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USergi Rufi: "Ingqondo ifana nommese: isebenzisa izinto ezahlukahlukene, ezinye ziwusizo olukhulu kanti ezinye ziyingozi kakhulu"
Psychology
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uSergi Rufi sishicilela "I-psychology yangempela", lapho etshela ukuthi waguqula kanjani ukuhlupheka kwakhe kwaba inhlalakahle.
USergi Rufi Wazulazula waze wathola ayefuna ukukwenza. UDokotela, Master kanye ne-BA kuPsychology, uRufi wenza enye indlela yokusebenza kwengqondo, lokho akubiza ngokuthi “i-psychology yangempela.” Ngakho, ngokuqeqeshwa kwakhe nolwazi lwakhe, uzama ukusiza abanye bazuze inhlalakahle ngaphandle kokuhlala obala.
Isanda kushicilelwa "I-psychology yangempela" (Dome Books), incwadi, cishe i-biography, kodwa ngokwengxenye futhi isiqondiso, lapho etshela indlela yakhe yokushiya ukuhlupheka ngemuva. Emphakathini oxhumene kakhulu, lapho wonke umuntu kubonakala sijabulile ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, lapho sikhungathekiswa khona yilo lonke ulwazi esilutholayo futhi sazi kancane ngathi kubalulekile,
njengoba besho, ukwazi “ukwehlukanisa ukolweni namakhoba.” Sikhulume no-Sergi Rufi kwa-ABC Bienestar ngale nto kanye: ukubekwa kwenjabulo, ithonya lezindaba kanye nokwesaba okuningi okusihlupha nsuku zonke.
Kungani uthi ingqondo ingaba ithuluzi lenhlalakahle, kodwa futhi nokuhlukumeza?
Kungaba, noma kunalokho, kunjalo, ngoba akekho osifundise ngempela ukuthi ingqondo isebenza kanjani, ukuthi iyini, ikuphi, yini esingalindela kuyo. Kithina, ingqondo iyinto efihliwe kithi futhi yakhiwe ngokuzenzakalelayo, kodwa empeleni iyinto eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Singasho ukuthi ingqondo ifana nommese: inezinto ezihlukahlukene ezisetshenziswayo, ezinye ziwusizo kakhulu kanti ezinye ziyingozi kakhulu. Ingqondo ingunaphakade engaziwa.
Kungani sesaba isizungu? Ingabe kuwuphawu lwezikhathi zanamuhla?
Ngicabanga ukuthi isizungu yinto ebilokhu isethusa, ezingeni lemizwa kanye sezingeni lezinto eziphilayo; sidalelwe ukuhlala ngokwezizwe, emhlambini. Kuyinto eyinkimbinkimbi, futhi njengamanje abezindaba baqhakambisa impilo njengombhangqwana nanjengomndeni. Asiziboni izikhangiso zabantu bodwa, abamamathekayo. Kukhona ukwakhiwa kwezenhlalakahle esikubona nsuku zonke okwenza kube yicala iqiniso lokuba wedwa.
Ngakho-ke kukhona ukucwaswa kwesizungu, ekubeni ungashadile ...
Kahle kahle, muva nje ngike ngabona ephephabhukwini indaba ekhuluma ngomuntu odumile, lapho bethi ujabule, kodwa kukhona okwakushoda, ngoba wayengashadile. Ukungashadi kuvame ukuphathwa njengokungathi yisigwebo, hhayi ukuzikhethela.
Uthi encwadini ukuthi ukuhluzeka kwengqondo akusisizi ukuthi sifinyelele inhlalakahle yengqondo. Ingabe siyayiphambanisa i-rationalization nokuphulukisa?
Ukulinganisa yikho konke esikufundisiwe: ukucabanga, ukungabaza nokubuza, kodwa ngandlela thize kamuva asikwazi ukwazi ukuthi sinjani, uma siphilile, ukuthi sinjani. Lezi zinhlobo zemibuzo zinolwazi kakhulu, futhi izikhathi eziningi asazi ukuthi zingayixazulula kanjani. Ukucabanga kwethu kuzenzakalela ngama-80% esikhathi, futhi kulokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu kuyangenelela, okuthi izikhathi eziningi, ngaphandle kokuqaphela kwethu, kusibambezele. Ngeke sihlale ngaso sonke isikhathi silinde lokho okusitshela umcabango: siyingxube yezinto eziningi, futhi izikhathi eziningi akuyona yonke into eyisizathu nokunengqondo. Ubungane, uthando, engikuthandayo ngomculo, ukudla, ucansi ... yizinto esingeke sazithethelela.
Uqonde ukuthini uma uthi encwadini ukuthi othisha bagcwele ezimpilweni zethu, hhayi othisha?
