Okuqukethwe
- Umusho ongumlingo 1: "Unelungelo lokuthukuthela"
- Isisho somlingo 2: “Ngena ezingalweni zami! “
- Isisho somlingo 3: "Gosh, wenze lokhu kuwe?" “
- Isigwebo somlingo 4: "Ngokushesha nje lapho usulungile, ungeza uzokhuluma nami"
- Umusho ongumlingo wesi-5: “Ucabangani u-Nestor the beaver? “
- Isigwebo somlingo 6: "Endaweni yakho, bengizokwenza ngokushesha, kodwa nguwe obonayo"
- Kuvidiyo: imishwana engu-12 yomlingo yokudambisa intukuthelo yengane yakho
- Ibinzana lesi-7 elimangalisayo: "Wenze kahle, uthuthukile"
- Ibinzana eliwumlingo 8: "Ingabe uthukuthele, ingabe uthukuthele?" “
- Isisho somlingo 9: “Hamba ubaleke! “
- Isisho somlingo 10: "Ngikhuluma nawe ngenhlonipho, ngilindele okufanayo kuwe futhi!" “
- Isisho somlingo 11: “Yeka! “
- Isisho somlingo 12: "Kulungile, wenze iphutha, kodwa usengumuntu olungile!" “
Umusho ongumlingo 1: "Unelungelo lokuthukuthela"
Uma engena ku-spin, nakanjani kuzoba nesizathu. “Intukuthelo imenza asho ukuthi kukhona okuthintekile kuye,” kuchaza umqeqeshi wabazali uNina Bataille. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukwenqaba umzwelo kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuwukhulisa. Iseluleko sethu: yamukele ukucasuka kwakhe ngokulalela okunomusa. Akajabuli yini ngoba kukhona ontshontshe ithoyizi lakhe? Mtshele ukuthi uyamqonda. Ukwazi ukuthi othile uxoxa ngemizwa yakhe kuzomsiza ehlise umoya.
Isisho somlingo 2: “Ngena ezingalweni zami! “
Lapho ingane iqhuma, akunakwenzeka ukuba ithole indlela yokuzola. Kungumthombo wosizi kuye ukuthi igcina le nkinga futhi iyandise ... Ukumduduza, akukho okufana nokumanga. Izimpawu zothando zikhuthaza ukukhiqizwa kwe-oxytocin, ihomoni yokunamathisela, enikeza umuzwa wokuzola ngokushesha. Zibuye zibe nomphumela onenzuzo esikhathini eside. “Lapho ugcwalisa imizwa yakhe, yilapho uzomnika khona amandla okubhekana nobunzima futhi alawule imizwa yakhe kamuva,” kuqinisekisa lo mqeqeshi.
Isisho somlingo 3: "Gosh, wenze lokhu kuwe?" “
Njengoba abancane bengenawo umbono ngezinto, bangase bazwe ubuhlungu ngenxa yezinto ezincane. Ukuze ubasize badlale phansi idrama, ungangabazi ukusabela ngonyawo olungalungile, ukuze nje ulethe ukukhanya okuncane esimweni. Lapho ebuya esifundweni sakhe sopiyano, ukhononda ngokuthi uthisha wakhe umnikeze izingcezu ezimbili ezincane ukuba azibukeze, futhi ugxiviza izinyawo zakhe ukuze angabuyeli ekilasini? Dlala ikhadi lamahlaya: "Gosh, ubengayenza kanjani into enjalo?" Izomfundisa ukubheka izinto ngendlela efanele.
Isigwebo somlingo 4: "Ngokushesha nje lapho usulungile, ungeza uzokhuluma nami"
Ingabe wenza ubuso? Ungazami ukuphoqa inkhulumomphendvulwano ngokushesha. “Akukhona ukuthi umtshela ukuthi ukulungele ukukhuluma,” kugcizelela uNina Bataille. Mnikeze isikhathi sokugaya intukuthelo yakhe futhi aziphendulele lapho ebuyela kuwe. Into eyinhloko ukugcina umnyango uvulekile njalo. Uzivalele equmbile? Mnikeze isigxobo esisha ekupheleni kwekota yehora: “Ingabe kubi kangako ukuthi singayi ku-merry-go-round namhlanje ntambama?” Kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke, hlala uqinile ezikhundleni zakho. Uma uyivumela, ingase ihlale igoqa ukuze ithole lokho akufunayo.
Umusho ongumlingo wesi-5: “Ucabangani u-Nestor the beaver? “
Zihlole: bamba ingubo yakhe umenze asho noma yini unenkinga yokuthi ingane yakho izwe. Uzobona, iphilisi lizosebenza kangcono kakhulu. "Ingubo iyinto yesikhashana, evumela ingane ukuthi ibeke izinto kude", kuchaza uNina Bataille. Ngakho unganqikazi, sebenzisa!
Isigwebo somlingo 6: "Endaweni yakho, bengizokwenza ngokushesha, kodwa nguwe obonayo"
Akukho okumele ukwenze. Ngaso sonke isikhathi uma umcela ukuthi adeke itafula, uyaphikisana. “Kuwuphawu lwezingane ezinesimilo somholi weqembu: ziyakuzonda ukunikwa imiyalo futhi zihlale zifuna ukuzuza isikhundla esiphezulu,” kuphawula uNina Bataille. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, ungathukutheli futhi udlale kancane. Menze azizwe engathi uzothatha isinqumo. Okufanele ukwenze nje ukusho kuye ngezwi elipholile futhi eliqinile: "Endaweni yakho, ngizokwenza ngokushesha, kodwa nguwe obonayo". Uzobona, noma engajabule, uzokwenza lokho obumcelile.
