Ungaphuma kanjani ekuhlukumezekeni kokushaqeka: isipiliyoni se-psychodrama

I-blonde ende enamehlo aluhlaza ingibheka ngokubukeka okubandayo. Amakhaza ayangihlaba, ngihlehle. Kodwa lokhu kuwukwehla kwesikhashana. Ngizobuya. Ngifuna ukusindisa uKai, ngincibilikise inhliziyo yakhe eqandisiwe.

Manje senginguGerda. Ngibamba iqhaza ku-psychodrama esekelwe esakhiweni se-Andersen's The Snow Queen. Umbuki zindwendwe ngu- Maria Wernick.

Konke lokhu kwenzeka kwi-XXIV Moscow Psychodramatic Conference.

"Sizolingisa inganekwane ka-Anderesen njengesifaniso esinwetshiwe sempilo yangaphakathi," uMaria Wernik wasichazela, ababebambe iqhaza emhlanganweni wakhe wokufundisa, ababehlangene kwelinye lamahholo eMoscow State Pedagogical University, lapho kuqhubeka khona ingqungquthela. "Ngokombono we-psychology, inganekwane ibonisa ukuthi kwenzekani engqondweni ngesikhathi sokuhlukumezeka kokushaqeka nokuthi yini esiza endleleni eya ekwelapheni."

Thina, ababambiqhaza, cishe singabantu abangamashumi amabili. Iminyaka ihlukene, kukhona kokubili abafundi kanye nabantu abadala. Kukhona nabaholi bezinye izinkundla zokucobelelana ngolwazi abafike bajwayelane nolwazi lukazakwabo. Ngibabona ngamabheji abo akhethekile. Elami livele lithi "umbambiqhaza."

Inganekwane njengesingathekiso

"Indima ngayinye - uKai oqandisiwe, uGerda onesibindi, iNdlovukazi ebandayo - ihambelana nengxenye yobuntu bethu, kuchaza uMaria Wernick. Kodwa bahlukene komunye nomunye. Futhi ngakho ubuntu bethu bubonakala buhlukaniswe izingxenye ezihlukene.

Ukuze sithole ubuqotho, izingxenye zethu kufanele zingene enkulumweni. Sonke siqala ukukhumbula izehlakalo ezibalulekile zenganekwane ndawonye, ​​futhi umethuli usicacisela incazelo yazo engokomfanekiso.

“Ekuqaleni,” kuchaza uMaria Wernik, “uGerda akaqondi kahle ukuthi kwenzekani kuKai. Ihamba ohambweni, intombazane ikhumbula ingxenye elahlekile—injabulo nokugcwala kwempilo okuhlobene nayo ... Bese uGerda ehlangabezana nokudumala enqabeni yenkosana nenkosazana, ukwesaba okubulalayo ehlathini nabaphangi ... uphila imizwa yakhe kanye nokusondelana kwakhe nolwazi, kuba namandla futhi avuthwe ngokwengeziwe.”

Ngasekupheleni kwendaba, phakathi kwamaLapland namaFinnish, sibona uGerda ehluke ngokuphelele. AbakwaFinn basho la mazwi ayisihluthulelo: “Nginamandla kunaye, angikwazi ukumenza. Aniboni ukuthi amandla ayo amakhulu kangakanani? Awuboni yini ukuthi abantu nezilwane bayamkhonza? Phela wahambahamba ingxenye yomhlaba engafakile zicathulo! Akukhona okwethu ukuboleka amandla akhe! Amandla asenhliziyweni yakhe emnandi, engenacala.»

Sizolingisa indawo yokugcina yedrama - ukubuya kukaKai, ingxenye yakhe elahlekile.

Indlela yokukhetha indima yakho

“Khetha noma yimuphi umlingiswa,” kuqhuba uMaria Wernick. - Akuyona leyo oyithanda kakhulu. Kodwa manje ufuna ukuba ngubani okwesikhashana.

• Ngokukhetha Kaya, thola ukuthi yini ekusiza ukuthi uncibilike, yimaphi amazwi nezenzo ezihambisana nawe.
• indlovukazi yeqhwa — funda ukuthi yiziphi izingxabano ezidingekayo ukuze uxegise ukuzithiba noma ukuzivikela, uzivumele uzizwe ukhathele futhi uphumule.
• Gerdu Funda ukuthi ungathintana kanjani nemizwa yakho.
• Ungakhetha indima Umbhali futhi ushintshe indlela yezenzakalo.

Ngikhetha indawo kaGerda. Inokukhathazeka, ukuzimisela ukuhamba uhambo olude nokuzimisela. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, ithemba lokubuyela ekhaya nesifiso sokuzwa uthando engiluzwa ngaphakathi kimina. Angingedwa: abanye abahlanu eqenjini bakhetha le ndima.