Uthisha uphathelene nomuntu ozinikele emsebenzini akhokhelwe wona, okuwukudlulisa umbhalo noma uhlaka, kodwa nokho uthisha unento yokwenza nokunye okuphelele. Uthisha uhlobene nengxenye enengqondo kakhulu, i-hemisphere yesokunxele, futhi uthisha unokuthile okuphelele, nomuntu ocabanga ngazo zombili izingxenye zobuchopho, okhuluma ngamagugu ngothando nangenhlonipho. Uthisha ungaphezu kwerobhothi kanti uthisha ungumuntu.
Ingabe ukuqeqesha kuyingozi?
El Coaching Hhayi ngokwalo, kodwa ibhizinisi elikuzungezile. Izifundo zenyanga eyodwa noma ezimbili ezikwenza ucabange ukuthi uchwepheshe ... Uma kuntuleka ikhodi yokuziphatha, kunabantu abenza imisebenzi abangayiphathi futhi kulokhu, ungafuna usizo futhi uqede. kubi kakhulu. Ngemuva kwayo yonke imfashini kufanele ube nezinsolo. Uma kwenzeka into efana nalena, kuvame ukuba nesidingo sezomnotho, hhayi ukugqugquzelwa kobuntu. Futhi endabeni ye Coaching... kimina kukhona obizwayo umqeqeshi wokuphila iminyaka engu-24, kahle futhi ngineminyaka engama-60, ngaphandle kokudlula ezinqubweni eziningi nomsebenzi wangaphakathi kanye nobunzima, kuyinkimbinkimbi. Ngicabanga ukuthi umqeqeshi wokuphila kufanele kube umuntu ngaphambi nje kwesikhathi setshe lethuna (Serie). Isikhathi sokuba nomsebenzi okokuqala, umbhangqwana wokuqala, ukuthi bakushiye, kufanele sibe nesipiliyoni futhi singagcini nje ngokuphila lezi zinto, kodwa bese sizisebenza.
Ingabe i-Instagram iguqula amandla obudlelwano bomphakathi?
I-Instagram iyinkundla ekhuthaza ukusebenzisana okufushane, okunobugovu nokungaphambili. Ngikhuluma encwadini ukuthi kunezinhlobo ezimbili zabantu abasebenzisa le nkundla yokuxhumana: abantu abahlale bezibonakalisa bephilile nalabo abanomthwalo wemfanelo. Kufana nesibalo sikathisha nothisha ophawule: owokuqala unokusebenzisa indlela eyodwa kwe-Instagram, ufuna ukuvusa umona futhi awine abaningi. ukuthandwa; eyesibili inokuxhumana okuvundlile nokungalulazi. Lo mbukiso ekugcineni ugcina unomthelela, kunjalo.
Ingabe isiko liyasibumba njengabantu?
Nakanjani, siyizidalwa zamasiko. Ngokwesibonelo, abantu bahlale behubha izingoma, futhi kumelwe siqaphele ukuthi umculo awuwona nje umculo, ungamazwi, uyizwi elidabukisayo nelijabulisayo futhi lokhu kuyasakha. Kukhona isiko labathengi lapho kukhona ukuthambekela okuthile, kuhlale kufana, kodwa sinomuzwa wokuthi kukhona umkhiqizo esihambisana nawo. Ngokwesibonelo, amazwi omculo wesiLatini; Zizwakala kakhulu futhi ziyasakha njengabantu, zinomthelela endleleni esiyiyo.
Noma kunjalo, ingabe ukubonakaliswa kobuciko kungasisiza sizizwe singcono, sinokuthula nathi ngokwethu?
Yebo kunjalo, nakuba kusenza sibe nokuthula nathi ngokwethu, angazi ... Kodwa kuyindlela yokuxhumana, ukuxhumana kanye ne-catharsis, yokukhuluma. Nakuba bese uvula umsakazo futhi ingoma efanayo ihlale idlala, futhi izikhathi eziningi kulolu hlobo lobuciko bothando olunobuthi lwenziwa kabusha, umthombo wangaphakathi, futhi lubuyela kuwo ngokuphindaphindiwe ... kunzima ukuphuma kuwo uma khumbulani izinsuku zonke.
Ukhuluma encwadini yenkathi entsha iDisney, abaningi abayibiza ngokuthi “uMnu. Umphumela omuhle” … Ingabe inkolo eyeqisayo yenjabulo iyasicindezela?
Yebo, lokho kusesha ngokwako kukhulisa isidingo esiphelele; Uma ngifuna lokho, anginakho. Kubonakala sengathi kuze kube yilapho siqhubekisela phambili ukuphelela, kubekwe ubuhle bobuhle, ukumamatheka njalo, ngeke sijabule. Angilisebenzisi igama elithi injabulo, ngoba lihlotshaniswa nalokhu, ekugcineni okuwumkhiqizo.
Eqinisweni, injabulo ingase ingabi yinkimbinkimbi, mhlawumbe iyinto elula, futhi yingakho isiphunyuka, ngoba lokho esikufundisiwe kuyinkimbinkimbi nokusesha okuqhubekayo.