Imibuzo yethu ye-taboo mayelana nokukhulelwa

Kungani ngiphatheka kabi kangaka uma konke kuhamba kahle?

Sasicabanga ukuthi sinezinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye ezijabulisayo ngaphambi kwethu! Kodwa-ke, i-credo yethu ithi "nsuku zonke zanele izinkinga zayo". Ukukhathazeka, ukukhathala, ukukhathala, ngokuvamile singazizwa sinecala ngokungazizwa njengefu. Ama-hormone adlala indima ebalulekile kulokhu ukucindezeleka kwesikhashana, ikakhulukazi ezinyangeni zokuqala, lapho unakho konke ukungakhululeki okuhambisana nokukhulelwa (isicanucanu, ukukhathazeka, ukukhathala) ngaphandle kokuba nezinzuzo. Lapho ukukhulelwa kukhula, ngokuvamile umzimba obangela ubuhlungu. Ingane iyakhula futhi sinomuzwa wokuthi asisenayo indawo yethu. Sizizwa SIKHULU, sisinda, size sizisole ngokukhulelwa. Ngokukhula kwecala. Lokhu kungokwemvelo ngokuphelele. Lokhu kuningi kwabesifazane abaningi abakhulelwe okuthe uma bekhuluma ngakho, babone ukuthi kungenye yezinto ezikhathazayo kabanzi ngokukhulelwa.

Ukuba ngumama, isiphithiphithi esikhulu

Isici esingokwengqondo sidlala indima. Akuyona into encane ukulindela ingane. Lesi simo esithile sempilo yowesifazane singavusa noma sibangele zonke izinhlobo zokukhathazeka. Bonke abesifazane abakhulelwe bawela imizwa ejulile ezihlobene nomlando wabo siqu. "Ukukhulelwa yisikhathi sokungqubuzana okuyihaba, ukuvuthwa kanye nenkinga yengqondo", kubhala isazi se-psychoanalyst uMonique Bydlowski emsebenzini wakhe othi "Je rêve un enfant".

Qaphela ukucindezeleka

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, asivumeli lesi simo sesikhashana singene, owesifazane okhulelwe akufanele azizwe ecindezelekile njalo. Uma kunjalo, kungcono ukuxoxa ngakho nodokotela wethu. Omama abazoba nabo bangaba nokucindezeleka. Inhlolokhono yenyanga yesi-4 eyenziwa umbelethisi iyithuba lokuxoxa ngobunzima bakhe. Ngakho-ke singase siqondiswe ekusekelweni kwengqondo.

Ngibheme kancane bese ngiyacasha, is it serious?

Siyazazi izingozi zikagwayi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa! Ukuphuphuma kwesisu, ukungakabi yisikhathi, isisindo sokuzalwa esiphansi, izinkinga ngesikhathi sokubeletha, ngisho nokuncipha kwezivikeli mzimba: siyashaqeka lapho sibona ubungozi bengane yethu. Ucwaningo lwakamuva luveze ukuthi ukubhema ukhulelwe kungaba nemiphumela ezizukulwaneni ezimbili. Ukubhema ugogo ngesikhathi ekhulelwe kungandisa ingozi yesifuba somoya kubazukulu bakhe, ngisho noma umama wayengabhemi. Nokho abesifazane abaningi abayeki. Ziyancipha kancane futhi zenza abantu bazizwe benecala kakhulu. Ikakhulukazi kusukela namuhla, sikhuthaza ukungabekezelelani. Akusekho “ngcono ukubhema ugwayi emihlanu kunokugcizelela kakhulu”.

Kuthiwani uma ungakwazanga ukuyeka ukubhema?

Esikhundleni sokucasha futhi uzisole, thola usizo. Kunzima kakhulu ukuma ngokuphelele futhi ukusekelwa kungase kudingeke. Ama-patches nezinye izinto ezithatha indawo ye-nicotine zingasetshenziswa ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Uma kwenzeka ukwehluleka, asinqikazi ukuxhumana nochwepheshe kagwayi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kukhona ukwesekwa okungantengantengi. Umyeni wethu, umngane, umuntu osikhuthazayo ngaphandle kokusahlulela futhi ngaphandle kokwengeza ekucindezelekeni kwakho.

Ukwenza uthando kuyangicisha, kujwayelekile lokho?

I-libido yokukhulelwa iyashintshashintsha. Kwabanye besifazane, iphezulu, kanti kwabanye, cishe ayikho. Ku-trimester yokuqala, phakathi kokukhathala nokucanuzela kwenhliziyo, sinezizathu (ezinhle) zokungahlanganyeli ocansini. Kuyaziwa ukuthi ukugcwaliseka kocansi ku-trimester yesibili. Ngaphandle kwalokho kithi: lutho! Hhayi isithunzi sesifiso. Kodwa ukukhungatheka kusezingeni eliphezulu. Futhi amahloni futhi. Ngokuhlonipha umlingani wethu. Njengoba sikhathazeke kangaka, sizitshela ukuthi akuthina sodwa. Sinelungelo lokungafuni. Sikhuluma nobaba wesikhathi esizayo ngalokho esikuzwayo, sikhuluma ngezinto ezimkhathazayo. Kuzo zonke izimo, sizama ukugcina ukuxhumana ngokomzimba nomlingani wethu. Mgone, alale kwezakhe, agone, amange angagcini nje ngesenzo socansi kodwa asigcine enkambweni yocansi.

Asiziphoqeleli… kodwa asizigodli.

