Kungenzeka ukuhlukanisa ezimbalwa ngokwemibandela izinhlobo zokwenqatshwa, konke lokhu, ngokwezinga elikhulu noma elincane, okwenza ukuphila kwesikole komntwana owaliwe kungabekezeleleki.
- Ukuhlukunyezwa (ungavumeli kudlule, biza amagama, shaya, ukuphishekela umgomo othile: ukuziphindiselela, ukuzijabulisa, njll.).
- Ukwenqatshwa okusebenzayo (ephendula inyathelo elivela kulowo ohlukunyeziweyo, bakubeka kucace ukuthi akayena muntu, ukuthi umbono wakhe awusho lutho, umenza imbuzi yokucasha).
- Ukwenqatshwa okwenziwayo, ephakama kuphela ezimweni ezithile (lapho udinga ukukhetha umuntu eqenjini, wamukele emdlalweni, uhlale phansi edeskini, izingane ziyenqaba: "Ngeke ngibe naye!").
- Ukunganaki (abamane abanaki, abakhulumisani, ababoni, bayakhohlwa, abanalutho oluphikisana nabo, kodwa abanandaba).
Kuzo zonke izimo zokwenqatshwa, izinkinga azikho eqenjini kuphela, kodwa futhi nasezicini zobuntu nokuziphatha komuntu ohlukunyeziwe ngokwakhe.
Ngokwezifundo eziningi ezingokwengqondo, okokuqala, izingane zikhangwa noma zixoshwa ngokubukeka kontanga yabo. Ukuduma phakathi kontanga nakho kungathonywa impumelelo yezemfundo nezemidlalo. Ikhono lokudlala eqenjini laziswa kakhulu. Izingane ezijabulela ukuthandwa ontanga ngokuvamile zinabangane abaningi, banomdlandla, banobudlelwane, bavuleleke futhi banomusa kunalabo abalahlwayo. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, izingane ezilahliwe azihlali zingenabungane futhi zingenabungane. Ngasizathu simbe, babonwa kanjalo abanye. Isimo sengqondo esibi kubo kancane kancane siba isizathu sokuziphatha okuhambisanayo kwezingane ezilahliwe: ziqala ukwephula imithetho eyamukelwayo, zenze izinto ngokungacabangi nangokungacabangi.
Akukona nje kuphela ukuthi izingane ezivaliwe noma ezingenzi kahle zingaba yizisulu eqenjini. Abazithandi «ama-upstarts» - labo abahlale belwela ukuthatha isinyathelo, ukuyala. Abavuni abafundi abahle kakhulu abangabavumeli ukuthi babhale phansi, noma izingane eziphikisana nekilasi, isibonelo, ukwenqaba ukubalekela isifundo.
Umculi we-rock odumile waseMelika uDee Snyder ubhala encwadini yakhe ethi Practical Psychology for Teenagers ukuthi thina ngokwethu ngokuvamile sinecala ngeqiniso lokuthi abanye bafaka “amalebula namanani entengo” kithi. Kuze kube yilapho eneminyaka eyishumi ubudala, wayethandwa kakhulu ekilasini, kodwa lapho abazali bakhe bethuthela kwelinye ibhulokhi, uDee waya esikoleni esisha, lapho alwa khona nomfana onamandla kunabo bonke. Phambi kwesikole sonke, wahlulwa. “Isigwebo sentambo sikhishwe ngazwi linye. Ngaba inyumbazane. Futhi konke ngoba ekuqaleni angizange ngiqonde ibhalansi yamandla kusayithi. ”
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