Kuvidiyo: imishwana engu-12 yomlingo yokudambisa intukuthelo yengane yakho
Ibinzana lesi-7 elimangalisayo: "Wenze kahle, uthuthukile"
“Njengabazali, nathi sinendima yomqeqeshi okufanele siyidlalele izingane zethu,” kukhumbula uNina Bataille. Ingabe ingane yakho encane ikwazile ukuzigcina ipholile esimweni ebesingase siwohloke, noma siwohloke kuze kube manje? Ifanele ngempela ukugqanyiswa. Ukumncoma ngeke nje kumkhuthaze ukuthi aphinde lokhu kuziphatha, kodwa futhi kuzothuthukisa ukuzethemba kwakhe.
Ibinzana eliwumlingo 8: "Ingabe uthukuthele, ingabe uthukuthele?" “
Ukuze ufunde ukulawula intukuthelo yakho, kusafanele wazi ukuthi uthukuthele. Ukumsiza ukuthi ajwayelane nalo mzwelo, qaphela ukuchaza izimpawu nokubonakaliswa ngokomzimba: “Uyamemeza”, “ubuso bakho bubomvu,” “ukuphefumula kwakho kuyashesha”, “unesigaxa esiswini sakho” … Zijabulise nokwenza naye uhlu lwamagama achaza amazinga ahlukene entukuthelo , kusukela ku uqine kancane kunawo wonke: ongenasineke, onganelisekile, ucasukile, unesithukuthezi, ucasukile, uthukuthele, uthukuthele… Ukubeka amazwi emizweni yakhe kuzomsiza ukuthi azibambe kangcono.
Ingabe ingane yakho ithukuthele? Iseluleko somqeqeshi sokusiza abazali
Uzithathele kakhulu ngesikhathi ingane yakho ithukuthele noma phakathi nenhlekelele, kangangokuthi nawe uyaqhekeka. Ngakho-ke, ukugwema ukuklabalasa, noma ngisho nokuba senqenqemeni lokuyishaya, amathiphu ethu wokungaziqhumisi wena.
- Uma ukwazi, shiya ingane yakho ekamelweni layo, uzihlukanise, futhi uphefumule kancane. Phefumula ngokujulile ukubala okungu-5 futhi wenze okufanayo ekukhipheni umoya izikhathi ezi-5 zilandelana.
- Phuza ingilazi yamanzi agcwele noma uthele amanzi apholile ebusweni nasezingalweni zakho ukuze ucime ukoma kwakho, wehlise izinga lokushaya kwenhliziyo yakho, futhi wehlise ukushisa komzimba.
- Zinike imizuzu eyi-10 ukuze wenze okuthile okukuphumuzayo: ukugeza, ukufunda umagazini… Kuyoba ngcono ngemva kwalokho futhi ungakwazi ukukhuluma nengane yakho ngezwi elipholile elizoqeda ukushuba.
Isisho somlingo 9: “Hamba ubaleke! “
Ayikho into efana nokugijima noma ukukhahlela ibhola ukuze ufunde ukuqondisa imizwa yakho, intukuthelo engqondweni! Ukuzivocavoca umzimba kunenzuzo ephindwe kabili yokusebenzisa i-cortisol, i-vector ye-stress, kanye nokukhiqiza i-endorphin, i-hormone yokuzijabulisa. Ingabe ingane yakho ayidlali ngempela? Ukudweba, ukubhala nokucula nakho kusebenza kahle kakhulu ukuveza ulaka lomuntu ngaphandle.
Isisho somlingo 10: "Ngikhuluma nawe ngenhlonipho, ngilindele okufanayo kuwe futhi!" “
Kusukela lapho ubonisa inhlonipho ngengane yakho, kokubili emazwini owasebenzisayo nasekuziphatheni owamukela kuye, sivumelekile ukufuna okufanayo kuye. Uma yeqa umugqa, ungayiyeki. Mcele ukuthi aphinde asho kabusha umusho wakhe.
Isisho somlingo 11: “Yeka! “
Yebo, akukho mbuzo wokumvumela enze akufunayo. Nokho, gwema ukuthi “cha” ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ephinyiselwa izikhathi eziningi ngezwi lesihlamba, elithi “cha” livame ukukhulisa ukucasuka kwakhe futhi ngenxa yalokho andise ukucindezeleka kwakhe. Khetha igama elithi "yeka", elinokufaneleka kokumisa ingane emikhondweni yayo ngaphandle kokumenza azizwe enecala.
Isisho somlingo 12: "Kulungile, wenze iphutha, kodwa usengumuntu olungile!" “
Udinga nje ukushelela lapho edweba isithombe, futhi inhlekelele leyo: ucasuka futhi adabule ishidi ngokucasuka! Indodana yakho ayikwazi ukumela ukwenza iphutha elincane. Akumangazi. “Siphila emphakathini lapho isiko lamaphutha lingathuthukisiwe nhlobo: izingane zethu kufanele ziphumelele ekuqaleni uma zingafuni ukuphasela ama-loosers”, uyazisola uNina Bataille. Ngakho kukuwe ukuthi umkhumbuze lokho ukwehluleka kufundisa ukuthi wonke umuntu unelungelo lokwenza amaphutha, nokuthi noma bekungalungile, akulona ize kukho konke lokho. Ukuze abuyele emuva, udinga ukuthi aphinde athole ukuzethemba…