Incazelo yephupho: yilokhu okushiwo okuphindaphindwayo ngawe

Incazelo yephupho: yilokhu okushiwo okuphindaphindwayo ngawe

Psychology

Kuyabonakala ukuthi amaphupho akho achaza ukwesaba kwakho, izifiso zakho futhi futhi akhulume ngawe njengomuntu…

Incazelo yephupho: yilokhu okushiwo okuphindaphindwayo ngawe

Namuhla kusihlwa uphuphile, noma mhlawumbe bekuyiphupho elibi lokho obukade unakho futhi awukukhumbuli, ngoba into ejwayelekile kakhulu ukungakhumbuli obukade ukwenza. engacabangi ngenkathi ulele. Ubuwazi ukuthi isikhathi esiningi kuyizinkomba zokwesaba nezifiso zakho? Kwezinye izikhathi, esikhundleni salokho, ubuchopho bakho bucubungula isithombe esincane osibonile usuku lonke futhi ongasinakanga futhi usikhiqize futhi lapho uzama Ukulala. Konke okuphuphayo kunencazelo…

Ngakho-ke, futhi njengokuhamba kweminyaka ushintsha, amaphupho akho nawo. UMaría Jesús Palmer, isazi samaphupho nombhali we «Incazelo yemanuwali yawo wonke amaphupho», Iqinisekisa ukuthi kusebuntwaneni lapho amaphupho ehluke kakhulu kwezinye izigaba zokuphila. “Kuze kube yiminyaka eyisikhombisa noma eyisishiyagalombili, amaphupho ajwayele ukuba nokuxhumana okusondelene nezwe likamoya kanye nokuqukethwe okujulile kokungazi kwabo. Ngakho-ke, lapho abancane bekhuluma ngabangane abangabacabangi futhi bexoxa nabo, kungaba kalula ngezingqondo 'zezingelosi' abazikhumbula ngenjabulo futhi bakhumbule emidlalweni yabo ”.

Amathiphu okukhumbula kangcono amaphupho

Njengoba uchwepheshe uMaría Jesús Palmer eseqinisekisile, ukukhumbula amaphupho kungenzeka, yize kungafinyelelwa ngaso sonke isikhathi. «Indaba yamaphupho intekenteke futhi icashile kangangokuba uma uma sivula amehlo into yokuqala esiyenzayo ukubuka isikhathi noma ukugxilisa imicabango yethu enkambisweni yansuku zonke, kuyenzeka ukuthi ingqondo enengqondo ibuse konke ukunakwa futhi inkumbulo yephupho iyahwamuka. Sizosala nomuzwa ongacacile wokuthi siphuphe okuthile okunelukuluku futhi mhlawumbe okuthokozisayo, kepha sesizokwazi ukungakwazi ukuthi bekuyini “, uyachaza, yingakho enze uhlu oluncane lwezincomo ukuze ung ulahlekelwe yimininingwane ebalulekile evame ukungena emaphusheni akho

- «Into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukufuna ukukhumbula: khuluma ngokuzwakalayo injongo nentando ye ngifuna ukukhumbula abaphuphile», Uthi umbhali we« Manual of Izincazelo zawo wonke amaphupho ».

- Siza ukuphuza a ingilazi yamanzi noma amabili ngaphambi kokulala.

- «I ukuxhumana nokuquleka lapho, ngaphambi kokulala, amaphupho wangaphambilini asakhunjulwa ekhanda futhi kufunwa incazelo yawo. Njengoba nje kuyisikhuthazo esihle sokukhumbula lokho okuphuphile, funda okuthile ngokuguquguquka kwamaphupho ngaphambi kokulala, ”kusho uMaría Jesús Palmer.

Lapho la maphupho ekhunjulwa lapho uvuka, bhala phansi iphupho bese uzama (ngokuzenzekelayo) ukunikeza iphupho isihloko.

Phupha ngezimbali

Ezinye zibangelwa ukungezwani komzimba nezinye ngoba zithanda izimbali, kepha lezi zidalwa eziphilayo ziyavela ziphindelela amaphupho abantu abaningi. Njengoba uMaría Jesús Palmer evuma, izimbali zifanekisela injabulo nobuhle, zikhuluma ngakho ugqozi lokudala nezikhathi ezijabulisayo, ikakhulukazi uma emaphusheni sizibona sikha izimbali engadini.

«Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma uphupha izimbali zezimbali, noma ngabe ziyatholwa noma zinikezwa, izimbali zifanekisela ukuthandwa, impumelelo nokuqashelwa, ngaphandle kwalapho kwenzeka khona izimbali ezimnyama kakhulu noma ezimnyama, ngoba kuleli phupho iphupho lixwayisa ngomona nokuthopha okungamanga okuvela kubantu abasondelene ", kuchaza uchwepheshe.

