Okuqukethwe
Uma ingane ihlale ibheka i-adventure ekhanda layo futhi ingafuni ukubona izindinganiso neziphathimandla, lokhu kungacasula abantu abadala. Kodwa inkani emfanekisweni wengane ihlobene ngokuqondile nempumelelo ephezulu esikhathini esizayo. Kanjani ngempela?
Ucingo lukhala phakathi nosuku. Ku-tube - izwi elijabulisayo likathisha. Yebo, "isiphukuphuku" sakho saphinde salwa futhi. Futhi njengenhlanhla kungaba nayo - nomfana onobude ngesigamu kunaye. Ucabanga ngokulangazela ukuthi uzoqhuba kanjani izingxoxo zemfundo kusihlwa: "ngeke uzuze lutho ngezibhakela zakho", "lesi yisikole, hhayi iklabhu yokulwa", "kuthiwani uma ulimala?". Kodwa-ke konke kuzophinde kwenzeke.
Inkani kanye nokuthambekela kokungqubuzana enganeni kungabangela ukukhathazeka kwabazali. Kubo kubonakala sengathi umlingiswa onzima kangaka, ngeke akwazi ukuhambisana nanoma ubani - emndenini, noma emsebenzini. Kodwa izingane ezinenkani zivame ukuba nengqondo ephilayo, ukuzimela kanye nomuzwa othuthukile othi «I».
Kunokuba ubathethise ngokungabi nasimilo noma ukudelela, naka izici ezinhle zobuntu obunjalo. Ngokuvamile ziyisihluthulelo sempumelelo.
Bakhombisa ukuphikelela
Uma abanye bephuma emjahweni becabanga ukuthi ngeke baphumelele, izingane ezinenkani ziya phambili. Inganekwane ye-basketball uBill Russell yake yathi, "Ukugxila kanye nokuqina kwengqondo kuyizinsika zokunqoba."
Abathintekile
Izingane ezivame ukuhambisana nabanye azazi ngempela ukuthi zifunani. Abanenkani, ngokuphambene nalokho, bagoba umugqa wabo futhi abanaki ukuhleka usulu. Abadidekile kalula.
Bavuka ngemva kokuwa
Uma uthayipha ekusesheni inkulumo ethi "imikhuba yabantu abaphumelelayo", cishe kuzo zonke izinto ezibonakalayo sizothola umusho onjalo: abaphelelwa yinhliziyo ngemva kokuhluleka. Lolu uhlangothi lwenkani - ukungafuni ukubekezelela izimo. Enganeni enemvelo enenkani, ubunzima nokungaqhumi kahle kuyisizathu esengeziwe sokuhlangana nizame futhi.
Bafunda kokuhlangenwe nakho
Ezinye izingane zidinga nje ukuthi “yekani” futhi zizolalela. Ingane enenkani izohamba ngemivimbo kanye nemihuzuko, kodwa lokhu kuzomvumela ukuba aqonde kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe ukuthi ubuhlungu buyini, yimiphi imiphumela ukuzimisela kwakhe okungaholela kuyo, lapho kufaneleka khona ukuyeka futhi uqaphele.
Bathatha izinqumo ngokushesha
Izingane ezinenkani azifaki izwi ephaketheni lazo futhi azinqikazi isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba zibuyisele emuva. Isivinini abasabela ngaso ekushukunyisweni siphenduka izenzo zokuqubuka. Kodwa ungakhathazeki: njengoba bekhula, bazofunda ukuhlakanipha okwengeziwe, futhi ukunganaki kwabo kuzoshintsha kube ukunquma.
Bayakwazi ukuthola okuthakazelisayo
Abazali bakhala ngezingane ezinenkani ukuthi azifuni ukufunda nokwenza imisebenzi evamile. Kodwa zona lezi zingane kamuva zidlala ngezinhlelo nama-microcircuits izinsuku zilandelana, zisethe amarekhodi ama-Olympic futhi zenze iziqalo eziphumelelayo. Abakaze banesithukuthezi - kodwa kuphela uma bengazami ukuphoqelela lokho abangakudingi.
Bayakwazi ukuphumelela
Ukuthambekela kokuphambana nemithetho nokwenza okuphambene neziyalezo kuhlotshaniswa nempumelelo lapho usumdala, ucwaningo lwakamuva lusikisela.1. “Ukungalaleli igunya labazali kungenye yezici ezinqumayo zenhlalakahle yezezimali, kanye ne-IQ ephezulu, isimo sabazali senhlalo nemfundo,” kuphawula ababhali. "Ngokusobala, lokhu kuxhumana kungenxa yokuthi amavukelambuso ayakwazi ukufeza izinhloso zawo futhi avikele izintshisekelo zawo ngokuqinile ezingxoxweni."
Bathembekile kubo ngokwabo
Umlobi uClive Staples Lewis wathi umuntu uthembekile kuye uma “enza okulungile, ngisho nalapho kungekho muntu ombhekayo.” Izingane ezinenkani zinikezwe le mfanelo ngobuningi. Akufiki kubo ukuthi badlale phezulu bazame ukuzithethelela. Ngokuphambene nalokho, bavame ukusho ngokuqondile: «Yebo, angisona isipho, kodwa kuzodingeka ngibekezele. Bangase benze izitha, kodwa ngisho nezitha ziyobahlonipha ngenxa yokungaqondile kwabo.
Bonke bayabuza
"Kunqatshelwe? Kungani? Ubani owasho lokho?" Izingane ezingahlaliseki kahle zithusela abantu abadala ngemibuzo enjalo. Abazwani kahle endaweni enemithetho eqinile yokuziphatha - ngenxa yokuthambekela kokuhlala benza izinto ngendlela yabo. Futhi bangakwazi ukuphendula wonke umuntu ngokoqobo ngokumelene nabo. Kodwa esimweni esibucayi, lapho udinga ukwenza ngendlela engavamile, bavuka ngesikhathi.
Bangakwazi ukushintsha umhlaba
Abazali bangabheka inkani yengane njengephupho elibi langempela: akunakwenzeka ukumphoqa ukuba alalele, kuye kukhona imisebenzi nokukhathazeka kuphela, uhlala enamahloni ngaye phambi kwabanye. Kodwa inkani ivama ukuhambisana nobuholi nobuhlakani. Inkazimulo yabantu "abanzima" yatholwa ngesikhathi esisodwa ngabacabangi abazimele, njengesazi sefilosofi u-Nikola Tesla noma isazi sezibalo uGrigory Perelman, kanye nosomabhizinisi abasha, njengoSteve Jobs no-Elon Musk. Uma unikeza ingane ithuba lokuqondisa ukuphikelela kulokho enesithakazelo ngempela kuyo, impumelelo ngeke ikugcine ulindile.
1 M. Spengler, M. Brunner at al, «Izici zomfundi kanye nokuziphatha at age 12…», Developmental Psychology, 2015, vol. 51.
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