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Ukuvungama ngaphansi kokuphefumula kwabo, ukukhuluma nezinto zikagesi, ukucabanga ngokuzwakalayo… Uma ungaphandle, abantu abanjalo babonakala bexakile. Intatheli uGigi Engle mayelana nendlela ukukhuluma wedwa phezulu kunenzuzo enkulu kunalokho ongakucabanga.
"Hmm, bengizoyaphi uma bengigcoba umzimba wepentshisi?" Ngikhulumela phansi njengoba ngijika igumbi ngifuna ibhodlela. Bese kuthi: “Aha! Nango :ginqike ngaphansi kombhede.
Ngivame ukukhuluma ngedwa. Futhi hhayi kuphela ekhaya - lapho kungekho muntu ongangizwa khona, kodwa futhi emgwaqweni, ehhovisi, esitolo. Ukucabanga ngokuzwakalayo kungisiza ukuba ngenze lokho engikucabangayo.. Futhi futhi - ukuqonda konke.
Kungenza ngibukeke sengathi ngiyahlanya. Abantu abahlanyayo kuphela abakhuluma bodwa, akunjalo? Khuluma namazwi asekhanda lakho. Futhi uma ukhuluma ngokungaphezi namuntu ngokukhethekile, ngokuvamile abantu bacabanga ukuthi uphambene. Ngifana ncamashi noGollum ovela ku-The Lord of the Rings, ebhekise "ku-charm" yakhe.
Ngakho-ke, niyazi - nonke enivamise ukungigqolozela ngokunganaki (njengoba kunjalo, ngibona yonke into!): ukukhuluma wedwa ngokuzwakalayo kuwuphawu oluqinisekile lwengcweti.
Ukuzikhuluma wena kwenza ubuchopho bethu busebenze kahle
Abantu abahlakaniphe kunabo bonke emhlabeni bakhuluma bodwa. I-monologues yangaphakathi yabacabangi abakhulu, izinkondlo, umlando - konke lokhu kuqinisekisa!
U-Albert Einstein wayekhuluma yedwa. Ebusheni bakhe, wayengeyena umuntu othanda abantu, ngakho wayekhetha inkampani yakhe kunezinye. Ngokusho kwe-Einstein.org, wayevame "ukuphindaphinda imisho yakhe kancane kancane."
Uyabona? Akumina ngedwa, angihlanyi, kodwa kakhulu okuphambene. Eqinisweni, ukuzikhulumela kwenza ubuchopho bethu busebenze kahle. Ababhali balolu cwaningo, olushicilelwe ku-Quarterly Journal of Experimental Psychology, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo uDaniel Swigley noGary Lupia baphakamise ukuthi kunezinzuzo zokukhuluma wedwa.
Sonke sinecala lalokhu, akunjalo? Ngakho kungani ungatholi ngempela ukuthi yiziphi izinzuzo ezilethayo.
Izihloko zithole into efunwayo ngokushesha ngokuphinda igama layo ngokuzwakalayo.
USwigly noLupia bacele izifundo ezingu-20 ukuthi zithole ukudla okuthile esitolo: isinkwa, i-apula, nokunye. Phakathi nengxenye yokuqala yokuhlolwa, ababambiqhaza bacelwa ukuthi bathule. Kwesibili, phinda igama lomkhiqizo owufunayo ngokuzwakalayo esitolo.
Kuvele ukuthi abafundi bathola into ababeyifuna ngokushesha ngokuphindaphinda igama layo ngokuzwakalayo. Okungukuthi, emangalisayo yethu umkhuba uvuselela inkumbulo.
Kuliqiniso, isebenza kuphela uma wazi kahle ukuthi ibukeka kanjani oyidingayo. Uma ungazi ukuthi into oyifunayo ibukeka kanjani, ukusho igama layo uphimisele kunganciphisa inqubo yosesho. Kodwa uma wazi ukuthi ubhanana uphuzi futhi u-oblong, ngakho-ke ngokuthi "Ubhanana", wenza kusebenze ingxenye yobuchopho ebhekele ukubonwa ngeso, futhi ukuthole ngokushesha.
Nawa amanye amaqiniso athakazelisayo mayelana nokuthi ukuzikhulumela kusinika ini.
Ukukhuluma sodwa kuzwakale, sifunda indlela izingane ezifunda ngayo
Zifunda kanje izingane: ngokulalela abantu abadala futhi zilingise. Ukuzijwayeza nokuzijwayeza okwengeziwe: ukuze ufunde ukusebenzisa izwi lakho, udinga ukulizwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuphendukela kuye, ingane ilawula ukuziphatha kwayo, izisiza ukuba iqhubekele phambili, isinyathelo ngesinyathelo, ukugxila kulokho okubalulekile.
Izingane zifunda ngokusho ezikwenzayo nangasikhathi sinye khumbula esikhathini esizayo ukuthi bayixazulule kanjani inkinga.
Ukukhuluma wedwa kusiza ukuhlela imicabango yakho kangcono.
Angazi ngawe, kodwa ekhanda lami imicabango ivame ukugijimela kuzo zonke izinhlangothi, futhi ukuphimisela kuphela okusiza ukukuxazulula ngandlela thize. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuhle ukuthulisa imizwa. Ngiba ngumelaphi wami: leyo ngxenye yami ekhulumela phezulu isiza ingxenye ecabangayo kimi ukuthi ithole isisombululo senkinga.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uLinda Sapadin sikholelwa ukuthi ngokukhuluma ngokuzwakalayo, siqinisekiswa ezinqumweni ezibalulekile nezinzima: “Lokhu kuyasivumela. sula ingqondo yakho, nquma ukuthi yini ebalulekile, futhi uqinise isinqumo sakho".
Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi ukuzwakalisa inkinga kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuyixazulula. Njengoba lokhu kuyinkinga yethu, kungani singazivezi kithi?
Ukuzikhulumela kukusiza ukuthi ufinyelele imigomo yakho
Sonke siyazi ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ukwenza uhlu lwemigomo bese siqala ukusondela ekuyifinyeleleni. Futhi lapha ukukhuluma ngesinyathelo ngasinye kungenza kube nzima futhi kucace kakhulu. Uvele ubone ukuthi konke kusehlombe lakho. NgokukaLinda Sapadin, “Ukuzwakalisa izinhloso zakho kukusiza ukuthi ugxile, ulawule imizwa yakho, futhi unqande iziphazamiso.”
Lokhu kuvumela beka izinto endaweni efanele futhi uqiniseke ngokwengeziwe ezinyaweni zakho. Ekugcineni, ngokukhuluma wedwa, usho lokho ungathembela kuwena. Futhi wazi kahle ukuthi yini oyidingayo.
Ngakho-ke zizwe ukhululekile ukulalela izwi lakho elingaphakathi futhi uliphendule ngokuzwakalayo nangokuzwakalayo!
Mayelana Nochwepheshe: U-Gigi Engle yintatheli ebhala ngocansi nobudlelwano.