Ngokusobala ngaphakathi kwe- izimbali ezahlukahlukene kugcizelela uphawu lweroses. «Uma zimhlophe noma zibomvana, zimele ukugcwaliseka ngokomzwelo ngemuva kokunqoba indlela yameva (umugqa omubi). Futhi uma zibomvu, zengeza ukusondela kothando olunothando, "usho kanje.

Phupha ngezilwane

Yize kungenzeki ukuchaza incazelo yesilwane ngasinye ebusweni bomhlaba, uMaría Jesús Palmer uzihlukanisa ngokusobala ezinye zazo, ngoba azichazi ubuntu bethu kuphela, kodwa futhi nalokho abekade bexwayisa ngakho… Izilwane ziphuphe zimelela izimfanelo zazo eziziveza nokuthi sesivele sizibandakanye ekuqulekeni okuhlangene. Isibonelo, yena impungushe ifanekisela ubuqili, ibhere, amandla, idlozi ukonga, imbuzi ukusangana, inja ukuthembeka… ».

Wake waphupha izinyoka? Inencazelo eminingi: kwesinye isikhathi ifanekisela ukuhlakanipha nokoma kolwazi, kwesinye isikhathi ukukhohlisa nenkohliso, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ulimi olunenhlebo lokuhleba.

Inkunzi ngesinye sezilwane ezivame kakhulu. «Idlala indawo ye- umlandeli ongapheli, okwenza ophuphayo abaleke, afihle futhi alole izinsiza kusebenza ukuze abalekele kuye. «Incazelo yaleli phupho ikhombisa ukuthi kukhona ukukhathazeka okucindezelayo futhi kufanele sithathe umthwalo wazo (yingakho inkulumo edumile ethi« thatha inkunzi ngezimpondo ») futhi sifune izixazululo. Iphinde imele i- ukhungathekile ngokuhlukunyezwa empilweni yangempela», Iveza umbhali nesazi sephupho.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, "izimbungulu" ezincane ezinjengezinambuzane yizo ezivela emaphusheni akho, zifika zizomemezela ngesifo esithile sokutholwa, futhi izicabucabu zixwayisa ngezicupho noma izinkohliso ezilukwayo ezisizungezile, njengoba kuqinisekiswa UMaría Jesús Palmer.

Phupha ngabantu abadumile

Ngubani ongamhloniphi umuntu odumile futhi ambheke njengesithixo? Abaculi, abalingisi nabalingisi bangubuso obaziwa kakhulu futhi ezikhathini eziningi umuntu uzizwa ekhonjwe ngendima abayidlalile kwifilimu noma kuthelevishini. UMaría Jesús Palmer ukutshela lokho imvamisa amaphupho avuzayo futhi amnandi, ikakhulukazi uma ilingana nendima yeqhawe noma izigcawu zothando zabelwana, kujwayelekile futhi.

Iphupho lamanzi

Uma ulwandle, imvula, imifula, amachibi okubhukuda, amanzi afuywayo avela emaphusheni akho aphindaphindiwe… loluphawu lwendawo yonke lunokuningi okufanele likutshele khona. «Uma uphupha amanzi aguqubele noma anenkinga, iveza imizwa eguqukile engathinta nempilo yakho. Amanzi acwebile noma awela mahhala amemezela Ngithola izikhathi ezimnandi nezijabulisayo, ngenkathi amagagasi angenakugwenywa, isikebhe esiginqika noma igagasi elikhuphuka futhi limanzise labo abaphuphayo lifanekisela lokho ngqo: ukuthi kufanele 'ube manzi' nokuthi, uthanda noma ungathandi, sekuyisikhathi sokuzibophezela nezibopho ”, kuchaza uchwepheshe.

Ukuphupha ngokufa komuntu osondelene naye

«Ukufa emaphusheni imvamisa kuyinkomba yokuthi kunezinguquko ezinkulu eziqhubekayo. Izinguquko ezinjengalezo ezimele, isibonelo, ukudlula kusuka ebuntwaneni kuye ebusheni, bese kuba yintsha, ukuvuthwa noma ukuguga. Iphinde ithethelele inkolelo yakudala ethi: uma uphupha ngokufa kothile, unweba impilo yakhe. Yebo, iphupho likhombisa ukuthi lowo muntu ombona efa ngandlela thile wakhe impilo yakhe kabusha, azivuselele futhi, ekugcineni, aphile isikhathi eside, ”kusho uchwepheshe.

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