I-Psychodrama ihlukile emkhiqizweni waseshashalazini. Lapha, inani labadlali bendima eyodwa alinqunyelwe. Futhi ubulili abunandaba. Phakathi kwe-Kaevs, kunensizwa eyodwa kuphela. Namantombazane ayisithupha. Kodwa phakathi kwe-Snow Queens kukhona amadoda amabili. LamaKhosi anokhahlo futhi awangeneki.

Ingxenye encane yabahlanganyeli iphenduka izingelosi, izinyoni, amakhosazana-amakhosazana, i-Deer, i-Little Robber okwesikhashana. “Lezi izindima zezinsiza,” kusho umsingathi. "Ungabacela usizo ngesikhathi somdlalo."

Abadlali bendima ngayinye banikezwa indawo yabo ezithamelini. Indawo idalwe ngezikhafu ezinemibala, izihlalo kanye nezinye izindlela ezithuthukisiwe. I-Snow Queens yenza isihlalo sobukhosi esihlalweni esibekwe etafuleni kanye nesembozo sikasilika esiluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka.

Simaka indawo kaGerda ngendwangu eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, izikhafu eziwolintshi libalele neziphuzi. Othile ngothando uphonsa isikhafu esimibalabala ngaphansi kwezinyawo zakho: isikhumbuzo sedlelo eliluhlaza.

Ncibilikisa iqhwa

"UGerda ungena emakamelweni eNdlovukazi Yeqhwa," kubonisa umholi wesenzo. Futhi thina, oGerda abahlanu, sisondela esiHlalweni sobukhosi.

Ngizizwa ngithuthumela, kuqhaqhazela umgogodla wami, kube sengathi ngingene ngempela enqabeni yeqhwa. Ngingathanda ukungaphambuki endimeni futhi ngithole ukuzethemba namandla, engintula kakhulu. Bese ngizithela phezu kokubukeka okumakhaza okuhlabayo kobuhle be-blonde enamehlo aluhlaza. Ngiqala ukungakhululeki. Ama-Kai asethiwe - amanye anobutha, amanye adabukile. Omunye (indima yakhe idlalwa intombazane) wafulathela wonke umuntu, wabheka odongeni.

“Bheka noma yimuphi uKai,” kusikisela umsakazi. - Thola amagama azomenza "afudumale." Umsebenzi kimina ubonakala ungenzeka. Ngokuhambisana nomdlandla, ngikhetha kakhulu «okunzima» - lowo wafulathela wonke umuntu.

Ngisho amazwi ajwayelekile efilimini yezingane: «Wenzani lapha, Kai, kuyisicefe futhi kubanda lapha, futhi kusentwasahlobo ekhaya, izinyoni ziyacula, izihlahla ziqhakazile — asigoduke. Kodwa yeka indlela ababonakala bedabukisa ngayo futhi bengenakuzisiza ngayo manje! Ukusabela kukaKai kufana nobhavu wamanzi abandayo kimi. Acasuke, anikine ikhanda, avale izindlebe!

Amanye amaGerds alwela ukuncenga iKaev, kodwa abafana beqhwa baphikelela, futhi ngobuqotho! Omunye uthukuthele, omunye ucasukile, owesithathu uvayiza isandla sakhe, ephikisa: “Kodwa nami ngizizwa ngikahle lapha. Kungani uhambe? Kuzolile lapha, nginakho konke. Hamba, Gerda!

Konke kubonakala kungasekho. Kodwa inkulumo engayizwa nge-psychotherapy ifika engqondweni. "Ngingakusiza kanjani, Kai?" Ngibuza ngokuzwela ngangokunokwenzeka. Futhi kungazelelwe okuthile kushintsha. Omunye "wabafana" onobuso obukhanyayo uphendukela kimi futhi aqale ukukhala.

Ukungqubuzana kwamandla

Isikhathi sezindlovukazi zeqhwa. Ukungqubuzana kungena esigabeni esinqumayo, futhi izinga lemizwa kulo mzuliswano liphezulu kakhulu. Bamkhuza kanzima uGerda. Ukubuka okubabazekayo, izwi eliqinile nokuma “kwabalingisi” kuwufanele ngempela ubukhosi. Ngizwa ngomunyu ukuthi yonke into ayinamsebenzi ngempela. Futhi ngihlehla ngaphansi kobuso be-blonde.

