Mayelana nezilwane ezifuywayo: ingabe umnikazi wenja uhlala eyinombolo yokuqala?

Ingabe inja yakho ifuna ngempela ukuchitha isikhathi nawe hhayi nomunye umuntu? Wonke umuntu uyathanda ukucabanga ukuthi lokhu kunjalo, kodwa ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi izinto ziyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu.

Ucwaningo seluvele lusungule ukuthi phambi komnikazi wabo, izinja zisebenzisana kakhulu nezinto futhi zihlola igumbi kunokuba kube khona umuntu ongamazi. Futhi-ke, ubonile ukuthi ngemuva kokuhlukana, izilwane ezifuywayo zibingelela abanikazi bazo isikhathi eside nangentshiseko eyengeziwe kunabantu abangabazi.

Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi indlela izinja eziziphatha ngayo kubanikazi bazo kanye nabantu abangabazi ingaba nesimo kanye nemvelo.

Abacwaningi baseFlorida benze isilingo lapho bebona ukuthi izinja ezifuywayo zingathanda ukuxhumana nobani ezimeni ezahlukahlukene - nomnikazi noma umuntu ongamazi.

Iqembu elilodwa lezinja kwakudingeka lixhumane nomnikazi noma umfokazi endaweni evamile - ekamelweni elisendlini yabo. Elinye iqembu lakhetha phakathi kokuxhumana nomnikazi noma umuntu ongamazi endaweni angayazi. Izinja zazikhululekile ukwenza noma yini eziyifunayo; uma besondela kumuntu, wayebaphulula isikhathi esafuna ngaso.

Iyini imiphumela? Kuvele ukuthi izinja zingenza ukukhetha okuhlukile kuye ngesimo!

Umnikazi ungaphezu kwakho konke

Endaweni engaziwa, izinja zichitha isikhathi esiningi nomnikazi wazo - cishe u-80%. Kodwa-ke, endaweni ejwayelekile, njengoba ucwaningo lubonisile, bakhetha ukuchitha isikhathi sabo esiningi - cishe u-70% - bexoxa nabantu abangabazi.

Ingabe kufanele ucasulwe ukuthi awuhlali usendaweni yokuqala esilwaneni sakho? Mhlawumbe akunjalo, kusho umbhali ohola ucwaningo u-Erica Feuerbacher, manje osengumsizi kaprofesa wokuziphatha kwezilwane ezifuywayo kanye nenhlalakahle eVirginia Tech.

"Lapho inja izithola isesimweni esicindezelayo, endaweni engayijwayele, umnikazi ubaluleke kakhulu kuyo - ngakho-ke ngesilwane sakho esifuywayo usahlala unombolo yokuqala."

Julie Hecht, Ph.D. eCity University of New York, iphawula ukuthi lolu cwaningo “luhlanganisa inkimbinkimbi yolwazi mayelana nendlela izimo nezimo ezizungezile ezingathonya ngayo ukuziphatha kwenja, lokho okuthandayo, nokukhetha kwayo.”

“Ezindaweni ezintsha noma ngezikhathi zokungaphatheki kahle, izinja zivame ukufuna abanikazi bazo. Lapho izinja zizizwa zikhululekile, zivame ukuxhumana nabantu ezingabazi. Abantu abahlala nezinja bangazibukela bona izilwane ezifuywayo futhi bakubone lokhu kuziphatha!”

Ongaziwa akayena unomphela

U-Feuerbacher, umbhali oholayo wocwaningo, uyavuma ukuthi endaweni ejwayelekile futhi lapho kukhona umnikazi, inja cishe izozizwa iphephile futhi ikhululekile ngokwanele ukuba inqume ukuhlangana nomuntu ongamazi.

“Yize singakawuhloli lo mqondo, ngicabanga ukuthi isiphetho esiphusile,” kusho uFeuerbach.

Ucwaningo luphinde lwahlola ukuthi izinja zokukhosela nezinja ezifuywayo zihlangana kanjani nabantu ababili abangabazi ngesikhathi esisodwa. Bonke bavuna oyedwa kuphela kwabangaziwa, nakuba ochwepheshe bengazi ukuthi yini imbangela yalokhu kuziphatha.

Olunye ucwaningo lwabonisa ukuthi izinja zokukhosela ziqala ukuphatha umuntu ngendlela ehlukile kunomuntu ongamazi omusha ngemva nje kokuhlangana okuthathu okuyimizuzu eyi-10.

Ngakho-ke, uma ungathanda ukuthatha inja eyayinomnikazi ohlukile ngaphambili, awunakukhathazeka ngakho. Nakuba beye babhekana nokwehlukana okunzima nomnikazi kanye nokulahlekelwa umuzi wabo, bakha ubuhlobo obusha nabantu.

“Kokubili ukuhlukana nomnikazi nokuba sendaweni yokukhosela kuyizimo ezicindezela kakhulu izinja, kodwa abukho ubufakazi bokuthi izinja zikhumbula amadala azo lapho zithola ikhaya elisha,” kusho uFeuerbach.

Ungangabazi uma ufuna ukuthatha inja endaweni yokukhosela. Nakanjani uzosondelana, futhi izokubona njengenkosi yayo.

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