Senza izinto eziningi ekuphileni kwethu kwansuku zonke ngaphandle komkhuba, ngaphandle kokucabanga, "ku-autopilot"; asikho isizathu esidingekayo. I-automatism enjalo yokuziphatha isivumela ukuthi singacindezeli kakhulu lapho kungenzeka khona ukwenza ngaphandle kwakho.
Kodwa imikhuba ayisebenzi nje kuphela, kodwa futhi iyingozi. Futhi uma eziwusizo zenza ukuphila kube lula kithi, khona-ke eziyingozi ngezinye izikhathi ziba nzima kakhulu.
Cishe noma yimuphi umkhuba ungakheka: kancane kancane sijwayela yonke into. Kodwa kuthatha izikhathi ezihlukene ukuthi abantu abahlukene benze imikhuba ehlukene.
Uhlobo oluthile lomkhuba lungakheka kakade ngosuku lwesi-3: ubukele i-TV izikhathi ezimbalwa ngesikhathi udla, futhi lapho usuhlezi etafuleni okwesithathu, isandla sakho sizofinyelela isilawuli kude ngokwaso: i-reflex ene-conditioned yakhiwe. .
Kungase kuthathe izinyanga ezimbalwa ukwakha omunye umkhuba, noma ofanayo, kodwa komunye umuntu… Futhi, ngendlela, imikhuba emibi yakheka ngokushesha futhi kulula kunemihle)))
Umkhuba uwumphumela wokuphindaphinda. Futhi ukwakheka kwabo kumane kuyindaba yokubekezela nokwenza ngamabomu. U-Aristotle wabhala ngalokhu: “Siyilokho esihlala sikwenza. Ngakho-ke, ukuphelela akusona isenzo, kodwa umkhuba.
Futhi, njengoba kuvame ukukwenzeka, indlela eya ekupheleleni ayiwona umugqa oqondile, kodwa ijika: ekuqaleni, inqubo yokuthuthukisa i-automatism ihamba ngokushesha, bese iyancipha.
Isibalo sibonisa ukuthi, ngokwesibonelo, ingilazi yamanzi ekuseni (umugqa oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka wegrafu) isiphenduke umkhuba kumuntu othile ezinsukwini ezingaba ngu-20. Kwamthatha izinsuku ezingaphezu kwezingu-50 ukuba ajwayeze ukwenza ama-squats angu-80 ekuseni (umugqa opinki). Umugqa obomvu wegrafu ubonisa isikhathi esimaphakathi sokwenza umkhuba izinsuku ezingama-66.
Yavelaphi inombolo 21?
Ngama-50s ekhulwini lama-20, udokotela ohlinzayo wepulasitiki uMaxwell Maltz wadonsela ukunaka kwephethini: ngemva kokuhlinzwa kwepulasitiki, isiguli sasidinga cishe amasonto amathathu ukuze sijwayele ubuso bakhe obusha, esabubona esibukweni. Wabona nokuthi kwamthatha cishe izinsuku ezingu-21 ukwenza umkhuba omusha.
UMaltz wabhala ngalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho encwadini yakhe ethi «Psycho-Cybernetics»: «Lezi nezinye izinto eziningi ezivame ukubonwa ngokuvamile zibonisa ukuthi okungenani izinsuku ezingama-21 ukuze isithombe esidala sengqondo sishabalala futhi sithathelwe indawo entsha. Incwadi yaba edayiswa kakhulu. Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, kucashunwe izikhathi eziningi, kancane kancane kukhohlwa ukuthi uMaltz wabhala kuwo: "okungenani izinsuku ezingu-21."
Inganekwane yasheshe yamila: Izinsuku ezingama-21 zifushane ngokwanele ukuthi zingakhuthaza futhi zinde ngokwanele ukuba sikholweke. Ubani ongawuthandi umqondo wokushintsha impilo yakhe emavikini angu-3?
Ukuze wakhe umkhuba, udinga:
Okokuqala, ukuphindaphinda kokuphindaphinda kwayo: noma yimuphi umkhuba uqala ngesinyathelo sokuqala, isenzo («sow an act — uvuna umkhuba»), bese uphinda izikhathi eziningi; senza okuthile usuku nosuku, ngezinye izikhathi senza umzamo kithi, futhi ngokushesha noma kamuva kuba umkhuba wethu: kuba lula ukukwenza, umzamo omncane futhi omncane uyadingeka.
Okwesibili, imizwa eyakhayo: ukuze umkhuba wakheke, kufanele "uqiniswe" ngemizwelo emihle, inqubo yokubunjwa kwayo kufanele ibe yinto ekhululekile, akunakwenzeka ezimweni zomzabalazo ngokwakho, ukuvinjelwa kanye nemingcele, okungukuthi ngaphansi kwezimo zokucindezeleka.
Ekucindezelekeni, umuntu uvame "ukugoqa" ngokungazi abe ekuziphatheni okuvamile. Ngakho-ke, kuze kube yilapho ikhono eliwusizo selihlanganisiwe futhi ukuziphatha okusha akubanga umkhuba, ukucindezeleka kuyingozi "nokuphuka": yile ndlela esiyeka ngayo, ngokushesha nje lapho siqala, sidla kahle, noma senze i-gymnastics, noma sigijima ekuseni.
Lapho umkhuba uyinkimbinkimbi, unikeza injabulo encane, kuthatha isikhathi eside ukuthuthukisa. Uma umkhuba ulula, uphumelela kakhudlwana, futhi ujabulisa ngokwengeziwe, kulapho uzosheshe uzenzekele.
Ngakho-ke, isimo sethu somzwelo kulokho esifuna ukukwenza umkhuba wethu kubaluleke kakhulu: ukuvunyelwa, injabulo, isimo sobuso esijabulisayo, ukumamatheka. Isimo sengqondo esibi, ngokuphambene nalokho, sivimbela ukwakheka komkhuba, ngakho-ke, konke ukunganaki kwakho, ukunganeliseki kwakho, ukucasuka kufanele kususwe ngesikhathi. Ngenhlanhla, lokhu kungenzeka: isimo sethu sengqondo ngalokho okwenzekayo siyinto esingayishintsha noma nini!
Lokhu kungaba inkomba: uma sizizwa sicasukile, uma siqala ukuzithethisa noma ukuzigxeka, khona-ke senza okuthile okungalungile.
Singacabanga kusenesikhathi ngohlelo lokuklomelisa: senze uhlu lwezinto ezisijabulisayo futhi ezingaba imivuzo lapho siqinisa amakhono adingekayo awusizo.
Ekugcineni, akunandaba ngempela ukuthi kuthatha izinsuku ezingaki ukwenza umkhuba olungile. Enye into ebaluleke kakhulu: kunoma yikuphi Ungakwazi yini ukukwenza!