I-Psychology

Kwesinye isikhathi imindeni iyahlukana. Lokhu akuyona inhlekelele ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa ukukhulisa ingane emndenini ongaphelele akuyona inketho engcono kakhulu. Kuhle uma unethuba lokuyidala futhi nomunye umuntu, ubaba omusha noma umama omusha, kodwa kuthiwani uma ingane iphikisana nanoma yiziphi "ezintsha"? Yini okufanele uyenze uma ingane ifuna ukuba umama abe noyise kuphela hhayi omunye umuntu? Noma ukuba ubaba ahlale nomama kuphela, hhayi nomunye u-anti ngaphandle kwakhe?

Ngakho, indaba yangempela - kanye nesiphakamiso sesixazululo sayo.


Ukujwayelana nengane yomuntu wami ngesonto nengxenye edlule kwaphumelela: ukuhamba kwamahora angu-4 echibini ngokubhukuda kanye nepikinikini kwakulula futhi kungenandaba. USerezha uyingane emangalisayo, evulekile, ekhuliswe kahle, enomusa, sinokuxhumana okuhle naye. Kwathi ngempelasonto elandelayo, sahlela uhambo lokuphuma edolobheni namatende - nabangane bami nabangane bomuntu wami, wathatha nendodana yakhe wahamba nayo. Yilapho kwenzeka khona konke. Iqiniso liwukuthi indoda yami yayihlale iseduze kwami ​​- wamanga, wamanga, ebonisa njalo izimpawu zokunaka nokunakekelwa kwesisa. Ngokusobala, lokhu kwamzwisa ubuhlungu kakhulu umfana, futhi ngesinye isikhathi wavele wasibalekela waya ehlathini. Ngaphambi kwalokho, wayehlala ekhona, encokola, ezama ukwanga uyise ... wabe esegajwa ukucasuka, wayesebaleka.

Ngokushesha samthola, kodwa wenqaba ngokuphelele ukukhuluma nobaba. Kodwa ngakwazi ukusondela kuye ngisho nokumgona, akazange amelane nakancane. USerezha akanalo nhlobo ulaka kimi. Savele samugona ehlathini isikhathi esingangehora waze wathula. Ngemva kwalokho, ekugcineni, bakwazi ukukhuluma, nakuba akuzange kusebenze ngokushesha ukukhuluma naye - ukuncenga, ukumbambatha. Futhi lapha u-Seryozha waveza konke okwakubilisiwe kuye: ukuthi yena ngokwakhe akanalutho kimi, ukuthi unomuzwa wokuthi ngimphatha kahle kakhulu, kodwa angathanda ukuthi ngingekho. Kungani? Ngoba ufuna abazali bakhe bahlale ndawonye futhi ukholelwa ukuthi bangabuyelana. Futhi uma ngenza, khona-ke lokhu ngeke kwenzeke.

Akulula ukuzwa lokhu kubhekiselwa kimina, kodwa ngikwazile ukuzidonsa sabuyela ndawonye. Kodwa umbuzo uthi yini okumele uyenze manje?


Ngemva kokusungula othintana naye, sinikeza ingxoxo ebucayi kanje:

Serezha, ufuna abazali bakho babe ndawonye. Ngiyakuhlonipha kakhulu lokhu: uyabathanda abazali bakho, uyabanakekela, uhlakaniphile. Akubona bonke abafana abakwaziyo ukuthanda abazali babo ngaleyo ndlela! Kodwa kulokhu, unephutha, ukuthi ubaba wakho kufanele ahlale naye akuwona umbuzo wakho. Lokhu akuyona indaba yezingane, kodwa eyabantu abadala. Umbuzo wokuthi ubani okufanele ahlale naye unqunywa ubaba wakho kuphela, unquma ngokuphelele yedwa. Futhi lapho usumdala, uzoba futhi: nobani, noma yimuphi owesifazane ohlala naye, ozonquma, hhayi izingane zakho!

Lokhu kuyasebenza nakimi. Ngiyakuzwa, ungathanda ngishiye ubudlelwano bakho nomama nobaba. Kodwa ngeke ngikwenze lokho ngoba ngiyamthanda futhi ufuna sibe ndawonye. Futhi uma ubaba efuna ukuhlala nami, futhi ufuna enye, khona-ke izwi likayihlo libalulekile kimi. Kumelwe kube nokuhleleka emkhayeni, futhi ukuhleleka kuqala ngokuhlonipha izinqumo zabadala.

Sergei, ucabangani ngalokhu? Uhlela ukubhekana kanjani nesinqumo sikayihlo?

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