Ukwesaba izilwane kuvamile ezinganeni. Ingase ihlotshaniswe nesenzakalo esibuhlungu noma ingase ibonise ukuphazamiseka kokukhathazeka okujwayelekile. Indlela yokusiza ingane eyesaba izilwane? Iseluleko esivela kuVincent Joly, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sezingane nentsha.

Ingane ingase yesabe isilwane esithile noma izilwane eziningana ngenxa yezizathu ezimbili eziyinhloko:

• Wabhekana nesilwane esibuhlungu lokhu kwadala uvalo kuye oluvimba ukuthi angaphinde abhekane nalesi silwane. Ingane elunywe noma ukuklwejwa yikati noma yinja, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isigameko sibi kangakanani, ingahlangabezana naso kabi kakhulu bese iqala ukwesaba okunengqondo ngalesi silo. "Uma kuyinja, ingane izobe isizesaba zonke izinja eziwela futhi izozama ngazo zonke izindlela ukuzigwema", kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. ;
• Ingane ihlushwa ukukhathazeka futhi ibeka izinkathazo zayo esilwaneni esimele ingozi kuyo. “Ukukhathazeka kwengane ngokuvamile kubangelwa ukukhathazeka kwabazali. Uma omunye wabazali ababili esaba isilwane, ingane iyazizwa futhi ingakwazi ukuthuthukisa i-phobia efanayo ngisho noma umzali ezama ukuyifihla ", kusho uVincent Joly.

Esimweni sokuqala, i-phobia yesilwane okukhulunywa ngaso inamandla kakhulu lapho isilwane sasihloselwe ingane ngaphambi kwesigameko esibuhlungu. Isibonelo, ingane yasondela ekati ngokuzethemba, icabanga ukuthi kwakungeyona ingozi ngoba isivele ibone amakati amahle kakhulu kwenye indawo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi empeleni noma ezincwadini noma emakhathuni. Futhi iqiniso lokuthi ukuklwejwa kwadala ukuvimbeka ngokushesha. "Ukungathembani isilwane ngeshwa kungadlulela nakwezinye izilwane ngoba ingane ifaka ingozi kuzo zonke izilwane", kuphawula uchwepheshe.

Lapho ubhekene nengane eyesaba isilwane, ukuziphatha okuthile kufanele kugwenywe, kukhumbuza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo:

• phoqa ingane ukuthi ishaye isilwane uma ingafuni noma isondele kuso (ngokusidonsa ngengalo isibonelo);
• yehlisa ingane ngokumtshela ukuthi “awuseyona ingane, asikho isizathu sokwesaba”. I-phobia iwukwesaba okungenangqondo, asikho isidingo sokuzama ukuthola izincazelo ukuze akholise ingane. “Lolu hlobo lokuziphatha ngeke luyixazulule inkinga futhi ingane ingase ingazethembi ngenxa yokuthi umzali uyeyisa,” kuxwayisa uVincent Joly.

Ukuze usize ingane yakho encane isuse i-phobia yayo, kungcono ukuyithatha isinyathelo ngesinyathelo. Lapho ibona isilwane, ungazami ukusondela kuso, hlala eceleni kwayo futhi ubheke inja ndawonye, ​​​​ukude, imizuzu embalwa. Ingane izozibonela ngokwayo ukuthi isilo asibonisi ukuziphatha okuyingozi. Isinyathelo sesibili, hamba uyohlangana nesilwane ngokwakho, ngaphandle kwengane, ukuze ibone kude ukuthi inja iziphatha kanjani nawe.

Kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, ukusiza ingane ukuba isuse ukwesaba kwezilwane kuyamchazela nendlela okufanele siziphathe ngayo nesilwane ukuze sigweme ukuba yingozi futhi siyifundise ukubona izimpawu zokuthi isilwane sithukuthele.

“Kumuntu omdala lezi yizinto ezijwayelekile nezitholwayo kodwa enganeni yinto entsha impela: ukungaphazamisi isilwane uma sidla, ukungasinukubezi ngokusidonsa izindlebe noma umsila, ukusiphulula ngesineke sibheke ngasemgwaqeni. izinwele, ukuhamba kude nenja ekhulayo noma ikati elikhafulayo, njll. ”, kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.

I-phobias ivamile ezinganeni, phakathi kweminyaka engu-3 ne-7 ubudala. Ngenhlanhla, njengoba ingane ikhula, ukwesaba kwayo kuyaphela njengoba iqonda kangcono izingozi futhi ifunde ukuzilawula. Mayelana nokwesaba izilwane, ikakhulukazi izilwane ezifuywayo njengamakati, izinja, onogwaja; ngokuvamile iyahamba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kwesaba kubhekwa njenge-pathological uma kuqhubeka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi kunemiphumela emikhulu ekuphileni kwansuku zonke kwengane. “Ingane iqale igweme ukuphulula isilwane, bese igwema isilwane uma isibona, bese igwema izindawo lapho ibikwazi ukuwela khona isilwane noma ivume ukubhekana nesilwane kuphela kukhona umuntu omethembayo njengokuthi unina noma uyise. Wonke lawa maqhinga ingane ewabekayo ayoba akhubaza ekuphileni kwakhe kwansuku zonke. Ukubonisana nodokotela wezengqondo kungaba usizo ”, kweluleka uVincent Joly.

Lapho ukwesaba izilwane kuhlotshaniswa nokukhathazeka futhi ingane ihlushwa okunye ukwesaba nokukhathazeka, isixazululo akukhona ukugxila ezenzweni zezilwane kodwa ukufuna ukuthola umsuka wokukhathazeka kwakhe okujwayelekile.