I-Egotism ichazwa yisici sobuntu esitholakala kubantu abavame ukukhuluma kakhulu ngabo, ukuze bazihlaziye. Eduze ne-narcissism, i-egotism yenza kube nokwenzeka ukuthuthukisa isithombe somuntu ngaye, ngokuzincoma kanye nokweqisa amakhono akhe, amakhono kanye nezinye izici zomuntu siqu.

Igama elithi “egotism” livela enguqulweni yasekuqaleni kwekhulu le-19, yegama lesiNgisi elithi “egotism”. Ihunyushwe okokuqala ngegama elithi “egoism” esikwaziyo, ukuzazisa akunayo incazelo efanayo. Ngempela, iukuzithanda yigama lesiFulentshi elisho ukuzithanda ngokweqile; i'ukuzazisa kukhombisa ukuhlanya kokukhuluma ngawe. Nakuba impande yesiLatini yegama elithi "ego" iyafana, i-egoist, enaka ngokweqile izithakazelo zayo, ihluke kakhulu kumuntu oziqhenyayo, ozithanda ngothando oludlulele.

Kungumbuzo wokuzikhulekela, umuzwa owedlulele wobuntu bomuntu, ikakhulukazi umkhuba wokuhlale ukhuluma ngaye.

I-egoist izwa isifiso esihlala sigcwele sokubonisa nokubonisa abanye ukubaluleka kwayo, lokho akwenza ngenjabulo enkulu. Imvamisa uveza ukubaluleka okukhulu ngaphandle kwesizathu kumakhono ajwayelekile noma amahle.

Njengoba sesibonile, i-egoist ngumuntu oma phezu kwesisekelo futhi ujabulele ukuzincoma. Ngakho, uba ngumuntu ozihlukanisa nabanye futhi angabe esazinaka izinto ezenzeka eduze kwakhe.

Izidingo zabanye ziza kuqala kunezakhe, futhi ngesizathu esihle, uzibheka njengezibaluleke kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, i-egoist inokuntuleka okusobala kokuzwela abanye, futhi imenza abacabangele njengendlela yokufeza izinhloso zakhe. Izinjongo zokuthuthukiswa kwe-ego, ukuphumelela ekukhanyeni nakakhulu nge-charisma yakhe nobuntu bakhe. I-egoist ikhula ngokubaluleke kakhulu, uma kungenjalo ngokweqile, ukuzethemba nokuzethemba. Lokhu kwenza lo muntu agabadele, avalelwe ezintweni eziqinisekile, futhi angakwazi ukuvulela abanye isifuba namakhono abo noma impumelelo abangaba nayo.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umuntu ozazisayo unombono wokungapheleli ezintweni: ukwenza kucace ukuthi wazi kangcono kunanoma ubani indlela abanye okufanele baziphathe ngayo. Lokhu kumnika umuzwa wokulawula akufunayo, ngaphandle kwalokho uzozivikela uma izinto zingenziwa njengokuyalelwa.

Abakwazi ukuphazamisa ukuthula kwabanye ukuze bathole abakufunayo, abazazisayo abantu abangakwamukeli ukuthi abalalelwa.

Uma ubonakala ngaphandle, umuntu ozazisayo ubonakala enokuzethemba okukhulu. Nokho, akunjalo. Ekubanjeni kokungavikeleki okuqinile kwangaphakathi, uzama ngaphezu kwakho konke ukukufihla, ekholelwa kanjalo ukugwema ukuthi umuntu akalahli ubuntu bakhe.

Ngokugcina isithombe sabo abasibona njengabaphelele emehlweni abo (futhi basuke besho lokho, emehlweni abanye), bazama ukuwenza kangcono umsebenzi futhi baphumelele kunalokho abayikho ngempela. Ngamafuphi, inkulumo-ze yabo iwukuba bangalokothi bavumele kubukeke sengathi balahlekelwa ukulawula, noma phezu kwesimo kanye / noma isithombe sabo. Kodwa konke lokhu kuyinkohliso nje, ngoba i-ego ifana nabo bonke abantu: abasengozini futhi abaphelele.

Lapho ubhekana ne-ego nsuku zonke, ezinye zezinto zakhe ezingavamile zingangena ngokushesha ezinzwa, futhi zibone nje ikhefu naye. Kodwa-ke, kunezinyathelo ezimbalwa zesenzo ezimvumela ukuthi aphume ekuboshweni kwakhe futhi kancane kancane abe nesithakazelo kwabanye kanye nezifiso zabo.

Okokuqala, kuyasiza ukuthopha i-egoist, ukumqinisekisa ngezimfanelo zakhe (nakuba ezimemezela ngaso sonke isikhathi). Kubonakala kuyindida, kodwa kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi i-egoist, ekujuleni, akazithandi kangako futhi udinga ukuqinisekiswa, ukuze anikezwe ukuzethemba. Lapho eqonda ukuthi usendaweni “enobungane”, uzoyeka ukuguqula yonke into emzungezile yedwa.

Khona-ke, kuyafaneleka ukuba nozwelo nomuntu ozidlayo. Ngenkathi esenkingeni nge-ego yakhe, okwenza aqonde ukuthi uyaqonda, ngobumnene nangozwela, ngokuzifaka ezicathulweni zakhe, kuzomkhulula ngokushesha.

Ngokubonisa umusa nokubekezelelana, ngokuba nesineke ngokweqile, sifakazela kumuntu ozazisayo ukuthi sikholelwa emakhonweni akhe, ukuthi akukho angakufakazela. Lokhu kuthoba ukungakhululeki kwakhe. Singamlalela futhi, kodwa ngaphandle kokumvumela ukuba akhulume yedwa, ngokumphoqa ukuba ashintshe, ngaphandle kwalokho ashiye ingxoxo (noma ngisho negumbi noma ifulethi). Ngokumphoqa ukuba abe ekushintshanisweni, futhi angabuyiseli konke kuye, kancane kancane uzoqaphela ukuthi kunezinto ezinhle okufanele uzazi futhi uzazi ngaphandle kwakhe.