Unina wentombazane eneminyaka emihlanu ubudala walandisa indlela afunda ngayo ukudambisa ukuqhuma kwemizwelo ekuqaleni. Yebo, kubalulekile – mayelana nesiqalo.
Wonke umuntu kufanele abhekane nale nkinga: ekuqaleni ingane ingenangqondo, ibubula, bese iqhuma ibe ukubhonga okungalawuleki okungayeki kuze kube yilapho ingane ikhathala. UFabiana Santos, umama wendodakazi eneminyaka emihlanu ubudala, unjalo. Yena anikezwe isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yengane. Futhi sikuhumushele iseluleko sakhe.
“Angizange ngifunde zonke izincwadi ezikhuluma ngokusebenza kwengqondo yezingane, angizange ngifunde ngokuqondile indlela yokugwema / ukumisa / ukumisa ukucasuka kwengane. Kodwa kwadingeka ngifunde. Ngifuna ukwabelana “ngefomula” mina ngokwami engisanda kufunda ngayo. Iyasebenza ngempela.
Kodwa okokuqala, ngifuna ukukutshela indaba. Indodakazi yami yaya enkulisa futhi yayinovalo kakhulu ngakho. Wathi akakwazi ukuhambisana nawo wonke umuntu. Konke kwaphetha ngokuthi indodakazi iwele e-hysterics ngesizathu esincane, ngenxa yento encane engenangqondo. Ngokutusa kwesikole, senza isikhathi sokubonana nodokotela wezengqondo yezingane ukuze u-Alice akwazi ukukhuluma ngendlela azizwa ngayo. Benginethemba lokuthi lokhu kuzosiza.
Phakathi kwezingcezu eziningi zezeluleko isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Sally Neuberger asinikeze esinye engangicabanga ukuthi sasimnandi, nakuba sasilula kakhulu. Nginqume ukuthi kufanele ngizame.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sangichazela ukuthi kudingeka sikwenze kucace ezinganeni ukuthi imizwa yazo ibalulekile, uyazihlonipha. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyini isizathu sokuphazamiseka, kudingeka sisize izingane zicabange futhi ziqonde ukuthi kwenzekani kuzo. Lapho sivuma ukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo kungokoqobo, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo kubahilela ekuxazululeni inkinga, singakunqanda ukucasuka.
Akunandaba ukuthi kungani i-hysteria iqala: ingalo kadoli iphukile, kufanele ulale, umsebenzi wesikole unzima kakhulu, awufuni ukucula. Akunandaba. Ngalesi sikhathi, ubheka emehlweni omntwana, udinga ukubuza ngezwi elipholile: "Ingabe lokhu kuyinkinga enkulu, ephakathi noma encane?"
Imicabango eqotho ngalokho okwenzekayo eduze kwakhe yenza endodakazini yami ngokumangalisayo. Njalo uma ngimbuza lo mbuzo, uphendula ngokwethembeka. Futhi sindawonye sithola isixazululo - esisekelwe emibonweni yakhe mayelana nokuthi singasibheka kuphi.
Inkinga encane ingaxazululwa kalula futhi kalula. Izinkinga ezimaphakathi nazo zizoxazululwa, kodwa hhayi njengamanje - udinga ukuqonda ukuthi kunezinto ezithatha isikhathi.
Uma inkinga ibucayi - kusobala ukuthi izinto ezibucayi ngokombono wengane azikwazi ukushaywa indiva, ngisho noma zibonakala ziwubuwula kithi - kungase kudingeke ukhulume isikhashana ukuze uyisize iqonde ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi akuyona yonke into ehamba ngendlela thina. funa.
Nginganikeza izibonelo eziningi lapho lo mbuzo wasebenza khona. Ngokwesibonelo, sasikhetha izingubo zesikole. Indodakazi yami ivame ukukhathazeka ngezingubo, ikakhulukazi uma kubanda ngaphandle. Wayefuna ukugqoka ibhulukwe alikhonzile, kodwa lalisendaweni yokuwasha. Waqala ukuthukuthela futhi ngabuza, “Alice, ingabe lena inkinga enkulu, emaphakathi noma encane?” Wangibuka ngamahlonyana wayesethi ngomoya ophansi: “Kancane.” Kodwa sasazi ukuthi inkinga encane kulula ukuyixazulula. "Siyixazulula kanjani le nkinga?" Ngibuzile. Kubalulekile ukumnika isikhathi sokucabanga. Wathi, “Gqoka elinye ibhulukwe.” Ngengeza, “Sinamapheya amaningana amabhulukwe esingakhetha kuwo.” Wamamatheka wayokhetha iphenti. Futhi ngamhalalisela ngokuthi uyixazulule ngokwakhe inkinga yakhe.
Angicabangi ukuthi zikhona izindlela zokupheka ezinhle kakhulu zokukhulisa izingane. Kimina kubonakala sengathi lokhu kuyisaga sangempela, umgomo wokwethula abantu emhlabeni: dlula kuzo zonke izithiyo, hamba ezindleleni ngezinye izikhathi ezisiholela ekuqamekeleni, yiba nesineke sokubuyela emuva futhi uzame enye indlela. Kodwa ngenxa yale ndlela, kwavela ukukhanya endleleni kamama. Futhi ngifuna ukwabelana nawe. Ngethemba ngokusuka ekujuleni kwenhliziyo yami ukuthi le ndlela izokusebenzela nawe. “