ngemuva kwamaphathi anomsindo neminye imicimbi, abangenisi badinga ikhefu ukuze bashaje amabhethri abo. Ngenxa yokucubungula kwabo okujulile kwemibono nezenzakalo, usuku olumatasatasa emsebenzini, ukuthenga ezitolo ezinkulu eziminyene, noma ingxoxo eshisayo kungaholela kalula ekukhathaleni.

Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uzinike isikhathi sokuphumula, "ukugaya" okuvelayo futhi unciphise izinga lokugqugquzela libe yinto ekhululekile futhi ezinzile. Uma kungenjalo, kuzobonakala sengathi ubuchopho buvele "bufile", ukucasuka, ukukhathala ngokomzimba, noma ngisho ne-malaise izovela.

2. Ingxoxo ezuzisayo

“Ibinjani impelasonto yakho?”, “Yini entsha?”, “Uyithanda kanjani imenyu?”… Becwile ngaphakathi kubo, abantu abathule bayakwazi ukukhuluma kahle, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi bayayithanda le fomethi. ukuxhumana. Kunemibuzo eminingi ebalulekile nethakazelisayo abangakujabulela ukuxoxa ngayo: “Yini entsha oyifundile muva nje?”, “Uhluke kanjani namuhla kulokho obuyikho izolo?”, “Ingabe uyakholelwa kuNkulunkulu?”.

Akuyona yonke ingxoxo edinga ukujula futhi ibe nenjongo. Ngezinye izikhathi imibuzo elula mayelana nokuthi amaholide ahamba kanjani nokuthi ngabe ulithandile yini iqembu lebhizinisi libalulekile kwabaqalayo. Kodwa uma «bondliwe» kuphela ngenkulumo encane ekha phezulu, bazizwa belambile ngaphandle kokukhulumisana okujulile, okunenjongo.

3. Ukuthula kobungane

Kungase kubonakale sengathi leli phuzu liyaphikisana nelangaphambili, kodwa badinga ukuthula okunethezekile kobungane. Kubo, abantu bayigugu ongakwazi ukuchitha amahora nabo ekamelweni elilodwa, ngamunye ezenzela okwakhe futhi engakhulumi, uma ungekho umoya wokuxoxa. Bayabazisa labo abangeke besabe ukuthola indlela yokuvala ikhefu, okudingekile ngezinye izikhathi ukuze kulungiswe imicabango yabo.

4. Ithuba lokugxila ezintweni ozilibazisayo nezithakaselayo

Amanoveli e-Gothic, izinganekwane zeCeltic, ukubuyiselwa kwemoto yevintage. Ukulima, ukunitha, ukudweba, ukupheka noma i-calligraphy. Uma introvert enentshisekelo kokuthile, angaya lapho ngekhanda lakhe. Leli thuba lokugxila ekuzilibaziseni nasezithakazelweni liyanika amandla.

Bemuncwa ukuzilibazisa abawuthandayo, abantu abanjalo bangena esimweni «sokugeleza» - bacwile ngokuphelele kulo msebenzi futhi bajabulele inqubo. Isimo sokugeleza kwabaningi babo senzeka ngokwemvelo futhi sinikeza umuzwa wenjabulo.

5. Isiphephelo esithulile

I-introvert, njenganoma yimuphi omunye umuntu, idinga indawo ethule, ezolile okungeyakhe kuphela. Lapho ungacasha isikhashana lapho umhlaba ubonakala unomsindo kakhulu. Ngokufanelekile, leli yigumbi umuntu angakwazi ukulihlomisa futhi alihlobise ngendlela yakhe. Ukuba yedwa ngaphandle kokwesaba ukungena kuyithuba kuye elifana nokuzijwayeza ngokomoya.

6. Isikhathi sokuzindla

NgokukaDkt. Marty Olsen Laney, umbhali we-Invincible Introvert, abantu abanalesi sici bangase bathembele kakhulu enkumbulweni yesikhathi eside kunasenkumbulo yesikhashana - ngendlela, okuphambene kuyiqiniso kuma-extroverts. Lokhu kungase kuchaze ukuthi kungani ama-introverts evame ukuzama ukubeka imicabango yawo ngamazwi.