Kodwa kusukela ekujuleni komphefumulo wami ngokuzumayo kufika amazwi: "Ngizwa amandla akho, ngiyawabona futhi ngiyahlehla, kodwa ngiyazi ukuthi nami nginamandla." "Uyahlanya!" kuvele kumemeze omunye wezindlovukazi. Ngesizathu esithile, lokhu kuyangikhuthaza, ngimbonga ngokwengqondo ngokubona isibindi kuGerda wami oshaywa yiqhwa.

Dialogue

Izingxoxo no-Kai ziyaqhubeka. "Yini engalungile ngawe, Kai?!" omunye kaGerd umemeza ngezwi eligcwele ukudangala. "Ekugcineni!" uyamamatheka umninikhaya. Ku-"mfowethu" onganqotshiwe uhlala phansi "namesake" ngendima. Umhlebela okuthile endlebeni, amphulule kancane amahlombe, futhi inkani iqala ukuncibilika.

Ekugcineni, uKai noGerda bayangana. Ebusweni babo, ingxube yobuhlungu, ukuhlupheka kanye nomthandazo kuthathelwa indawo amazwi okubonga kwangempela, ukukhululeka, injabulo, ukunqoba. Isimangaliso senzeka!

Kukhona okumangalisayo okwenzeka nakweminye imibhangqwana: U-Kai noGerda bazungeza ihholo ndawonye, ​​bayangana, bayakhala noma bahlale, bebukana emehlweni.

Ukushintshaniswa kwemibono

“Sekuyisikhathi sokuxoxa ngakho konke okwenzeka lapha,” kumema umninikhaya. Thina, sisashisa, sihlale phansi. Namanje angikakwazi ukubuyela ezingqondweni—imizwa yami yayinamandla, ingokoqobo.

Umhlanganyeli owathola ukungaziphathi kahle kimi uyafika kimi futhi, ngokumangala, ngiyabonga: “Ngiyabonga ngokunganeliseki kwakho - phela, ngikuzwile kimina, kumayelana nami!" Ngimgone ngemfudumalo. "Noma yimaphi amandla azalwa futhi abonakaliswe phakathi nomdlalo anganikezwa yinoma yimuphi wabahlanganyeli bawo," kuchaza uMaria Vernik.

Bese sicobelelana ngemibono yethu. Wazizwa kanjani uKayi? Kubuza usokhaya. "Umuzwa wokubhikisha: bebefunani bonke kimi?!" - kuphendula umhlanganyeli okhethe indima yomfana-Kai. "Izindlovukazi Zeqhwa zazizwa kanjani?" “Kuhle futhi kuzolile lapha, kungazelelwe uGerda uvele wahlasela futhi waqala ukufuna okuthile futhi abange umsindo, kubi impela! Bangena ngaliphi ilungelo kimi?!"

Impendulo ka-Kai ethi “wami”: “Ngizwe ukucasuka okukhulu, intukuthelo! Ngisho nolaka! Ngangifuna ukushaya yonke into nxazonke! Ngoba balala nami, njengokungathi nge encane, hhayi njengoba nomuntu olinganayo futhi omdala ubuntu.

"Kodwa yini ekuthinte wavulela omunye?" Kubuza uMaria Wernick. “Wathi kimi: asibaleke sobabili. Futhi kwaba sengathi intaba isusiwe emahlombe ami. Kwakunobungane, kwakuyingxoxo elinganayo, futhi kwakuwucingo lokuya ocansini. Ngazizwa ngifisa ukuhlangana naye!”

Buyisela oxhumana naye

Yini eyayibalulekile kimina kule ndaba? Ngambona uKayi wami, kungeyena lowo owayengaphandle kuphela, kodwa nalowo owayecashe phakathi kwami. Umngane wami womphefumulo othukuthele, uKai, wakhuluma ngokuzwakalayo imizwa engingayazi kahle ekuphileni, yonke intukuthelo yami ecindezelekile. Akukona nje ukuqondana ukuthi ngiphuthume kumfana othukuthele kakhulu! Ngenxa yalomhlangano, ukuzazi kwenzekile kimi. Ibhuloho phakathi kwe-Kai yami yangaphakathi noGerda selibekiwe, bangaxoxa bodwa.

“Lesingathekiso sika-Andersen sikhuluma ngokuthintana kuqala. U-Maria Wernick uthi - Ongokoqobo, ofudumele, ongumuntu, ngokulingana, ngenhliziyo - lena yindawo yokuphuma ekuhlukumezeni. Mayelana nokuxhumana ngosonhlamvukazi — ngezingxenye zakho ezilahlekile nezisanda kutholakala futhi phakathi kwabantu ngokuvamile. Ngokubona kwami, nguye kuphela osisindisayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani kithi. Futhi lesi yisiqalo sendlela eya ekwelapheni kwabasinde ekuhlukumezekeni kokushaqeka. Ihamba kancane, kodwa ithembekile.»