Ucwaningo olusha selukhombisile ukuthi izinkundla zokuxhumana azibasizi ngaso sonke isikhathi abantu abanomqondo ongazinzile. Kwesinye isikhathi ukuzijabulisa endaweni ebonakalayo kwandisa izimpawu.
UDkt Keelin Howard weNyuvesi Entsha yaseBuckinghamshire ufunde ngomthelela wezinkundla zokuxhumana kubantu abanokucindezeleka, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuguquguqukayo, ukukhathazeka kanye nengqondo. Ucwaningo lwakhe lubandakanya abantu abangu-20 abaneminyaka engu-23 kuya ku-68. Abaphendulile bavumile ukuthi izinkundla zokuxhumana zibasiza ukuthi banqobe isizungu, bazizwe njengamalungu agcwele omphakathi waku-inthanethi futhi bathole ukwesekwa okudingekayo lapho bekudinga ngempela. “Kumnandi ukuba nabangane eduze kwakho, kuyasiza ukuqeda isizungu”; "I-interlocutors ibaluleke kakhulu empilweni yengqondo: ngezinye izikhathi udinga nje ukukhuluma, futhi lokhu kulula ukukwenza ngokusebenzisa inethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu," yile ndlela abaphendulile abachaza ngayo isimo sabo sengqondo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bayavuma ukuthi "ukuthanda" nokuvumela amazwana ngaphansi kokuthunyelwe kubasiza ukuba baphakamise ukuzethemba kwabo. Futhi njengoba abanye babo bekuthola kunzima ukuxhumana bukhoma, izinkundla zokuxhumana ziba yindlela enhle yokuthola ukusekelwa abangane.
Funda kabanzi:
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Kodwa kukhona futhi okubi enqubweni. Bonke ababambiqhaza ocwaningweni ababhekana nokubhebhetheka kwalesi sifo (ngokwesibonelo, ukuhlasela kwe-paranoia) bathi phakathi nalezi zikhathi, ukuxhumana ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kwenza isimo sabo sibe sibi. Kwaqala ukubonakala kumuntu ukuthi imilayezo yabantu abangabazi ibalulekile kubo kuphela futhi akekho omunye umuntu, abanye babekhathazeke ngokungadingekile ngokuthi abantu bazosabela kanjani kumarekhodi abo. Labo abane-schizophrenia bathi banomuzwa wokuthi baqashwe ngodokotela bengqondo nabasebenzi basesibhedlela ngezinkundla zokuxhumana, kanti labo abane-bipolar disorder bathi babematasa kakhulu ngesikhathi besahlanya futhi bashiya imiyalezo eminingi abazisola ngayo kamuva. Omunye umfundi wathi imibiko yabafundi afunda nabo ngokulungiselela izivivinyo yambangela ukukhathazeka okukhulu nokwethuka. Futhi othile ukhale ngokunyuka komqondo wokuba sengozini ngenxa yombono wokuthi abantu bangaphandle bangathola ulwazi ngezinkundla zokuxhumana abebengeke babelane nabo. Vele, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ababambiqhaza ocwaningweni bajwayela futhi baqonda ukuthi benzeni ukuze bangabhebhethekisi isimo sabo… Noma kunjalo: ingabe izihloko zikude kakhulu neqiniso uma kubonakala sengathi zibukwa, lolo lwazi lungafundwa yilabo okungafanele bahlanganise lutho nalo, futhi ukuxhumana okusebenzayo kakhulu kungakwenza uzisole kamuva? .. Kukhona okumele sikucabangele thina esingahlukumezi okusohlwini lokuchezuka.