Ngokuvamile badinga umzamo owengeziwe kanye nesikhathi sokucabanga ngaphambi kokuphendula, isikhathi eside kakhulu kunokuba ama-extroverts azindla ngezinkinga ezinkulu. Ngaphandle kwalesi sikhathi sokucubungula nokuzindla, ama-introverts ahlangabezana nengcindezi.

7. Ukukwazi ukuhlala ekhaya

Ama-introverts adinga ukumiswa kokuxhumana nabantu: ukuxhumana kudinga umthamo ocophelelayo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ikhono lokwenqaba ukuphuma "emphakathini" libalulekile, kanye nokuqonda isidingo esinjalo engxenyeni yomlingani, amalungu omndeni nabangane. Ukuqonda lokho akufaki ingcindezi nomuzwa wecala.

8. Injongo ebalulekile ekuphileni nasemsebenzini

Wonke umuntu udinga ukukhokha izikweletu futhi ayothenga, futhi kwabaningi iholo eliba yisikhuthazo sokuya emsebenzini. Kunabantu abajabule ngayo. Kodwa-ke, kuma-introverts amaningi lokhu akwanele - balungele ukusebenza ngokuzinikezela, kodwa kuphela uma kunesithakazelo nencazelo emsebenzini. Badinga okungaphezu nje kokusebenzela iholo.

Ngaphandle kwenjongo nenjongo ekuphileni - kungaba umsebenzi noma enye into - bayozizwa bengajabule ngokujulile.

9. Imvume yokuthula

Kwesinye isikhathi ama-introverts awanawo amandla okuxhumana nabanye. Noma baphendukela ngaphakathi, bahlaziye izehlakalo nokuvelayo. Izidingo zokuthi "ungathuli kangako" nokugudluza ukuze ukhulume kwenza laba bantu bangakhululeki. "Masithule - yilokhu esikudingayo ukuze sijabule," umlobi ekhuluma nabadayisi. "Ngemuva kwesikhathi esidingekayo sokucubungula imininingwane kanye nokushajwa kabusha, cishe sizobuyela kuwe ukuze siqhubeke nengxoxo."

10. Ukuzimela

Abaqalayo nabazimele kakhulu, abangenisi bavame ukuvumela izinsiza zabo zangaphakathi zibaqondise kunokulandela isixuku. Basebenza ngokuphumelelayo futhi bazizwa bejabule kakhulu lapho benenkululeko. Bathanda ukuzimela nokuzimela futhi benze izinto zabo.

11. Ukuphila okulula

UJen Granneman uchaza ukuphila okumatasa komngane wakhe owayengathandisisi—uvolontiya esikoleni, unakekela umkhaya wakhe, uhlela imibuthano yokuzijabulisa, konke lokhu ngaphezu komsebenzi wakhe wosuku. “Njengesingeniso, angisoze ngaphila esimisweni esinjalo,” uyaphawula, “impilo ehlukile ingifanela kangcono: incwadi emnandi, izimpelasonto zobuvila, ingxoxo ezuzisayo nomngane—yilokho okungijabulisayo.”

12. Uthando nokwamukelwa kwabathandekayo

I-introvert ayisoze yaba umuntu odume kakhulu ekamelweni. Eqenjini elikhulu labantu, angase anganakwa, njengoba evame ukuhlala ngemuva. Kodwa-ke, njengawo wonke umuntu, ama-introverts adinga abantu abasondelene nabanothando - labo ababona ukubaluleka kwabo, abanakekele futhi abamukele ngazo zonke izici zabo.

“Siyazi ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi kuba nzima ngathi - akekho ophelele. Uma usithanda futhi usamukela njengoba siyikho, wenza ukuphila kwethu kujabulise kakhulu,” kuphetha uJen Granneman.

Mayelana Nombhali: UJen Granneman ungumbhali wencwadi ethi The Secret Lives of Introverts.