Abanye besifazane bathola i-orgasm yabo yokuqala ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Kungaba yihlazo ukukugeja. Futhi kungani ungazami izinto zokugcoba uma ukuhlangana kubuhlungu. Udinga iseluleko, thola izikhundla ze-Kamasutra zabesifazane abakhulelwe.

Ngivunyelwe ukushaya indlwabu ngikhulelwe? Ingabe iyingozi ku-fetus?

Ah, umkhuhlane odumile we-trimester yesibili ... i-libido yakho iyaqala futhi. Uzizwa umuhle futhi ufiseleka. Ngokocwaningo olwenziwe yi-website ye-SexyAvenue, owesifazane oyedwa kwababili uyavuma ukuthi une-libido “eqhumayo” ngesikhathi ekhulelwe. Futhi u-46% wozakwethu abahloliwe bathi bathola "ingxenye yabo ingenakuvinjelwa" ngalesi sikhathi. Ngamafuphi, yisithandwa sakho okufanele sibe sezulwini. Nakuba... Kushubile kangangokuthi ngezinye izikhathi kugcwele. Ngenxa yalokho, unamahloni kancane ngezifiso zakho futhi uqale ukuzizwa ukhungathekile. Pho kungani ungazanelisi? Asikho isidingo sokuzizwa unecala, ubumnandi be-solo abuyona ingozi enganeni yakho, Ngokuphambene nalokho ! Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa ngaphandle kwenkinga ethile, ayikho ingozi ekwenzeni uthando noma ukushaya indlwabu. Ukufinyela kwesibeletho okubangelwa i-orgasm kuhlukile kulokho “komshikashika” wokubeletha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ama-endorphin akhululiwe, ngaphezu kokukunikeza injabulo nenjabulo, ngokuqinisekile enza umntwana abe phezulu! Qaphela ukuthi ukwenza ucansi kungaba nomthelela wokuvikela ekuzaleni ngaphambi kwesikhathi.

Ubaba wakusasa uyangicasula, ngenzenjani?

Wangena kumodi yokuvikela eseduze? Akusekho ukukhiya umnyango wasendlini yokugezela noma ukuthatha ikheshi uwedwa. Ufuna udle amaliki kanye nejusi yekarothi ngoba inempilo? Ngamafuphi, usincisha umoya wakhe wokucabangela nomusa. Futhi asifuni ukuhlala sidlala izisu zethu njalo. Asizizwa sinecala, kuyenzeka ukuthi abesifazane abakhulelwe bahoxe, ngisho nangezindleko zikababa. Yazi nokho lokhouzama ukukhulelwa "kwakhe", futhi akubona bonke obaba bakusasa abakhathalela kangaka! Khuluma naye. Mhlawumbe akazi ukuthi awuzidingi zonke lezi.

«Ngalokhu kukhulelwa kwe-2, "ngikhululekile" kancane ohlangothini lokudla. Ngiyavuma, ngezinye izikhathi ngidla i-salmon ebhenywayo. Umyeni wami akakwazi nhlobo ukumelana nakho, ulokhu ecabanga kimi futhi engitshela ukuthi ngiyazicabangela mina ngoba angibuzi umbono wakhe. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuze ngizwe, kwakuzodingeka nginake yonke into. Eqinisweni, ngikhathele ukucasha ukuze ngidle ucezu lwenyama yakwaGrisons! Angazi ngenzenjani ukuze akhululeke kancane.»

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Kujwayelekile yini ukuthi ngifune ukubhebha ngikhulelwe?

Njengokungathi kunophawu oluthi “Okhulelwe!” Bheka phansi”. Kusobala ukuthi lona wumdlalo nje wokuqomisana, kodwa ubungacindezelwa ukuthi uvume kunoma ngubani ukuthi uyaphuthelwa, noma uphethe ingane yesithandwa sakho. Kubonwe ngamadoda, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nomyeni wakho ekuphelelweni ithemba okukhulu ngaleyo ndaba, ukukhulelwa yisikhathi esikhethekile, esigcwele umusa. Kodwa-ke, amanye amadoda azwela kakhulu ekuthandeni komama bakusasa. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, khumbula ukuthi singakhulelwa futhi sibe sexy.

Kuthiwani uma ngizithela phezu kwetafula lokudiliva?

Ukhona yini umama osemusha ongakhathazeki ngokunikeza umbelethisi isipho esikhulu? Ungesabi, kuyinto engokwemvelo ngokuphelele. Eqinisweni, kungase kube usizo, ngoba lapho ikhanda lomntwana lehliswa ngokwanele e-pelvis, licindezela i-rectum, libangele isifiso sokukhipha isisu futhi imemezele ukulethwa okuseduze. Abasebenzi bezokwelapha bajwayele lolu hlobo lwesigameko esincane. Izoyilungisa inkinga ngaphandle kokuqaphela, ngama-wipes amancane. Yiqiniso, uma ukhathazekile ngombono wokuzikhulula phambi kwabantu ongabazi, khuluma nodokotela wakho, noma ngenkathi ulungiselela ukubeletha. Ungathatha a i-laxative ukuthathwa ngaphambi kokuphuma ewodini lababelethayo, noma ngisho ne-enemas okufanele yenziwe uma isifikile. Nokho, phawula ukuthi ngokomthetho, amahomoni akhiqizwe ekuqaleni kokubeletha avumela abesifazane ukuba babe nokuphuma kwamathumbu ngokwemvelo.